Hello, my almost 4 month old is now getting up twice during the night. I nurse him to sleep (I know it's a bad habit - I would like him to put himself to sleep) around 8 (trying to slowly pull that bedtime forward to 7/7:30 but scared to make a drastic change to quickly) and gets up once between 11 and 1:30 and once between 3 and 4:30. I feed him both times and then he usually falls right back asleep. Then he's up around 6 or 7. During the day, I try to do the eat, play, sleep thing, feeding him every 3-4 hours and putting him down to nap when he shows signs of tiredness. This means he is usually only up for 2 hours max, except before the bedtime feeding when he is up for about 3-4 hours. Do you guys keep yours up longer before bedtime? His naps are usually pretty short (45 minutes-1 hour) although occasionally he'll have a longer one. Many times the eat, play, sleep thing during the day doesn't work so well because of timing. He can put himself to sleep for naps (with fussing/crying - I have tried everything else and it seems like he just needs to fuss/cry for 5 minutes or so). Despite how hard I've tried, we have absolutely NO set schedule. I have been keeping track of his sleep and eating "patterns" for the past 6 weeks and really see very few trends. I am not really waiting until he cries out of hunger to feed him because I like to feed him before he gets tired for a nap - maybe I should be waiting? Also, I'm concerned that he's getting up twice during the night. He used to go longer stretches (6-7 hrs) but not anymore. Now it seems like he can only go 3 or 4 hours. I'm finding it hard to do anything during the day because of his frequent naps - do you guys plan for your LOs to take naps in the car seats? I was doing that for a while. I feel so sleep deprived - anyone going through anything similar?
Hello, my almost 4 month old is now getting up twice during the night. I nurse him to sleep (I know it's a bad habit - I would like him to put himself to sleep) around 8 (trying to slowly pull that bedtime forward to 7/7:30 but scared to make a drastic change to quickly) and gets up once between 11 and 1:30 and once between 3 and 4:30. I feed him both times and then he usually falls right back asleep. Then he's up around 6 or 7. During the day, I try to do the eat, play, sleep thing, feeding him every 3-4 hours and putting him down to nap when he shows signs of tiredness. This means he is usually only up for 2 hours max, except before the bedtime feeding when he is up for about 3-4 hours. Do you guys keep yours up longer before bedtime? His naps are usually pretty short (45 minutes-1 hour) although occasionally he'll have a longer one. Many times the eat, play, sleep thing during the day doesn't work so well because of timing. He can put himself to sleep for naps (with fussing/crying - I have tried everything else and it seems like he just needs to fuss/cry for 5 minutes or so). Despite how hard I've tried, we have absolutely NO set schedule. I have been keeping track of his sleep and eating "patterns" for the past 6 weeks and really see very few trends. I am not really waiting until he cries out of hunger to feed him because I like to feed him before he gets tired for a nap - maybe I should be waiting? Also, I'm concerned that he's getting up twice during the night. He used to go longer stretches (6-7 hrs) but not anymore. Now it seems like he can only go 3 or 4 hours. I'm finding it hard to do anything during the day because of his frequent naps - do you guys plan for your LOs to take naps in the car seats? I was doing that for a while. I feel so sleep deprived - anyone going through anything similar?
I agree with PP. You don't NEED to set a schedule unless u WANT one. FWiW, my LO has always gotten up twice at night, and he's FF. With the sleep regression he's fussing more often at night, but a binkie usually does the trick. I'm trying to get him down to one bottle right now. I also think nursing to sleep is totally up to you. I live by the thought that you do whatever you need to do for the first 6 mo to survive. After that you can try changing things to fit what you WANT.
I have an older son, so we can't completely work around LOs naps all the time. I try to make sure he has at least one good nap in his crib or swing on the weekends.
His general schedule is up for day at 5/5:30 (his choice, not mine).
Bottle around 6/6:30
7:00ish 30 minute nap (falls asleep in car on way to daycare)
Bottle around 9:00
Nap shortly thereafter for 1-2 hours (1.5 hour nap usually)
Re: Sleeping/Feeding Schedules