Baby Blues

BridgetThoams · November 2014

Anyone else having a tough time with the baby blues?

BridgetThoams · November 2014

Having a history of anxiety and depression I knew I was at a greater risk, but didn't really think it would happen to me! I find myself crying all the time over the littlest things. I just feel very alone right now even though I'm surrounded by people who love and support me. I feel guilty for feeling sad while I hold the most amazing little boy in my arms! I just don't know what to do with myself right now.

ssstephanie214 · November 2014

How many days in are you? My biggest thing right now is anxiety. Feel like I can't get organized or relaxed. I'll try to communicate with my fiance, or people around me, and I do not make any sense. Really anxious about keeping the baby healthy.

BridgetThoams · November 2014

9 days in!

BridgetThoams · November 2014

Thats exactly it!!! I feel alone! There are also three other adults living here, one of which is Hubby. But I still feel like everything is on my shoulders alone!

MrsC430 · November 2014

Though I don't have any professional advice to give, I do want to tell you that you aren't alone, and I'm sending huge hugs.

I'm starting to come out of the "baby blues" now (almost 2 weeks PP). One episode that sticks out - the first day home from the hospital, I had a sob fest in the shower. Questioning if I was cut out for taking care of twins, and thinking "what the hell have I done?!" I felt guilty for feeling that way, as it took us multiple IVF attempts to get pregnant. I felt moody & scared that DH & I would never have "normalcy" again.

Every day has gotten significantly better for me, and I hope it gets easier for you soon. Please be good to yourself! Do you have family/friends close by who can help? Even if it's just for an hour or two. When I've had extra hands here, things like being able to take a shower in peace, nap, do my hair, run out alone for an errand, and sneaking out for a lunch date w/ my DH have made a big difference.

Thinking of you, and if you ever need to vent, please feel free to PM me!

PennyLane26 · November 2014

(((hugs))) I remember, after bringing DD home, feeling like while DH was a great Dad and my mother was also a great help, there was no one left to care for me. It sounds so childish, but it was a lonely moment. I had a major meltdown. The realization that I was the primary provider for DD was very overwhelming. You are not alone!

That being said, don't hesitate to call your doctor if you are feeling too anxious or sad… they can offer so many great resources!!

mamatohne · November 2014

@BridgetThoams‌ this was me when I brought home my son. This time around has been slightly easier but I still cry alot. Just know you are not alone. It's hard being a mommy!

akatiegrl · November 2014

you are not alone... i definitely feel those baby blues. sigh.

my mom left today (she'd been with me since we brought the baby home) and i just keep crying. i've been a mess all afternoon. rationally i know she wasn't actually doing that much, and that i'm doing a great job, and i'm going to be okay. but emotionally i just feel so overwhelmed!

and i know my husband is here to support me and be my partner, but i just feel so alone in all this.

belmont1785 · November 2014

PennyLane26 said:
(((hugs))) I remember, after bringing DD home, feeling like while DH was a great Dad and my mother was also a great help, there was no one left to care for me. It sounds so childish, but it was a lonely moment. I had a major meltdown. The realization that I was the primary provider for DD was very overwhelming. You are not alone!

That being said, don't hesitate to call your doctor if you are feeling too anxious or sad… they can offer so many great resources!!

I could have wrote this word for word. Hubby is a great daddy and all the help we are getting is amazing from family and friends but I feel like there's no one taking care of me. And I kind of feel like LO took my spot with my husband. Which I know isn't true but he is so in love with her and she's getting literally all of his attention right now. I never had to compete with anyone before. I feel so pathetic saying that. But it's true.

scarlet3egonias · November 2014

belmont1785 said:

(((hugs))) I remember, after bringing DD home, feeling like while DH was a great Dad and my mother was also a great help, there was no one left to care for me. It sounds so childish, but it was a lonely moment. I had a major meltdown. The realization that I was the primary provider for DD was very overwhelming. You are not alone!

That being said, don't hesitate to call your doctor if you are feeling too anxious or sad… they can offer so many great resources!!
I could have wrote this word for word. Hubby is a great daddy and all the help we are getting is amazing from family and friends but I feel like there's no one taking care of me.

+1 here. 9 days in as well. Just started today and I'm hoping its just a bad day. No advice but wanted to let you know that you aren't alone.

kaimee27 · November 2014

I'm so glad you posted this thread! LO is still on the inside, but I'm definitely worried about PPD/baby blues. I have a family history of depression/anxiety in a big way, and have struggled with this myself-nothing that I've had to have meds for, but I know I'm in a higher risk category. DH has already told me that he's going to be on high alert for any signs that I'm struggling. I think that this will definitely help. Don't try to hide how you are feeling from you SO or family. They can't help if they don't know what you're feeling! There is no shame in asking for help, and I would definitely recommend talking to your doctor about how you are feeling. There are a lot of resources-medical and non-medical that can make a big difference! ((Hugs)) to you mama!

jlove253 · November 2014

After I had d I felt very similarly to @MrsC430‌ an I only had one baby! Baby blues sucks hard; just keep an eye on yourself. If you are feeling really low or feel like you can't shake it mention it to your dr. These sad feelings are nothing to feel ashamed about.

BridgetThoams · November 2014

Thank you all so much for the love and support!!!!

I didn't make this thread just for me though! I made this thread with the intentions of giving all the ladies dealing with similar feelings a place to vent and just talk about what they are dealing with!

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