I hate the word "fart". I do not use it in front of my kids, and I don't really like it when dh or others do. I'm very happy that my 3 year old says "passing gas" instead of "farting", and that he has no interest in fart jokes. I'm not super prim about bodily functions or anything, there is just something about that word.
^That reminds me of another one that seams particularly unpopular on this board.
I like seeing all of the holiday decorations out. I like shopping in crowded stores for gifts, I like holiday music, I'm not bothered by the commercialism, I'm not bothered by the extreamly religious stuff, and none of it affects the way I celibate. I love the holidays and don't find them stressful.
I agree with a lot of the Nature Deficit Disorder hypothesis, that both kids and adults don't spend enough time out in nature and that a lot of our mental issues can be helped by spending more time outside. Although I also see this connected to slowing down the pace of life by being outside.
When we moved to the boonies from the suburbs, I actually felt relief and I'm a lot less stressed. Now I spend a lot more time outdoors because the trails and parks are at my fingertips. I want LO to grow up playing hockey on the ponds, running through the woods and catching tadpoles in the marsh. I drove through my old neighbourhood awhile ago around 4pm and it made me sad that not one child was playing on any of the playgrounds.
ETA- not saying everyone should move to the boonies; there are plenty of ways to enjoy the outdoors and nature in the city and suburbs. I'm saying we should all get out more!
I finally have one: I don't see the big deal with Keurigs. I know they have reusable K-cups but I still find them to be wasteful. I mean I'd have one in my apartment when it was just me because I really don't need more than one cup of coffee, but having one in a household with several people that drink multiple cups is annoying.
I think most women who are against their husbands watching porn are just insecure.
Barring any religious or moral objections, I don't see what the problem is. And I don't remember who but I seem to recall some women here saying their husbands don't masturbate without their permission or knowledge...yeeeeeah that's super weird and you shouldn't try to control someone else's sexuality to the point that they need to clear it with you before rubbing one out.
If my husband wants to watch porn, that's fine by me. If he wants to play with his bits that's cool too. I don't get all huffy about it like he's cheating on me, it's a video and his hand. If that was in any way comparable to sex with me then I'm doing it wrong! Lol
Having known multiple porn addicts, and seeing what it does to their families and what actions it has led them to, I can't agree that their wives are just "insecure". I know I'm in the minority on this one, but you can't apply your situation to every one else's
Sorry not sorry I like feeling more experienced and "smarter" than others at times (honestly, really fucking honestly, who doesn't?!)
I also find it so irritating for people to be so opinionated on something they really have no clue about.
Someone on FB, who has never been pregnant, posted a quote by Gisele bunchon and talked about how if women were just a bit more mindful" while pregnant then they wouldn't have to go on such constricting diets afterwards. STFU seriously.
I finally have one: I don't see the big deal with Keurigs. I know they have reusable K-cups but I still find them to be wasteful. I mean I'd have one in my apartment when it was just me because I really don't need more than one cup of coffee, but having one in a household with several people that drink multiple cups is annoying.
I am in an unending battle with my SO over the Keurig machine. I too think it is really wasteful (we had one at an old job and there was always a mountain of those cups in the break room). He is Mr. Gadget and "just wants one," even though I KNOW he will use it a few times and forget about it, like a five year old kid and a forgotten toy. Aside from wastefulness, we just have no room for extra gadgets that go unused. I point to the Baby Bullet gathering dust as evidence.
Taylor Swift doesn't make good music. I don't like any of it. Country or pop.
I was just thinking this. I just don't get the hype about her.
I like Taylor Swift. Her music is catchy although I agree it's pretty awful. Guilty pleasure I suppose.
I love some good T.Swift. She obviously is no musical genius, but if Finn and I are having a dance party in the kitchen there is nothing better. Plus she actually seems nice and hasn't had a drug induced public meltdown, yet.
I know I'm going to get a lot of flack for this because I know it's unpopular. But, I don't understand why people say they're doing blw and purées. No, you're doing some finger foods & some purées - which is totally cool! I know for various reasons, including daycare & personal comfort, that it works best to do both. But blw, by definition means you don't spoon feed purées.
I don't know why this bugs me so much. Partly because it confuses people who are trying to actually do blw, maybe. I think if just seems like semantics to some? And I know at the end of the day it doesn't matter, I'm just irrationally annoyed.
Ha ha I think I've said this somewhere before! I put it that way because I didn't know how else to phrase it. I've actually never heard the term BLW used outside the Bump.
Similarly, it annoys me when people say "rice cereal has no nutritional value". I know it's true, but for some reason it bugs me!
Kind of related to the BLW thing, It bugs me that we label everything about how we interact with our kids, BLW, attachment parenting, Ferber sleep training, baby wise method, etc... I'm not training my kids! I'm taking care of and teaching them and interacting with them the way I see as best. Reading things is helpful, but it's not necessary to fit solidly in one category.
I think most women who are against their husbands watching porn are just insecure.
Barring any religious or moral objections, I don't see what the problem is. And I don't remember who but I seem to recall some women here saying their husbands don't masturbate without their permission or knowledge...yeeeeeah that's super weird and you shouldn't try to control someone else's sexuality to the point that they need to clear it with you before rubbing one out.
If my husband wants to watch porn, that's fine by me. If he wants to play with his bits that's cool too. I don't get all huffy about it like he's cheating on me, it's a video and his hand. If that was in any way comparable to sex with me then I'm doing it wrong! Lol
I'm not okay with my husband watching porn, but it probably falls under the moral objection category because he's only supposed to have eyes and those feelings for me. It would hurt me, and I would consider it an act of betrayal. Thankfully he decided on his own to stop before we even started dating, so I never had to deal with that. He admitted to me later that it gave him a false impression of what sex was really like (I was his first), so that's a negative too.
I also prefer him not to masturbate, but that's only because I feel like if he feels he needs/wants to, then I'm not "doing my job." I don't have any of the same feelings about that as I do porn though, and I wouldn't be upset if he did do it.
February Siggy Challenge: Favorite TV couple ~ Jim & Pam
I'd have issues with my husband watching porn because I AM insecure! I don't like my body and I don't want to feel even worse knowing that he's looking at naked 20 year-olds. And plus, he works all day and comes home and we all eat dinner and run to practices and spend time with the kids and go to bed at the same time! I don't know when he'd fit it in. He probably wanks in the shower though. I hope he gives a little time to rinse off the floor.
My husband watched porn before we started dating (we were 17), we've watched it together, he's not a super big fan of porn or masterbating. If all of a sudden he started watching it and doing whatever I would be concerened just because it's out of the norm. If it was part of the norm I wouldn't be against it. But this is when we are together, when he's gone for whatever reason the norm is a little different.
We do blw, the only use of spoons is that my son has an obsession with them. He constantly has a baby spoon in his hand and/or mouth.
I am such a t. Swift fan, so is my husband and DS loves her music as well. I looked up her world tour schedule and I'm hoping to go to see her next summer.
I own a keurig and I hate it. I spent $179 two years ago because I thought we needed it. We only bought k-cups for two months before it got too expensive. We've been using the reuseable k-cup ever since. I'm waiting for it to die so I can get a regular coffee maker.
Uo: i think Burger King is the most disgusting thing ever. I'll choose a Big Mac anyday over a whopper.
My husband watched porn before we started dating (we were 17), we've watched it together, he's not a super big fan of porn or masterbating. If all of a sudden he started watching it and doing whatever I would be concerened just because it's out of the norm. If it was part of the norm I wouldn't be against it. But this is when we are together, when he's gone for whatever reason the norm is a little different.
We do blw, the only use of spoons is that my son has an obsession with them. He constantly has a baby spoon in his hand and/or mouth.
I am such a t. Swift fan, so is my husband and DS loves her music as well. I looked up her world tour schedule and I'm hoping to go to see her next summer.
I own a keurig and I hate it. I spent $179 two years ago because I thought we needed it. We only bought k-cups for two months before it got too expensive. We've been using the reuseable k-cup ever since. I'm waiting for it to die so I can get a regular coffee maker.
Uo: i think Burger King is the most disgusting thing ever. I'll choose a Big Mac anyday over a whopper.
Thank you! A "big king" is NOT better or even the same as a Big Mac!
I don't care if DH watches porn but it annoys me if he uses the computer to do it. Porn sites are always filled with viruses and malware and he is not the one who has to fix the computer when it blows up. If he wants to use his tablet then he can surf away.
He used to work on a ship and be gone for months at a time. I used to buy porn and mail it to him. One time the company he worked for thought it was a prescription he used to get shipped to work that had to be refridgerated so they wound up keeping his porn in the fridge for him til the ship got in port. Silly men - porn should be hot not cold!
I've told my husband multiple times I don't care if he watches the occasional porn (if it was frequent I would probably find it annoying because I have a higher sex drive than him so I'd rather he just find me) but I think he thinks it's a trick. Lol. I honestly don't care though, as long as it's not happening more than we are having sex. I know he doesn't watch it though because he works longer hours than I do and when he is home I'm always home and we are always together either cooking, watching a show, or whatever. I know he masturbates in the shower but there's never porn involved.
Started dating February 6, 2012
Married June 28, 2013
BFP August 9, 2013
Had our first baby, Samuel Robert, on April 17, 2014!
Sometimes I wish DH would jerk off. Less forced sexy time for me!!!! He like porn but he always wants to watch it together. Which I have done a few times. I find it hilarious though.
Leashes!!!! Yes. DH has adhd as an adult and he randomly wanders off. Drives me crazy. If dd takes after him at all she is getting a leash. I would rather get side eyed for leashing my child than loose my child
I like my Keurig. I would have never bought it but it was a wedding present. It is wasteful so we use the reusable filter. Better coffee that way
I had a Keurig, started working at a cafe where I got free coffee, gave my Keurig away, got married, hubs wanted a Keurig real bad, so... I have bought two keurigs in my life. It's a pretty good product, honestly, so long as you don't drink a whole pot of coffee. It's really convenient for heating water for tea, too. We'll probably still use it when we roast our own coffee and just buy the less convenient refillable pod.
I have mixed feelings on porn. I would be more inclined to get insecure and upset about it if I wasn't hurting too much to have sex, cause then he's choosing to masturbate over banging that day. But now I'm just insecure and relieved that his needs are being taken care of without having to aggravate my back/hip/sciatic pain. He's not a porn fiend and not trying to find lovin elsewhere so for now it's cool even though 20 year old bodies are looking way nicer than this flabby broken one.
Just you wait is probably fun to say but I hate hearing it and generally hate the person saying it so I try not to say it because I want everyone to like me. Like me!!!
I can't decide if my procrastination is a character flaw or not. I tend to work better under pressure, and come up with brilliant shit at the last minute after it's percolated in my brain for a while, and procrastinating is a mechanism for creating that environment. Or I am just a slack ass and could be doing even more brilliant things with more time and I'm sucking at life. My husband tends to think the latter. Whatever, procrastination is awesome. Suck it, DH.
I find it kinda funny that you call it Dani vs Celticlullaby.. I tend to agree with both of you to some degree most of the time. (I still can't get down on the Mohawk disdain though!)
My UO is that I really don't enjoy giving DS solids. I was looking forward to it and thought it would be fun but it's just more work. We eat dinner after he goes to bed so he usually misses the food and sometimes I let him munch on my toast crust in the morning, but otherwise he is at daycare so I feel like we don't have much opportunity to give him solids. I've tried having dinner ready before he goes to bed but he has such an early bedtime (we put him to bed when he's tired and that's about 5:30-6:00) that it never seems to fall into place. So it's just seeming to be more work than it's worth right now.
Started dating February 6, 2012
Married June 28, 2013
BFP August 9, 2013
Had our first baby, Samuel Robert, on April 17, 2014!
Same here. I feel like I am behind introducing new foods to LO. Some days she gets to eat twice and sometimes only once - between her sister and her somebody is always getting up or going to sleep, needing a diaper change or needing something to eat.
This kid is so ripped off. She is going to have second child syndrome for sure!
I love the stage that DD is in at the moment, its so exciting to see all the changes as she gets teeth, learns to sit up and crawl and all that.
But there are times when I miss all the newborn cuddles, when she would fall asleep on me, the little sucking motions she made when asleep. How she looked when feeding. All that.
Yeah I might be getting pregnant sooner than later I think! lol. I am so ready to try for no 2.
Angel baby June 2013, DD born 22 April 2014, BFP 10 Sept 2015 - Due 22 May 2016
@avidkeo not a UO as far as I'm concerned! Now that LO is motoring around, I miss the hours spent cuddling on the couch while he napped or nursed.
I am also sorely tempted to skip the condoms now that AF is back, but I think the peace and quiet of NB snuggles won't be the same with another LO! We'll hold off trying till April.
@avidkeo not a UO as far as I'm concerned! Now that LO is motoring around, I miss the hours spent cuddling on the couch while he napped or nursed.
I am also sorely tempted to skip the condoms now that AF is back, but I think the peace and quiet of NB snuggles won't be the same with another LO! We'll hold off trying till April.
I'm about to ovulate and I really really want to try now. But I told DH I would leave it up to him.
One frustrating thing is my cycles are always really long - like 6 weeks long. So I know each time that its another 6 weeks before we can try again. That feels like such a long time! And I want to try for a close age gap. Sigh. will see what happens.
Angel baby June 2013, DD born 22 April 2014, BFP 10 Sept 2015 - Due 22 May 2016
@avidkeo not a UO as far as I'm concerned! Now that LO is motoring around, I miss the hours spent cuddling on the couch while he napped or nursed.
I am also sorely tempted to skip the condoms now that AF is back, but I think the peace and quiet of NB snuggles won't be the same with another LO! We'll hold off trying till April.
I'm about to ovulate and I really really want to try now. But I told DH I would leave it up to him.
One frustrating thing is my cycles are always really long - like 6 weeks long. So I know each time that its another 6 weeks before we can try again. That feels like such a long time! And I want to try for a close age gap. Sigh. will see what happens.
Oh man, DH would be all over trying now if I let him. I just had my first PP period, so I'm kinda wondering if my cycles will be similar to how they used to be or be different. All the mindgames!
@avidkeo not a UO as far as I'm concerned! Now that LO is motoring around, I miss the hours spent cuddling on the couch while he napped or nursed.
I am also sorely tempted to skip the condoms now that AF is back, but I think the peace and quiet of NB snuggles won't be the same with another LO! We'll hold off trying till April.
I'm about to ovulate and I really really want to try now. But I told DH I would leave it up to him.
One frustrating thing is my cycles are always really long - like 6 weeks long. So I know each time that its another 6 weeks before we can try again. That feels like such a long time! And I want to try for a close age gap. Sigh. will see what happens.
Oh man, DH would be all over trying now if I let him. I just had my first PP period, so I'm kinda wondering if my cycles will be similar to how they used to be or be different. All the mindgames!
I always thought having a baby would even me out, thats what you hear anyway. but no. 4 weeks since my first PP period and still waiting for ov. Stupid body
Angel baby June 2013, DD born 22 April 2014, BFP 10 Sept 2015 - Due 22 May 2016
I'm in the same boat as others. I've said I'm doing both BLW and purees. Honestly the terminologies never meant anything to me and they still don't. I'm feeding my baby something other than breast milk. I'm feeding him what he likes and following his cues. Some times I pop open a jar of beechnut, sometimes I hand him something off my plate, either way I'm doing it if HE wants it.
I do miss the newborn snuggles, but if I could pop out a 6-month old baby and start from there next time, it would be awesome! Newborns are so hard and I struggled so much in the beginning. Now LO and I have a routine, I (usually) can figure out what he needs, we play and interact. This week we've gone to the park, played with other babies and had fun sledding in the backyard!
I never thought of the feeding like that, I'm blw and purées, just going with what ever lo wants, I have had a few looks when lo has whole veg or meat, I'd never heard of blw until The bump
AmberLiz99
member
Re: UO
Dh thinks I'm crazy
I like seeing all of the holiday decorations out. I like shopping in crowded stores for gifts, I like holiday music, I'm not bothered by the commercialism, I'm not bothered by the extreamly religious stuff, and none of it affects the way I celibate. I love the holidays and don't find them stressful.
When we moved to the boonies from the suburbs, I actually felt relief and I'm a lot less stressed. Now I spend a lot more time outdoors because the trails and parks are at my fingertips. I want LO to grow up playing hockey on the ponds, running through the woods and catching tadpoles in the marsh. I drove through my old neighbourhood awhile ago around 4pm and it made me sad that not one child was playing on any of the playgrounds.
ETA- not saying everyone should move to the boonies; there are plenty of ways to enjoy the outdoors and nature in the city and suburbs. I'm saying we should all get out more!
Sorry not sorry I like feeling more experienced and "smarter" than others at times (honestly, really fucking honestly, who doesn't?!)
I also find it so irritating for people to be so opinionated on something they really have no clue about.
Someone on FB, who has never been pregnant, posted a quote by Gisele bunchon and talked about how if women were just a bit more mindful" while pregnant then they wouldn't have to go on such constricting diets afterwards. STFU seriously.
Similarly, it annoys me when people say "rice cereal has no nutritional value". I know it's true, but for some reason it bugs me!
I also prefer him not to masturbate, but that's only because I feel like if he feels he needs/wants to, then I'm not "doing my job." I don't have any of the same feelings about that as I do porn though, and I wouldn't be upset if he did do it.
We do blw, the only use of spoons is that my son has an obsession with them. He constantly has a baby spoon in his hand and/or mouth.
I am such a t. Swift fan, so is my husband and DS loves her music as well. I looked up her world tour schedule and I'm hoping to go to see her next summer.
I own a keurig and I hate it. I spent $179 two years ago because I thought we needed it. We only bought k-cups for two months before it got too expensive. We've been using the reuseable k-cup ever since. I'm waiting for it to die so I can get a regular coffee maker.
Uo: i think Burger King is the most disgusting thing ever. I'll choose a Big Mac anyday over a whopper.
He used to work on a ship and be gone for months at a time. I used to buy porn and mail it to him. One time the company he worked for thought it was a prescription he used to get shipped to work that had to be refridgerated so they wound up keeping his porn in the fridge for him til the ship got in port. Silly men - porn should be hot not cold!
Ain't nobody got time or energy for sexy time!
Started dating February 6, 2012
Leashes!!!! Yes. DH has adhd as an adult and he randomly wanders off. Drives me crazy. If dd takes after him at all she is getting a leash. I would rather get side eyed for leashing my child than loose my child
I like my Keurig. I would have never bought it but it was a wedding present. It is wasteful so we use the reusable filter. Better coffee that way
I have mixed feelings on porn. I would be more inclined to get insecure and upset about it if I wasn't hurting too much to have sex, cause then he's choosing to masturbate over banging that day. But now I'm just insecure and relieved that his needs are being taken care of without having to aggravate my back/hip/sciatic pain. He's not a porn fiend and not trying to find lovin elsewhere so for now it's cool even though 20 year old bodies are looking way nicer than this flabby broken one.
Just you wait is probably fun to say but I hate hearing it and generally hate the person saying it so I try not to say it because I want everyone to like me. Like me!!!
Started dating February 6, 2012
This kid is so ripped off. She is going to have second child syndrome for sure!