Apparently everyone hates me talking about my twins and the pregnancy, any advice? :(

ginadenisee · November 2014

Well last night my SO brought up that apparently all I talk about is my twins and the pregnancy and my baby shower (which I'm genuinely excited for since I haven't seen my family in 9 months) but he said that he's getting really annoyed by it and can see how it can be annoying to other people. And since we work together it made me think that people are saying stuff to him, but besides that it really hurt my feelings. I don't really have friends and I don't like most things that other people do like. So I really don't know what to do. and I was wondering if anyone has any advice or has this happened to anyone else? I just don't know, I've been really upset ever since he told me and I know that's not good for the babies, so I was wondering if I'm not alone.

SV917 · November 2014

It's annoying anytime someone only talks about one thing. I understand you are excited, but it's healthy to have interests beyond your children.What did you talk about before you got pregnant? I would try to focus on talking about other things. And definitely don't talk about your shower, especially if your co-workers aren't invited. I don't understand how you would have much to say about a party someone else is planning, so I can see how that might get boring.

Evo9380 · November 2014

I also hit that "wall" of it's all I talked about. Especially with DH. I was off work from 13 weeks from bleeding, etc and on bedrest so the pregnancy was pretty much consuming my life from the get-go!

It definitely hurt when he told me he was sick of talking about it so to curb my baby-excitement outloud, I read twin blogs, and looked up cute stuff on pinterest. I also tried to do something non-baby related each day so I could talk to DH about that.

I found that it wasn't necessarily ME that was just annoying DH either, but every.single.person around him wanted to talk about me, the pregnancy, the twins. No one (his coworkers, his family) ever asked him about HIS day anymore. Maybe that's whats going on?

Especially since you work together! Everyone is obviously aware that you're pregnant and maybe that's all they talk to him about. Try to plan non-baby activities, or make it a habit to really ask about him (and not just how he feels about being a daddy soon!).

Good luck

Mrs.McIrish · November 2014

AshB62 said:

What @SV917 said. No one is saying you can't ever talk about your babies, but find some other topics as well.

Also, you never know what someone else may be going through. When I was dealing with infertility and recurrent pregnancy loss, it would have been PAINFUL to spend a lot of time around someone who constantly talked about their pregnancy and nothing else.

This 100%

ktibbits1 · November 2014

Sorry that your feelings are hurt! He probably could've said it more nicely but at least he told you so that people aren't avoiding conversations with you. It is an exciting time and I can of course understand wanting to talk about it, maybe call your family or other people who are invited to the shower and talk with them when you feel like you want to. Don't let this ruin your happiness, take it as constructive criticism and enjoy the rest of your pregnancy!

PinkinProvence · November 2014

I always keep in the back of my mind that no one cares about your pregnancy or your kids as much as you do (and maybe DH and grandparents.) I always kept the talk to a minimum unless someone asked and even then I just made small talk.

breezyweezer · November 2014

Find people who want to talk about babies/pregnancy/etc. as much as you do! I may just be lucky that I have a good friend who is also pregnant; we can talk each others' faces off about baby stuff and neither of us get annoyed. Maybe you can find a local mom-to-be in your area and become friends?

Also, family is usually really supportive and excited and interested in talking about pregnancy stuff. At least that has been my experience. I try not to "bug" people too much with twin prego talk, but when I need to share my excitement with someone I go for people who are supportive

You can still talk to people about baby stuff; just like others have said try to talk about some other things as well. As for the hubby, I would be pissed at mine if he got annoyed at me for talking about it too much. That's just my opinion though! I probably am annoying the crap out of him, lol.

zazu13 · November 2014

Agree with all of the above. The good news is that you have a safe place to talk about your twins right here. We on the multiples board don't get tired of twin talk so chat us up and spare your co-workers.

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