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mmathews85 · November 2014

howin23 · November 2014

Given that it's your first baby, I think the expectation is that you'd deliver late. A week late would have put you getting home from the hospital right before Thanksgiving, so it seems that your parents should have expected that by offering to host their own guests over the holiday in LV, that they would not be there to see the baby immediately. It's not your responsibility to make the timing work out, nor is there much you can do. If it really matters to your parents, they should change their plans to add more flexibility.

theMadRadishes · November 2014

Im so sorry... I feel like murphy's law has been kicking my butt once I hit 9 months. My car broke down, my insurance fell through, credit card fraud on dudes account, and I broke a tooth! I feel like life is getting me ready for motherhood... As far as your induction, you still have some time to get things going. My midwife suggested evening primrose oil. After using it I immediately stopped because he dropped like brick and I was terrified hed just fall out. Black and blue cohosh may also help, but I havent researched cohosh myself.

sweetbabyrahe · November 2014

I agree with op, parenting is a constant unpredictable adventure and the best thing to learn early on us flexibility. I am a type A planner, but learned I need a plan B, C, D, etc because little ones have their own schedule that we no nothing of. If your parents can't be there, can you skype or FaceTime with them soon after as a backup?

sweetbabyrahe · November 2014

Poop, we forgot to qfp

theMadRadishes · November 2014

Maybe she went into labor? Hehe...

mander82 · November 2014

Not sure what happened here....lol. Serious answers made her delete her post!?

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jessa1228 · November 2014

mmathews85 said:

I know there's nothing I can really do about this and I'm probably just being a control freak, but I've had a plan for how I would love for things to go when my first is born (as far as who will be there, etc), but it's starting to look like it's going to go all wrong. I guess I just need to vent or something.

My baby boy is due Nov. 17th which is in 3 days but there are NO signs that he's coming any time soon. My parents are planning on driving up from Las Vegas as soon as he's born to help, etc. I'm my mom's first daughter to have a baby so I was really hoping to give her the experience of being there at the hospital. Then my inlaws are coming from CA on the 23rd to spend Thanksgiving with us, and I was really hoping to have a day or two in between when my parents leave and his parents come in to town to recover/have some alone time/etc. However, if the baby decides not to come on time or soon after, my doctor won't induce me until the 25th . If that happens then not only will my parents not be able to come up (they have their own guests coming to LV), but my inlaws will be there instead. It would be so heartbreaking for my parents to not be able to come, and the fact that my in laws DID get to be there would just be pouring salt in the wound.

Add on to that having a baby 2 days before Thanksgiving and probably not even home from the hospital until the holiday with no time to just learn how to be new parents, how to breastfeed...I'm sure we'll be sleep deprived, ugh. Anyway, does anyone have experience with this? Either having totally the WRONG people there with you at the hospital or having a baby just before Thanksgiving with people coming in town? (I should add that the in laws are not staying with us, thank heavens).

Oh hey, I quoted OP and never posted my reply!

jessa1228 · November 2014

But yeah, the bolded really rubbed me the wrong way. I wonder how her SO feels about that.

mander82 · November 2014

@jessa1228‌ nice job on the quote!! Lol....I am not even answering her question since she deleted it before I read it.

theMadRadishes · November 2014

I am completely unapologetic about SOs mother not being allowed there... but not because shes WRONG, shes just doesnt play a supportive role in my life. Maybe she just needed to vent then had angry post guilt. Sometimes im afraid my inlaws will see what i write on some of these threads >.<

sweetbabyrahe · November 2014

I agree @j3nnyb‌ my in laws were supposed to be hosting DH's grandfathers 99th birthday on the night we had our LO. They drove the 4 hours anyway and didn't miss the birth. Another family took over hosting the birthday party and it all worked out

theMadRadishes · November 2014

Werd. Their guests can house sit...get your butts here!!!

meeshybee · November 2014

cheath02 said:

Nice, @jessa1228‌ ! OP: It was a rookie mistake to equate your estimated due date with a deadline. It is a shame that things aren't working out as you imagined BUT your kid sets the schedule. Either people need to change their plans or you need to adjust your expectations. To put your situation in perspective however, we have women on this board who have lost one (or more) of their parents and we have women on this board who's husbands (for one reason or another) will be (or have been) unable to attend their child's birth. There are some things in your OP that you can't control and some things you can. You and your family just need to work it out.
Regarding the bolded: preeeeeachh! Thank you for sticking up for us! I heart me some good old fashioned perspective. =D>

Amen!

OP, you think I was happy my DH couldn't see his daughter be born? After less than 2 weeks' notice, he had to fly out to his new job 8 days before I went into labor. Right now, it looks like he won't get to meet her until at least the beginning of January. None of that was in the plan. Our mantra has become "It is what it is." You make the best of what you're given.

Although, I'm surprised that it apparently didn't occur to anyone that LO might not appear on your EDD.

DisneyDee1984 · November 2014

KUinCBUS said:
Nice, @jessa1228‌ !

OP: It was a rookie mistake to equate your estimated due date with a deadline. It is a shame that things aren't working out as you imagined BUT your kid sets the schedule. Either people need to change their plans or you need to adjust your expectations.

To put your situation in perspective however, we have women on this board who have lost one (or more) of their parents and we have women on this board who's husbands (for one reason or another) will be (or have been) unable to attend their child's birth.

There are some things in your OP that you can't control and some things you can. You and your family just need to work it out.

Amen--I lost my dad in July and would give almost anything for him to have met my beautiful baby girl. Be grateful for what you have, and make things work!

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