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TTC After a Loss
rnchloe
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Intro
rnchloe
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Hi everyone! I've been lurking the board for a few days after learning that our pregnancy was most likely not viable. I participated a little on TTGP and the May '15 BMB. I am definitely looking for some support as my husband and I feel very alone in all of this!
We are 24 and 25, married for 1.5 years but together for 8. We decided to TTC in September and were shocked that after one cycle we were pregnant. For whatever reason I never had a good feeling about this pregnancy. I never let myself get too attached. Our family thought we were crazy for being so worried but I just knew.
I wasn't scheduled to see my OB until 11 weeks. After weeks and weeks of feeling uneasy, despite plenty of pregnancy symptoms and no signs that anything was truly wrong, we finally had our u/s where we were told there was just an empty sac. Heartbroken, but not completely shocked, we scheduled our d&c for the next morning.
Before the procedure the high risk Ob came to do an u/s. This was all very emotionally difficult for me and I didn't want to see the empty sac again. Then I heard her say "oh there's baby." We were suprised to hear that it wasn't just an empty sac but a very small baby (probably 7 weeks) with a possible HB. We were shocked and didn't know what to think. There was no way I could be only 7 weeks. They asked for us to come back in a week for another u/s. After a horrible week of feeling confused, and trying to be hopeful yet realistic we had our u/s. I could tell by her measurements the baby hadn't grown and could see that there was no HB. The OB confirmed this and so here we are again. I am scheduled for my D&C this morning.
This whole journey has been a rollercoaster and we are ready to get this over with and have a little normalcy back. We hope to try again once I have a period as long as we both feel ready. I appreciate all of your stories and support. I'm so sorry for everyone's losses... This is truly the hardest thing to go through. Thanks for listening to my story!
We are 24 and 25, married for 1.5 years but together for 8. We decided to TTC in September and were shocked that after one cycle we were pregnant. For whatever reason I never had a good feeling about this pregnancy. I never let myself get too attached. Our family thought we were crazy for being so worried but I just knew.
I wasn't scheduled to see my OB until 11 weeks. After weeks and weeks of feeling uneasy, despite plenty of pregnancy symptoms and no signs that anything was truly wrong, we finally had our u/s where we were told there was just an empty sac. Heartbroken, but not completely shocked, we scheduled our d&c for the next morning.
Before the procedure the high risk Ob came to do an u/s. This was all very emotionally difficult for me and I didn't want to see the empty sac again. Then I heard her say "oh there's baby." We were suprised to hear that it wasn't just an empty sac but a very small baby (probably 7 weeks) with a possible HB. We were shocked and didn't know what to think. There was no way I could be only 7 weeks. They asked for us to come back in a week for another u/s. After a horrible week of feeling confused, and trying to be hopeful yet realistic we had our u/s. I could tell by her measurements the baby hadn't grown and could see that there was no HB. The OB confirmed this and so here we are again. I am scheduled for my D&C this morning.
This whole journey has been a rollercoaster and we are ready to get this over with and have a little normalcy back. We hope to try again once I have a period as long as we both feel ready. I appreciate all of your stories and support. I'm so sorry for everyone's losses... This is truly the hardest thing to go through. Thanks for listening to my story!
Me: 25 DH: 25, married 5/2013
TTC baby #1 since 9/2014
BFP #1 9/16/14, MMC 11/5/14
Dx Factor V Leiden 12/2014
BFP #2 1/16/15 Hoping this is our rainbow baby!
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Re: Intro
Me: 31 DH: 36
Dated Since ‘02, Married in ‘06
BFP#1 05/16/06, EDD01/16/07, MC 06/12/06 at 8 weeks
BFP #2 08/14/14, EDD 04/22/15, MC 09/17/14 at 9 weeks
My Chart
Dx: Me: Recurrent Pregnancy Loss; DH: Low Morphology (2%)
BFP#1: MC 3/1/11 at 6w1d - EDD 10/21/11
BFP#3: MC 2/8/14 at 4w5d - EDD 10/13/14
BFP#6: CP 11/6/14 at 4w2d - EDD 7/14/15
IVF #1 with ICSI & PGS: May/June 2015, ER 6/3/15, 17R/17M/15F
IVF #2 with ICSI & PGS: July 2015, ER 7/16/15, 16R/11M/9F
PGS results = 6 normal embryos (4 boys, 2 girls)
FET 9/23/15 = BFFN
Like flyoffeve stated, make sure you talk to your Dr about when you can try again as it's different for everyone. Sometimes it's hard not to jump right back in but it's necessary to take the time to heal.
4 Losses (2003, 2008, Apr 2012, & Oct 2012)
All RPL and IF testing with multiple REs = normal
5 IUIs = BFN
All AL are welcome
Hugs!!! Take care of yourself!
DD: 10 (born August 2004)
Married 03/01/14
TTC#2
BFP: 05/17/2014 EDD: 1/25/15 MMC: 06/30/2014
My Ovulation Chart
DX Endometriosis 2/2002 (lost left tube due to a cyst), PCOS 6/2010
BFP - 10/18/2012, EDD - 6/26/2013, Baby Girl lost at 22 weeks (T21), D&E 2/15/2013
BFP - 4/23/2014, EDD - 1/2/2015 Twin Boys lost at 12 weeks, M/C 6/25/2014
My chart here All ALers welcome!
***Siggy Warning - loss mentioned***
*S15 Siggy January Siggy Challenge - Happy Dance*
ME: 32 DH: 38
BFP#1 - 7/18/14; EDD 3/23/14; MMC 8/11/14 (passed naturally on 8/17/14)
BFP#2 - 12/29/14; EDD 9/10/15 *PLEASE BE OUR RAINBOW!*
Married 9/13/14
Me: 24 / DH: 24
BFP#1 10/15/14 - EDD 6/19/2014 - MC 10/23/14
BFP #2: 12/18/14 - EDD: 8/31/15 - MC 1/4/14 5w6d
**Currently Benched until TBD**
My Chart
BFP #1: EDD 05/27/2014 (D&C 10/17/2014)
DH & I are both 28 Together: 12 years Married: 09/24/2011
BFP#1: January '12 - DD1 09/16/2012
Preterm labor 31 weeks. Monitored for Hellp and diagnosed with oligohydramnios July '12
BFP #2: 06/25 - EDD 03/05/15 MMC confirmed 8/1 - D&E 8/4 retained tissue discovered 8/20
BFP #3 11/24 - 12/15 Heartbeat detected - DD2 07/29/15
IUI#3 brought us our dragon baby Z
TTCAL January 2015 Siggy Challenge: Animal Snow Interactions
@rnchloe I'm sorry but I don't feel comfortable saying if that's normal or not because it can be so different depending on the situation.
Have you seen the OB's you're referring to? If so I think it's best to listen to them
I'm glad you're feeling a bit better today!
IUI #1 - #4 - bfn (late 2015 to early 2016)
01/03/17 - 12mm x 6mm polyp removed from uterus- neg path, yay!
IUI #5 - February 2017. Hoping for some magic
02.22.17 - BFP! EDD 11/01/17
Baby G has arrived! 10/14/17
Ditto to what Nikolie said, too.
There isn't really a usual protocol other than your OB giving an order. It varies for everyone dependent on a lot of factors individual to you. If your OB said it is ok to try again then, you can when you are ready after first AF.
Me: 31 DH: 36
Dated Since ‘02, Married in ‘06
BFP#1 05/16/06, EDD01/16/07, MC 06/12/06 at 8 weeks
BFP #2 08/14/14, EDD 04/22/15, MC 09/17/14 at 9 weeks
My Chart