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Update: Separating FIL from DH's boss

emja0214emja0214 member
edited November 2014 in January 2013 Moms
**Update: Thank you so much for your support ladies. I needed it from somewhere. DH works in the printing world and whenever I try to talk to him about it he just says this is how it is. They can go through periods of tons of jobs and then have slower periods. I understand that, it just has never been this bad for this long before. On a better note we were able to go to my friends wedding last night and had a great time together. My FIL let DH go into work at 7 this morning instead of 5, which is better than nothing. The idea came from my FIL too, so that was nice of him. I just have to hope things slow down sometime soon.

As I posted a month ago DH has been working ridiculous hours, 12 hour days 6-7 days a week. It has not slowed down and I am a month away from my due date. I am tired, uncomfortable, in pain, and honestly I am lonely. I can't tell you how many plans have been cancelled due to this, including 3 date nights. The other tough part is my FIL is DH's boss. I am having a terrible time separating this in my head and not being mad with my FIL. I am so glad we do not have plans with my in laws this weekend, I do not want to see my FIL. He always makes a comment about how I must be happy with all the extra money DH is making with all this overtime. I usually just laugh and politely say how it would be better to have him home. I am not so sure I could be so polite this time.
We have a wedding to go to tonight and DH was supposed to finally be off tomorrow. DD is staying at my parents all night so we were supposed to be able to enjoy the wedding kid free and then sleep in tomorrow and have a nice relaxing morning without being woken up early, go to my next Dr.'s appointment, and then pick up DD. Once again those plans are thrown away. DH has to work again at 5 tomorrow morning. So once again I am waking up alone and going to the doctor alone. I have tried to hold it together but last night I lost it. I could not stop crying, which only caused tension between DH and me. Maybe it is my hormones and I am over reacting in my emotions? I don't know.
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  • martha919martha919 member
    Girl, I feel you. DH works insane hours too and it drives me nuts (he could cut back, but doesn't), but the FIL and pregnancy issues put it over the edge and I think I'd lose my mind! Here's hoping you and your H get some good time together soon. :-(
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  • littleheavenlittleheaven member
    that stinks...i think i'd have a hard time separating the 2 too...maybe fil thinks he's doing dh a favor by giving him more hours to earn over time with the new baby on the way?
    i hope things quiet down soon and your dh is home more often with you....
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  • jobiannjobiann member
    It is very difficult to separate it. My H is an agent in his father's insurance agency that someday he will take over. In the mean time, although my FIL is an incredible teacher and mentor, he often handles things badly when it comes to my H. I know it's because he expects a certain level of production out of him and he just wants him to be the best he can be. But I just wish my FIL would remember why he didn't work for his own father's agency in his younger years...because they butted heads too much.

    It's very difficult. Hang in there, I'm sure he is doing the best he can under the circumstances.

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  • OhBaby+2013OhBaby+2013 member
    Hang in there. My DH was working similar hours until recently. It was awful! And I'm also in full hormone mode so I can imagine how difficult this is for you. Not sure if you've talked to your DH about it, but don't keep it bottled up. Maybe explain how important certain things are and tell him if he wants to work crazy hours that's ok but that you get to call trump when you need him. Good luck!
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  • ReeceFamilyReeceFamily member
    You are a very patient woman, no wonder you have issues with FIL. Is this something that will improve over time? It doesn't sound good for your marriage or family, it's sad that FIL is so blind to that.
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  • OhBaby+2013OhBaby+2013 member
    Glad to hear you guys had some fun last night! Hopefully it will get better soon.
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