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Help! my husbands wants a TERRIBLE middle name

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Hey ladies- so we just found out at our 20 week scan that we are having a little girl and could not be happier! I have had a little girl name picked out for YEARS- Juliana.  Luckily, my husband really likes the name too. My grandmother passed away 6 months ago and her name was Rosetta, I thought it would be so nice and special to have our daughters middle name Rose. Juliana Rose. Perfect right? The problem is, my husbands grandmother also passed away recently and her name was Peggy Lou- that was her legal name. And he thinks its only fair to have BOTH grandmothers names. So his brilliant idea is to have the middle name be combined and have "Peggy Rose" as the middle name. Juliana Peggy-Rose? I don't think so. The issue is, I appreciate the sentiment and I see what he is getting at and it really is a beautiful thought HOWEVER its a horrible name and I can't do that to my child- they have to live with this name forever. How can I convince him to get off this idea without appearing super insensitive or hurting his feelings? 
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  • seahorse102410seahorse102410 member
    I'm so sorry.
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  • RondackHikerRondackHiker member
    It's not bad.

    I'd do it so he can honor his grandma, though I might pick Peggy or Lou to simplify legal name stuff.


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  • SpaceGirlSpiffSpaceGirlSpiff member
    edited November 2014
    Not a fan of Juliana Peggy Rose, doesn't really flow as nicely and I'm not generally a fan of two middle names either, BUT it's also not as big a deal since middle names aren't used much...and I have definitely heard much worse than this

    BUT... I can see his point too and it's nice to honor BOTH grandmothers if that's the direction you want to go in... I could see he may be thinking "Why do we honor yours and not mine"... So I see where he's coming from.  Maybe you could play around with it and come to a compromise?

    Juliana Lou Rose ..? Maybe?



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  • SpaceGirlSpiffSpaceGirlSpiff member
    Do you plan to have any more children? It's kind of a gamble, yes, because you never know for sure if you will or if it will be another girl, etc.... but... maybe you could come to an agreement that you use one of the names now and save the other for a future child?


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  • SpaceGirlSpiffSpaceGirlSpiff member
    Also the name Lou could be unisex

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  • SpaceGirlSpiffSpaceGirlSpiff member
    Huh..the more you know.. I had no clue Peggy was short for Margaret

    Margaret can be a nice alternative

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  • angelashlyangelashly member
    Mackalien13 said:

    I vote for Juliana Margaret

    I am going for this one too.


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  • MaebbMaebb member
    My friend has the MN Peggy (family name), and she HATES it. She's embarrassed any time she has to say it or write it on a form. I agree that it's NMS.

    Juliana Margaret is pretty if your H would agree to it.

    I don't really have other advice, only commiseration because I am 30 weeks, and my stubborn husband wants to call our baby Hawk.
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  • stra0111stra0111 member
    Personally, I'm not a huge fan of two middle names. But in my books, middle names aren't a huge deal. They are hardly used. We gave DD2 my Grandma's name as her middle name. It is not are name I would ever consider if it weren't her name. It's a name many don't like. However, DD2 is most likely her last great grandchild(#12) and we wanted to honour her. She is SO proud and it is the cutest thing when she tells everyone at the nursing home that this is her great grand baby with her name.
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    Chickie79 said:
    How has no one referenced Peggy Sue yet? That movie is forever etched in my childhood memory.

    I was thinking Gypsy with the Rose Louise suggestions.

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  • RayRay007RayRay007 member
    danisgossipgirl said:

    So you get to pick the first and middle name and honor a beloved family member, while he gets...? There has to be room for compromise somewhere. Good place to use a name's meaning...even if gram's given name was Peggy, it's a diminutive of Margaret, which means "pearl"... Juliana Pearl is not bad at all. Or work with Lou, or the initials, or a related form of Margaret. Like my h's great grandma was Bernice, neither of us loves that, but Veronica is another form and that's a badass name.

    Yeah this is what I was thinking- you get to have your first name, let him have the middle, or compromise on a different middle name altogether. I like the idea of taking the meaning and finding something related.

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  • caladpi02caladpi02 member
    Why not scratch the grandma idea and pick something else?
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  • umma4babesumma4babes member
    edited November 2014
    It's not horrible, but I would steer clear from two middle names. My first name has a space in between first two syllables and it's been such a pain. My name is different in many legal documents and I've never had success changing them.
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  • mrshis75mrshis75 member
    yall need to both agree. lol. its so hard though!
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