Pregnant after IF

Wasn't expecting this....

So excited that I had the baby this week and I had a family member say "oh wow, he doesn't look like either of you. Are you sure they gave you the right eggs?"...then she laughed, but it really got to me. Hormones, I guess. It started to freak me out and worry me.

Guess this is the one (of many) parts of IVF that suck. There is always that one little piece of doubt in the corner of your mind.
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  • Who says that?!?!

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  • She laughed, but I admit it made me worry that others are all thinking the same thing. 

    We used our own egg/sperm, but now I wonder if people will assume we used donor eggs, or there was a mixup.


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    IVF #1 March 6. 14 eggs retrieved, 10 fertilized. 
    March 11, 4 eggs transferred.
    March 21 BFP  :) Beta #1 457, Beta #2 1350, Beta #3 9619. 
    Due Date November 27, 2014
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  • Not nice!!  Plus, most newborns are still a bit too tiny and mushed up to always look like a parent.  You sometimes have to wait a few more weeks.  

    I was reading this funny pregnancy book for men last night that talked about the irrational fear some men have that the baby isn't theirs and I asked DH if he worries they gave us the wrong embryo.  It is something I've thought about, but in all likelihood, everything is a-ok.  Otherwise, I'll sue the shit out of the clinic.


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  • OMG- Hugs!! That is totally uncalled for...
    You're little miracle has been squished for 9 months- give him a chance... 
     
    (Maybe we can throw her in a tub for 9 months and see if she still looks like her parents- evil witch!)
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  • Thanks everyone! It's funny because for 9 months, it never worried me that a screw up could happen and suddenly, this happens and it put all kinda crazy (hormonal) doubts in my head....
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    Diagnosis: PCOS
    TTC: May 2013
    TX: IUI #1 with Follistim. Canceled due to too many follicles (10 + that were large); BENCHED
    IVF #1 March 6. 14 eggs retrieved, 10 fertilized. 
    March 11, 4 eggs transferred.
    March 21 BFP  :) Beta #1 457, Beta #2 1350, Beta #3 9619. 
    Due Date November 27, 2014
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    That was SO messed up to say. Very rude. Even if it was a donor Egg or Sperm it's not for someone to say! AND I don't think they mixed up your embryos. They have WAY too much on the line to be irresponsible. My RE said they don't even joke about it. It's like going into the airport and yelling bomb. Not funny.

    Babies look like wiggle worms!!!!!

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    DX: MFI-Very Low Count, I have Hashimotos.
    IVF prep September 2013 cancelled due to Ovarian Cyst
    IVF #1 October 2013 Antagonistic Protocol with ICSI  ER 10/31/13 (18R 16M 11F- 6 blasts to freeze)
    ET delayed due to OHSS 
    FET scheduled for July 8. Delayed due to a crazy high TSH (it had been under control for YEARS!)
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  • Exactly what @IFinTN said!  I can never tell until the baby is a bit older (and even then sometimes can't tell who the baby looks like)

    What your family member said was totally inappropriate and rude!  I would have loved to come up with a witty / snarky comeback to make that person realize how out of line they were - but even thinking about it I can't come up with anything.  SO sorry you had to deal with that.

    Hope you are enjoying lots of snuggles with your little one!
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  • ((hugs)) that was a shitty, shitty thing for her to say.  I don't understand why some people open their mouths sometimes!

    I also agree that new babies look like little mushy babies! They don't really start resembling one parent or the other for a little while.

    Try and shake that off and enjoy your new bundle!
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  • I am so sorry that she said that to you.. What a bitchy thing to say. They use so many precautions with these types of things, try not to worry.. I think all babies lol the same until the develop personalities and things like that. So sorry I hope it does not stick with you.
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  • wow, some people are so insensitive!
  • Wow, I cannot believe a family member said that to you! So rude and insensitive, especially just after having your LO. I'm so sorry. Big hugs.
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  • I'm sorry a family member said that. Kinda rude and inconsiderate. I had a rude comment made to me today too. I let the person know that I was not happy about the comment. Maybe you can do the same if it comes up again?
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  • Just wrong! Whatever happened to if you have something nice to say it, otherwise keep your mouth shut? Geez!

    ((Hugs)) don't let that comment get to you ... that's definitely not something I'd worry aboutin your shoes! Like pp have said, clinics have to much to lose to screw up!

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  • What the hell! What a rude thing to say! I'm so sorry she said that to you =[
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  • Thanks for the support everyone
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    Diagnosis: PCOS
    TTC: May 2013
    TX: IUI #1 with Follistim. Canceled due to too many follicles (10 + that were large); BENCHED
    IVF #1 March 6. 14 eggs retrieved, 10 fertilized. 
    March 11, 4 eggs transferred.
    March 21 BFP  :) Beta #1 457, Beta #2 1350, Beta #3 9619. 
    Due Date November 27, 2014
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  • Thanks everyone! It's funny because for 9 months, it never worried me that a screw up could happen and suddenly, this happens and it put all kinda crazy (hormonal) doubts in my head....

    People have asked me how I know they gave me the right sperm. My response now is a big shit-eating grin and I say, "Well, if we find out the doctors made a mistake, we won't have to worry about how we'll pay for his college tuition!"

    It lets them know this is YOUR baby, regardless of genetics, and that a screw up like that would mean serious malpractice (ie doesn't happen except with an extremely incompetent medical team).

    That's so beyond rude and inappropriate, I am so sorry someone was so ridiculous. Part of me wants to say something mean to that person, like, "Well, your babies looked nothing like you or your husband when they were first born either. Should we assume you cheated? Would that be an appropriate thing to ask?"
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  • That is seriously so insensitive and RUDE.  I give you credit for not bawling or flipping out..because I would have done either.  I really wouldn't be concerned about that right now...that baby is YOURS.  Enjoy it and certainly don't let some idiot ruin this precious time you have with YOUR newborn.  Plus...if it helps...I NEVER think newborns look like ANYONE!!  I'm sure you will begin to notice similarities once they start changing.

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  • What.The.Eff. That is absolutely not ok. Not to mention that in the beginning babies can tend to not look like either parent. They haven't even had a chance to grow in to their faces yet. Give baby a couple weeks and I'll bet she starts looking like you both if she doesn't already! :)

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    January 2014 - 2nd Cycle of Clomid - Positive OPK. BFN
    February 2014 - 3rd Cycle of Clomid - Positive OPK. BFN
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  • (Hugs) I'm sorry that you had to deal with that rude and insensitive comment. I don't understand how people think it's ok to make comments like that, especially to a new hormonal mother.
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