Need to vent!

RachelB104 · November 2014

DH has been at an all day bachelor party. Dss 8yrs is here with streap throat and diarrhea; he just pooped in his pants! This morning DH said he would be home for 6 tonight. They are just sitting down to eat and an hour away and when I texted DH about dss he said "we just sat down to eat, I'm going to have a couple of drinks, I'll keep you posted." I'm freaking aggravated! Not to mention LO kept me up all night for the last two nights and has been super fussy and gassy today. Yes I think DH deserved a day off but not a day when the dss is sick and LO is requiring all day holding.

RachelB104 · November 2014

It's now 7:50 and I haven't heard a word! Good news LO is finally sleeping after not getting a decent nap all day. I left dss's poopy pants for DH to deal with. Dss is resting in bed and was able to eat a little soup and crackers. I'd tell DH to come home but there is no point now that the house is finally settled.

kaitm22 · November 2014

I would be so annoyed!

Peedy · November 2014

A bachelor party is such an important event.. I'm sorry you're having a tough day, but I think he gets a pass on this one..

Raclla · November 2014

In hindsight, he should have arranged something else for dss today.
Also, an all day bachelor party seems excessive.
I'd be pissed at his lack of concern for dss.

Most bachelor parties have a few laughs, but on a scale of memorial events, it's usually pretty low.

RachelB104 · November 2014

I don't mind that he went so much as the fact that he keeps pushing the time back after all week saying he didn't want to stay out late. I didn't ask him to come home bc I kept thinking he would be leaving soon. And yes it would have been great if he could have arranged something for dss like asking biomom since she doesn't have a 2 month old to worry about. We do every other week so it's not like he would be giving up a weekend and not seeing him for another 2 weeks.

Elaina22 · November 2014

@RachelB104‌ I agree. I don't mind H going out, but when he is much later than expected I get very frustrated. Hopefully LO sleeps well and DSS starts feeling better!

Raclla · November 2014

Not sticking with the plan is a big pet peeve of mine.

Luciana428 · November 2014

We didn't have a bachelor or bachelorette party because we just don't see the point. I know it's a huge deal for some, but definitely not us! In conclusion, family trumps booze/hanging/nonsense so I would be pissed too! Hope he makes it to up to you!

RachelB104 · November 2014

So update. At 8:10 one of the guys was supposed to pick up and bring him to his car. 2.5 hours later he wasn't home, no text messages, or phone calls I had to text him. he was still at the bar stuck bc he didn't want to spend $ on a cab and everyone else seemed like they were about to leave anyway and someone would again bring him to his car. Now 2 more hours from that text and he still isn't home. I don't want to hear sh!t from him about not be able to take care of dss or help with LO today bc he is tired!

Venus04 · November 2014

RachelB104 said:
So update. At 8:10 one of the guys was supposed to pick up and bring him to his car. 2.5 hours later he wasn't home, no text messages, or phone calls I had to text him. he was still at the bar stuck bc he didn't want to spend $ on a cab and everyone else seemed like they were about to leave anyway and someone would again bring him to his car. Now 2 more hours from that text and he still isn't home. I don't want to hear sh!t from him about not be able to take care of dss or help with LO today bc he is tired!

Oh fuck. That dude would lose his left testicle when he came home if it were my DH. You have permission to rail on him. You went above and beyond by taking care of a sick kid and newborn so he could go party. But not all day. And not all night. And not without communicating appropriately. And not without sticking to the plan to be home by a certain time. That is bullshit!

Dawn5481 · November 2014

Venus04 said:

RachelB104 said:
So update. At 8:10 one of the guys was supposed to pick up and bring him to his car. 2.5 hours later he wasn't home, no text messages, or phone calls I had to text him. he was still at the bar stuck bc he didn't want to spend $ on a cab and everyone else seemed like they were about to leave anyway and someone would again bring him to his car. Now 2 more hours from that text and he still isn't home. I don't want to hear sh!t from him about not be able to take care of dss or help with LO today bc he is tired!
Oh fuck. That dude would lose his left testicle when he came home if it were my DH. You have permission to rail on him. You went above and beyond by taking care of a sick kid and newborn so he could go party. But not all day. And not all night. And not without communicating appropriately. And not without sticking to the plan to be home by a certain time. That is bullshit!

This. Probably both testicles. I'd also torture him if he has a hangover. Like shock collar around the next, don't even think about falling asleep, torture.

RachelB104 · November 2014

So HD got home sometime after 2:30am. I checked the couch at LO's last feeding no HD and just checked the out again (it's now just after 5:30am) and he's there. So at least 3.5 hours after the last text he dragged his sorry butt home. Just wait till LO is up and ready for the day; he will have no where to hide.

cachoque · November 2014

Haha, yeah I can stand that crap - being strung along I mean! Either come home when you say you are or just say you're going all night & let's go ahead & discuss what I get in return! LOL Part of me says leave for the spa & return the favor today!

RachelB104 · November 2014

I wish I could take a day myself but I don't trust DH to be attentive enough with a sick dss. I think next weekend when we just have LO is mani/pedi time. DH hasn't been left home alone with LO longer than 30 minutes or in charge of LO while I showered longer than an hour or so. Time for a longer test.

RachelB104 · November 2014

He slept on the couch with a hard throw pillow and small blanket. Smart on his part bc LO sleeps in our room. Silent treatment and avoidance so far; don't want to start anything with dss around. Let dss jump on him to wake him up. I'll update as the day goes.

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RachelB104 · November 2014

@lappyfoinker‌ yes stepson had diarrhea. Guess DH didn't want to call the ex and say "son is sick with streap throat and diarrhea but I want to go out and party so can you keep him"
Anyway just got back from the store; I was gone all of 30 minutes but LO cried the whole time I was gone. I hate that LO was fussy but that's the least HD deserves after yesterday. Still haven't had it out yet...

RachelB104 · November 2014

@JoShan1719‌ and @Boblyn‌ yall are cracking me up. Thanks for the mood lifters

Still nothing has happened yet. I'm to exhausted for this chapter. Think I going to wait this one out in silence and laundry. DH better check the closet and make sure he has clothes for work tomorrow.

Venus04 · November 2014

lappyfoinker said:
Lord have mercy I'd be pissed and there is no way in hell I'd keep my mouth shut about it. Sounds to me he just wanted to stay out and keep drinkin and thats really shitty he still did that after he found out what was goin on at home. Is it your step son that has diarrhea?

This. I'd kick him when I woke up. Like, I'd literally kick him awake and say, "Get your ass up. This is how this shit is going to go down. For the next week, you're going to do as I say, when I say. And if, and only if, I'm 100% happy, will I not kick your ass out of this house. I am not your bitch. If you wanna show me zero respect, I'll be your huckleberry. Now get in the car and go get me breakfast. You will come back with bagels and orange juice for me. And jack shit for yourself. When you return, I'll have a list of chores you will complete one by one to my satisfaction." Then I'd kick him again if he wasn't already on his feet.

Eena1242 · November 2014

*Note to self: don't piss of @Venus04‌. Lol!

OP, I hope you make this up to yourself somehow! At least take a bubble bath or something!

RachelB104 · November 2014

Now he's just avoiding confrontation; he is on the couch again tonight and again without a real pillow or blanket.
Definitely getting my mani/pedi Saturday and maybe some clothes shopping too. I have a small freezer stash so DH should be good with LO for a few hours. (DH hasn't been alone with LO for longer than 30 minutes).

Luciana428 · November 2014

RachelB104 said:
Now he's just avoiding confrontation; he is on the couch again tonight and again without a real pillow or blanket.
Definitely getting my mani/pedi Saturday and maybe some clothes shopping too. I have a small freezer stash so DH should be good with LO for a few hours. (DH hasn't been alone with LO for longer than 30 minutes).

You are too kind. In my house, this would be the beginning to WWIII. I'm talking about people being tortured, bombs going off, scrounging for rations and definitely some casualties.

jenniferurs · November 2014

Don't even get me started on bachelor parties. Sure, they're a fun rite of passage, but they should never trump things going on in the home. When we got engaged, my husband and I agreed to have one night bachelor/bachelorette parties. That was, until his friends pressured him into something more. He ended up agreeing to spend the entire weekend at a hotel 30 minutes away, which wasn't a big deal until I unexpectedly got pregnant and ended up with hyperemesis. I was so sick during the first trimester (throwing up 6-8 times a day for about 20-30 minutes at a time) that I had to quit my job, and I wasn't so excited about being alone for an entire weekend. So when my husband not only came home 5 hours after he promised that Sunday morning, but with a credit card bill in the hundreds after paying for the hotel and bottles at a club, I may or may not have taken a knife to his PlayStation. Then when I wasn't convinced it was dead, despite multiple stab wounds, I may or may not have drowned it in our pool.

Hormones, yo.

RachelB104 · November 2014

Well I finally ripped him a new one last night. He tried "I understand" no obviously you don't or you would have been home. Then the excuses "I didn't want to ask them to go out of the way to bring me back to my truck" Really!?! The truck you drove down in by yourself so you wouldn't get stuck! You were out with a bunch of grown ass men, most of whom have kids. You should have spoken up and been responsible. Then "Mike was going to bring me to my truck, but was drunk when he got to the second bar and I figured by then you and the kids were in bed" So you didn't call to see if I still needed you to come home (the Mike incident was at 8 so he could have been home by 9). And now saying you only had 4 beers all night so you didn't spend that much money; well ya dumb ass that means you had the $20 bucks it would have cost to take a cab from the bar to your truck.
Anyway in the end his verbal beat down intensified with every sad excuse he had until the ultimate admittance that he was wrong; and DH hates to admit he is ever wrong.
@jenniferurs love the play station move. Would have loved to do that to the xbox but 1) LO was in the room and while he wouldn't understand I would have felt bad. 2) we don't have a pool. 3) I use it as a dvd player so I would be screwing myself too.
Anyway all is not forgiven; I require a few more days of groveling; at least until I'm not mad anymore.

lookame3639 · November 2014

I'd call at 8 pm
Me "Are you having fun?"
him "yeah"
Me "oh wonderful! Make it worth it because you'll make it worth it for me! And the later your out the more I'll enjoy everything you do for me without complaints until you've worked off your night of fun! Have fun honey!"

By that time my DH would be giving me text updates because he knows that he's crossed a line and he hates crossing that line...it's not pretty when that line is crossed.

I'd totally go ape shit on the ps3 but then he'd use that as an excuse to get a ps4 and I'd rather sell a game system and get some money that to break it

jenniferurs · November 2014

Oh there was no logic in the PlayStation move, especially since 1) I use it just as much as he, and 2) we already had a PS4 as well. I was just making a statement. Namely that I was insane.

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