Anyone watch Vanderpump Rules?

rmaurer08 · November 2014

I know it's so trashy and I think 98% of the cast are just a bunch of ho's (hott ho's but ho's nonetheless.) but I'm addicted to it! This 3rd season is just rehashing the same drama as always with slightly different faces but I love it! Full guilty pleasure confession- if it's on Bravo and it's not a cooking show, it's on my DVR. :-) I'm finishing a book for work and then I'm Buying Andy Cohen's new book! Most Talkative was amazballs. Anyone else loving it?!

redneckmomma25 · November 2014

Have you gone back to check any of the other posts you have ever started on this forum?

rmaurer08 · November 2014

Yes, and I've commented back on a couple of them. If you are speaking in response to the "seriously though" (which I'm assuming you are because you just.commented on it) thread, I really didn't find it necessary to reply back to the other comments. No sense in dragging out something that was obviously painful for everyone else. :-)

ally3242 · November 2014

redneckmomma25 said:

Have you gone back to check any of the other posts you have ever started on this forum?

6 threads and 10 whole replies ever...

rmaurer08 · November 2014

I'm so sorry ladies! I've read other posts, I comment when there aren't already dozens of comments listing the same thing I think, I post things that I want to post (because it's a public forum, which is exactly why you all can respond however you want)... I guess I just don't get why if you can't stand my posts you continue to read them and comment on them. I scroll pasts the posts that I don't think I'll care about because it just seems like a waste of my time otherwise. Help me out here. Honestly, what should I post that isn't useless and asinine? There are other posts like this one. What am I doing wrong that others aren't? (Actual question there.) I get that my 3 year olds for should have apparently been in a Monday Bitch Fest post... I've since seen there's a TMI Tuesday post (haven't violated anything there...) and I missed that there was a product thread already started when I asked about fetal dopplers, but still received helpful info anyway. So what can I positively contribute without getting this forums version of "Bye Felicia!"?

donnamartingraduates93 · November 2014

Dammit. I'm so conflicted. On one hand it's definitely shitty to crank out threads but not participate in ones that you haven't personally started. On the other, I DO watch Vanderpump Rules (and love it), so the title called to me.

ally3242 · November 2014

You can positively contribute support toward others. And I'm not saying you have not at some point in the past. But when you started this thread you literally had almost as many threads created as you had replies to others in this community. And you're right, this is a public forum and you can post whatever you feel like posting but when you aren't an active contributor to this community, these nonsensical posts about Vanderpump Rules and toddler tantrums make you look like a SS.

rmaurer08 · November 2014

Thanks for the replies ladies. Sorry I don't comment that often on others posts. Honestly, I'm just not on here that often and when I am, it seems like anything I would want to say has already been said 100 times by others. I'll try to be more aware. I will say that there seem to be a lot of "rules" (both written and implied) with these boards. It really is just something I occasionally look at before I fall asleep at night. I've been more active lately because anxiety is keeping me awake. :-( (Should I have pre-labeled that sentence "Warning- AW" or can we let that slide? ;-) )

theinvadermothership · November 2014

It's fine that you only read before bed, but you've made as many posts as comments and like... where's the support? It's not hard to take some time and actually comment on other people's posts instead of making your own all the time. You really just look selfish and stuck up. You want the benefits of this community but you don't want to do any work... and that pisses me off bc we deserve a lot more than a special snowflake that just wants her questions answered. There's google and pregnancy books for a reason. Perhaps you should try it if you aren't going to fairly participate.

ally3242 · November 2014

Swoon13 said:

rmaurer08 said:
I guess I just don't get why if you can't stand my posts you continue to read them and comment on them. I scroll pasts the posts that I don't think I'll care about because it just seems like a waste of my time otherwise. Help me out here.
Read what you wrote there again because the answer is within what you said.

You said you scroll past posts that you don't care about because it's a waste of your time.

So, loss posts, limbo posts, intros, joyful news and all the other posts that involve real women experiencing very real trauma, fear, pain and joy. You scroll past them because they don't directly impact you. And you wonder why we aren't welcoming you with open arms?

You post shallow, self-absorbed, useless things, ignoring the real issues going on and yet you expect what? Friendship? Hair-pets? Give us a fucking break. You aren't a regular because you self admittedly aren't around enough, and you don't engage in anything but a superficial level of interaction and it's always on your terms. News flash, your life isn't that interesting. What you watch on tv isn't interesting. Your weird expectations of your toddler and her inevitable meltdown because of them are not that interesting. You get back what you put in. Garbage in, garbage out. It's simple.

If you can't be fucking bothered to give a shit about anyone else's posts but your own why the fuck do you expect any of us to give a shit about yours?

Jesus Christ, buy yourself some self awareness already.

Preach!

rmaurer08 · November 2014

Well I guess I should have expanded on when I meant when I said I scroll past it if I don't think I'll care about it... 1) if it mentions loss, I keep scrolling. I don't talk about that side of my life with anyone but my husband because some wounds and fears are too raw and too realistic for me to willing jump on a thread. I fully understand that those women need all kinds of support, more than I can provide. I'm sorry if that is offensive to you, but for the health of my miracle baby inside of me and my own heart, I just don't care what you think about that. If that makes me terrible, then I'm owning it. Surely all of you have experienced something in your lives that is just too painful to revisit, correct? I mean, we are all real women living in the real world.
2) if the title lends itself to something that could have been googled or read in a pregnancy book (and oh boy does that seem common!) I keep scrolling.
3) if there are dozens upon dozens of the same respond that I was going to offer, I don't reply.
I didn't start coming to the community section until recently so I missed 99% of the intros.
I don't stick around when things turn crazy on the reply's because judging from the other posts I read, that seems to anger everyone even more if OP responds! I agree some of those ladies just seemed ignorant in their replies, but I also feel like for some reason, once you are angered by a poster, they go on your black list. From that point on, it seems anything they post is not received well.
I didn't make this post to instantly be BFF's with anyone, I was just looking for friendly conversation starters. (Which is how things work in the real world...) and I really want to post something snarky about how my life is very interesting, which is why I don't have a lot of time to spend on here. I know you don't know that though because we all admit you don't know me (at my own fault). But for that reason, why would you make an uneducated comment that tears down saying my life isn't interesting? I make one post on my awesome toddler having a bad moment and you assume I have weird expectations of her. I'll keep anything like that to the Monday post in future. As far as what I watch on TV, @Swoon13‌, some of your friends on here love it too so obviously it is interesting to at least a couple if others.
So what else do we need to hash out here? I've already stated I'll be more involved in other posts.

theinvadermothership · November 2014

So your life is so interesting. Cool. Mine is too. And stressful. And ever changing. But the difference between you and me is i never once questioned whether i belonged to this community bc i contribute when i can. Sure i have more flexibility in my life right now that allows me contribute more, but that's the difference. I do contribute. I do my best to say I'm sorry in loss threads. I try and give general advice, even if it's a really simple google search.

But bc you don't feel the need to contribute and talk to these other women, we don't get to know you and you don't get to know us. There are some women whom i know better than others, just bc I've been able to be in chatrooms with them or actually read as much as i can in WTF Mondays or FFFC and SEE their stories. What are their struggles? What did they brag about in bragfest? I read more than i post. It isn't always about me. And when i am up at 3 in the morning with insomnia, i go back and read those threads that seem daunting bc people are actively posting.

I also had a good laugh about how you scroll past so many threads that are easy to google yet i recall at least 2 of your posts were exactly that... in fact i vaguely recall how you told us you were going to post whatever you despite disrupting our community bc you don't have time to google... just like you don't have time to be there for any of us. And it's selfish and rude and it pisses me ofd bc we all go through shit and here you are on your high horse openly admitting you don't care. You want the benefits of a community, yet you don't want to work for it. And with that attitude, you won't fit in. You want to be a fly by and not care about the people who post here EVERY DAY, try babycenter. There's a lot of that.

ally3242 · November 2014

OP take your ass to BC where everything is light fluffy rainbows. I don't think you're really "vibing" with this community. But feel free to stick around and continue to post about tantrums and Lisa Vanderpump and prepared to get flamed.

jk3610 · November 2014

I scrolled past it because, to quote OP, I didn't think I'd care about it. Until I saw the OP and number of replies, and I thought I'll take a gander.

theinvadermothership · November 2014

rmaurer08 said:
Well I guess I should have expanded on when I meant when I said I scroll past it if I don't think I'll care about it... 1) if it mentions loss, I keep scrolling. I don't talk about that side of my life with anyone but my husband because some wounds and fears are too raw and too realistic for me to willing jump on a thread. I fully understand that those women need all kinds of support, more than I can provide. I'm sorry if that is offensive to you, but for the health of my miracle baby inside of me and my own heart, I just don't care what you think about that. If that makes me terrible, then I'm owning it. Surely all of you have experienced something in your lives that is just too painful to revisit, correct? I mean, we are all real women living in the real world.
2) if the title lends itself to something that could have been googled or read in a pregnancy book (and oh boy does that seem common!) I keep scrolling.
3) if there are dozens upon dozens of the same respond that I was going to offer, I don't reply.
I didn't start coming to the community section until recently so I missed 99% of the intros.
I don't stick around when things turn crazy on the reply's because judging from the other posts I read, that seems to anger everyone even more if OP responds! I agree some of those ladies just seemed ignorant in their replies, but I also feel like for some reason, once you are angered by a poster, they go on your black list. From that point on, it seems anything they post is not received well.
I didn't make this post to instantly be BFF's with anyone, I was just looking for friendly conversation starters. (Which is how things work in the real world...) and I really want to post something snarky about how my life is very interesting, which is why I don't have a lot of time to spend on here. I know you don't know that though because we all admit you don't know me (at my own fault). But for that reason, why would you make an uneducated comment that tears down saying my life isn't interesting? I make one post on my awesome toddler having a bad moment and you assume I have weird expectations of her. I'll keep anything like that to the Monday post in future. As far as what I watch on TV, @Swoon13‌, some of your friends on here love it too so obviously it is interesting to at least a couple if others.
So what else do we need to hash out here? I've already stated I'll be more involved in other posts.

Qfp, btw.

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