That's right I am in this freaking dilemma and just under 20wks preggo.
Here's the scenario my husband just does not like my mother or sister.. which ultimately makes me feel horrible since they are my family granted my mom is a pain in the ass and as inappropriate as they come and is always saying the wrong things plus adding opinions that are quite frankly.. ridiculous and rude... on the other hand there is my sister who is the complete opposite and is more of a 'hippy' ( I say this in a good way) she's all about love and being free spirited and living as the moment comes which is fine is her life and I love her no matter how she lives it..
My husband and I have been married for 7yrs and together for 10 and in those younger years he and both my mom and sister had altercations with him because- when we where younger my then BF lived with us and we drank and partied (yes under-aged and yes with my mom) and one of these party nights things got out of hand and things were said from both parties and so tension has been building since the early years. With my sister there are similar problems there were falls out -Years ago almost a decade!- but the tension on my husbands side has been rising..
For years he would put on a happy face -for me- when they visited which has been like twice in 6ish year (since we live far away) but now after having had a kiddo and with another one on the way my husband has decided he's no longer going to 'put up' with them and I feel awful .. he says they are not welcome in our home unless he's away for work which he's in the army so there are some weeks/months that I am alone.. but I just don't think this is fair. I mean its not like my family is visiting yearly and its only for a couple of days or 2 week tops.. why the FFFF cant he put on that happy face?!?!?:-S