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topaz7777 · November 2014

I have another appointment at 20 weeks, otherwise not much going on here. I'm still getting sick, stupid MS won't go away.

GTKY: I'm done after this kid, but I did fertility with DD and with this one.

Lyndsey13 · November 2014

Not much new to report here. I'm still feeling great. This singleton pregnancy has been SO easy compared to my twin pregnancy. I have a midwife appointment Thursday. Unfortunately, I have an appointment every 2 weeks between my midwives and my MFM. They are both over an hour away, so it takes a lot of my time!

QOTW: This baby is a result of our second round. We did IVF and got our 2 year old twin girls but were left with nothing on ice. I always knew I'd want to do it again. I didn't think we'd decide to do it this early but it has worked out great so far! We had an absolutely amazing IVF cycle round 2 and now have 10 high quality frosties. I've always wanted a large family but after finding out we needed IVF for that to happen, I gave up that dream. I assumed we would do 2 rounds and end up with 3 kids, maybe 4 if we were REALLY lucky. Now knowing that we have the option of more is really confusing! I'm not sure what we'll decide to do at this point. I also know I don't want more than 5 kids. So that potentially leaves several. Its hard emotionally to know what to do with them. Its amazing @GrailSeeker14 that you can donate yours but I don't think I could do that. I also don't want to throw them in the trash. This part has been the most emotional aspect of our entire infertility journey. And being so grateful for the opportunity I never thought I'd have only throws more emotions into it. And since we will have 3 girls, my husband would really like to have a boy. Does that give us the right to choose what this next baby will be. Our RE is actually pushing us to do that. But I'm not sure that's something we want to do.

Sorry for the book! This is just something I have a lot of thoughts on right now. Thankfully, I don't have to make any decisions at this point!

catlover790 · November 2014

Hi everyone!

I had two appointments last week so lots to update! I had my 16w check up and had a high BP scare too! I know most of it is anxiousness from the doctor's office, I've always had higher readings when I go to the doctor. When I was with the RE though, when I went in for my follie checks it was normal ( I think since I went so often I finally got comfortable). It did go down eventually, so they did say to keep an eye on it. I have been trying to get more exercise in and be sure to relax after work so that it doesn't get any higher if it is borderline.

Other than that my check-up went well! Heard the heartbeat! We also had our elective ultrasound on the weekend! I definitely recommend it; they had a huge screen to see the baby on and my H could really see what was going on. We are having... a boy! I'm so excited!

When I first got in for the ultrasound the umbilical cord was covering the important spots and I was nervous they wouldn't be able to tell. The baby ended up moving, and as soon as he did I said, "boy" and she was like, "you're right! it's a boy!" I had been googling ultrasound pics of boy/girl so I would know what to look for! $:\$ "> It was a really fun day and I think it has made a lot of my worries go away. My H was so shocked by how much he moved around and he said it all feels so real. The last ultrasound he saw was at 7w. So, we are happy this week!

QOTW: We have plans to go through treatment again if we need to. I know with PCOS, there's a chance I can ovulate although it might only be a couple times a year. Our plan is to see how things look as far as my cycle after I breastfeed and not try/not prevent. We plan to give ourselves extra time for TTC for the second baby so that we aren't (hopefully) as surprised when things don't happen right away. We are willing to try treatments again; we would like at least three children but I know it will depend on how things work out. We feel so grateful to just have our baby boy on the way at the moment anyway!

catlover790 · November 2014

@GrailSeeker14‌ Glad your BP seems to be staying normal! Also, yay for showing!

@CaterinaC‌ I also feel like I look a little bigger than expected for where I am but I dont mind too much. I'm sure you look great!

@topaz7777‌ I'm sorry about the MS! I hope it goes away soon!

jszy10 · November 2014

Hey ladies!! I just feel on cloud 9 and so happy lately. I hope that lasts for awhile

. We have our reveal party Saturday, and I'm so excited to share with our family and friends! I had a check-up appt. with my OB yesterday and things are looking great. He said everything looks great and HR is great too. Baby was bouncing around a lot, so he had a tough time pinning down the HR at first. He also told me I haven't gained any weight since last time -- which I think was the highlight of my day lol. I about fell off the table and said "uh...sure doesn't seem that way!?!" as a point at my clearly pregnant belly, and he just said my body seems to be equalizing nicely!? Whatever...I'll take it!! haha

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QOTW -- We feel incredibly blessed to have 8 frosties!!! DH is 40 and he feels that he's not sure he wants more than one, but since he REALLY wanted a girl, I bet he'll go for a 2nd after we get adjusted to baby #1. We definitely don't want more than 2, so we will be donating what we have left when we know we are done.

fro88 · November 2014

Nothing to really report except I think I am juuuust starting to show, which is pretty exciting! Next appointment is not until the 24th, and then a week later will be the A/S so lots coming up.

My first two IVF experiences were awful, and ended in the loss of 3 babies (a set of twins and a singleton). I developed a severe case of OHSS and had to be repeatedly admitted and drained of fluid. It could have proved fatal if DH wasn't so insistent on making me call the doctor. I had no idea it was so bad, because I had no basis of comparison! The third round we used a new Dr. and everything has gone as smooth as silk. That being said, we would try again but only with this doctor (we have 2 on ice) and only one more retrieval cycle (and however many transfers we would gain from it) after that. If that failed, we would discuss adoption for child #2

Again, this is all how I feel in this moment, but who knows if I will change my tune after LO gets here.

pblge · November 2014

@Baby_blessings - You and I just continue to be in sync! Not only are our scans the same day, but we also want to do the trees on the wall of the nursery. We were going to do the decals because we're both bad at art. Good luck Monday!!!

@fro88 - Yikes, your OHSS sounds terrible! Glad you were okay. IVF is definitely hellish, especially if you lose your LO (or LOs). That happened to me the first round. Nightmare stuff. I'm sorry you went through that. ((hugs))

@jszy10 - Yay for a great check-up! And yay for all your frosties! Glad you're feeling so happy.

@CaterinaC - We need a bump pic! I love the idea of adopting, too. :x

@topaz777 - Sorry you're still dealing with ms. That has to end soon!

@Lyndsey13 - It's interesting that you say you could never put your embryos up for adoption. I have another friend who felt the same way, and I'm just the opposite: I can't imagine NOT putting them up for adoption. My friend assured me that I'll feel differently when I have my own children, so we shall see.

@catlover790 - Congrats on your boy!!! So glad you had a good ultrasound.

@Grailseeker14 - Glad the BP is doing okay! And yay for a little baby bump!!

AFM, the biggest event of the week was that I had food poisoning over the weekend, made worse by the fact that DH was out of town. It was really awful--I haven't vomited like that in years. It did give me a chance to read up on some stuff over the weekend, like clother diapering. That's overwhelming information! Otherwise, everything is fine, just very anxious for the a/s on Monday. Damn near terrified, actually. It's still a crazy idea to me that this would be a normal pregnancy after everything that I have a hard time imagining that the doctor won't find anything wrong, especially as it's a high risk doctor with the extra-fancy equipment. I just thank the gods every day for the doppler!

QOTW: We have ten chromosomally screened snowflakes on ice, so the obvious next step is to transfer them, two at a time. That's assuming, of course, that I carry and deliver successfully. I have no idea how enthusiastic I'll be to do that again after all this. I do want two (or maybe three?) kids, so we might adopt instead, which has always appealed to me. Whatever embryos we don't use will definitely be donated. I can't imagine not giving them the chance at life, although as I said above I might feel differently after I actually hold a kid in my arms. ETA: Realized that I should add that DH has refused to talk about next children with me yet. I think we both have some PTSD from the past 2.5 years, and he just can't even think that far ahead.

pblge · November 2014

@baby_blessings said:

@pblge We really are in sync! Good luck with your scan on Monday! The trees aren't hard, I thought they would be worse, but they are time consuming and if we could afford the vinyl we totally would do it! Is it creepy that I want to see your nursery when it's done?

ETA: I am also still a little in shock that this has worked and that there is nothing wrong so far. I think DH and I are both used to bad news so we keep expecting it. Trying really hard to just accept the good news.

I want to see your trees, too! I see nothing creepy about that. We're a long way from having ours done.

jszy10 · November 2014

pblge -- thanks hun!! SO sorry to hear about your food poisoning!!!! What a nightmare that must have been

DH won't talk to me about future kids either...I just told him we need to agree to wait a year before we make a decision, so we get to experience parenthood for a little and decide what we'd like to do then. I think they are just busy trying to process THIS being for real, finally!

Can't wait to hear about your scan!

stranzm · November 2014

We toured daycare centers and definitely have a a preference different than our expectations. We have one more to tour that is my top pick based on feedback, but they do not currently have an opening until 2 months after our desired date. However, if we like it I'm going to put a deposit down on two and see if an opening comes up. I couldn't believe it didn't have an opening this far in advance. Makes me glad that we did this now.

QOTW: We have 1 frozen embryo. I'm hoping for success on that one, but I'm nervous since we put in two of the best embryos (we did genetic testing) and only one took. We will go through another IVF cycle if needed. I was just hoping to avoid that route. We really don't want an only child, but that may be what we are actually blessed with.

Seachele98 · November 2014

Not much to report here. I have my anatomy scan with the high risk dr on Friday. I'm getting very anxious/nervous to see our little girl and make sure everything is going ok. I don't have a doppler, because I know I'd go insane if I ever have trouble finding a HB. My only comfort is that (i think) I'm feeling some movement in there at least once a day. I've been working on the nursery as well, since I'm making our bedding. It keeps me positive and preoccupied.

QOTW: right now our plan is also to not try/not prevent pregnancy. Since I'm borderline PCOS and DH has low motility it's not likely, but still possible. DH is really hopeful that we can conceive naturally, although the RE said there's only about a 1% chance. Fortunately we have 11 frosties, so we'll go that route for sure. We can't afford another stim cycle, nor do I think I want to go through it again. We haven't discussed how long we will wait before the next. Probably a year or so.

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blueberries8 · November 2014

Update: I had an u/s to check cervical length a few days ago at 16w5d. The tech got a measurement of 2.8cm, which was a full cm difference from 3.8 two weeks ago. It made me very anxious and down due to my history and I couldn't get hold of the MFM who ordered the ultrasound to discuss the results. I ended up seeing the OB on call yesterday and another tech repeated the ultrasound and got a measurement of >4cm! Not sure whether there was an error in measurement the other day or whether my cervix is dynamic. I will definitely ask my OB what she thinks at my regular appointment next week. Also, my placenta previa hasn't moved, but hopefully I still have a while for it to resolve. I started progesterone for prevention of PTL last week.

QOTW: If this pregnancy results in two healthy babies to take home, definitely not. I was fine with returning to treatment to conceive this pregnancy and it no question made getting pregnant again more efficient (we only tried on our own this time around for a few months....much less emotionally challenging than all of the time we spent trying on our own TTC #1 before treatment) but I am ready to be done with that part of my life and I also worry about possible long-term effects way down the road from having done so much IVF.

Alicia_R1 · November 2014

Hi ladies

@Grailseeker14 thanks for running the checkin and glad that your BP is doing well

@catlover790 congrats on your little boy!!!!!!

@pblge - ug I am sorry to hear about your food poisoning

We (ok I) did a lot of shopping over the weekend. We got the furniture ordered for Hayley's room and DH has started work on the basement to frame it out for a spare bedroom and a walk in closet for me to store some of my clothes

I went a bit crazy shopping for me, but there were some great sales on maternity clothes, and what can I say, I discovered they are kind of comfy. I think I have a very pronounced bump, but when I was shopping some of the ladies were surprised that the clothing was for me saying "you don't even look pregnant"

We have our 19 week appt today with the OB, we had to push our anatomy scan back to the 25thworks out as I just want 1 child. I know DH thinks he would prefer more, but I also just don't want to go through pregnancy again either and have decided that I will have a tubal ligation done during my c-section.

pblge · November 2014

@Alicia_R1 - Hold the phones--is Hayley the name of that little one in your belly? If so, I think you may be the first one with a name! @Grailseeker14 - Should we add those to the list? We could color code people so the user names are in pink, blue, or green, and names are off to the side. Just a thought. I'm not sure how many people will be letting their name choices be known here, but it could be fun to list them all for those who are. Btw, the name Hayley is awesome!

PS. I feel like a have a huge bump, too. When I look down I see my belly sticking out, for the first time in my life. But when I look at myself in the mirror, it doesn't look like a baby bump at all. :-/

AMShark · November 2014

Hello, ladies. I'm 16w0d today. I have an MFM appointment tomorrow to check cervical length - hopefully, I won't have much to report after that. I need to wait until 4-Dec for my anatomy scan - I'm really looking forward to it. Things have been pretty uneventful for me. I do feel like I'm gaining weight a little too quickly, even for a twin pregnancy, and my old pal Google agrees. I'm trying to squeeze in a little more moderate exercise and a little less snacky-foods to slow that down.

QOTW: I love this question @GrailSeeker14 - It's been very interesting seeing the different responses. AFM - If we get our healthy twins as planned, I think we are done with fertility treatments. I don't plan to go back on birth control. My RE never came up with any reason for our IF, but 6 years of trying, 1.5 years of that with medical assistance, makes me think we won't be getting a surprise BFP anytime in the near future.

We don't have any frosties, because.... well, we just don't. We had decided in advance that if we had anything frozen after we'd completed our family, we would either donate to another couple, or to research - but I prefer the idea of having given them all their shot at life. (But, I do think @pblge brings up a good point - I guess I'll never really know, because I'll never really have that choice to make).

I also think I would like a 3rd child (again, I can't say for sure until after I actually have the twins). Since we're not likely to suddenly win the fertility lottery, I think I might need to do some convincing of DH to think about adoption.

In the hopefully unlikely scenario in which I lose one or both of my babies, I think I would go back to IVF, but I don't think I could do more than 3 cycles. After that, we would start the process for adoption.

keifekm · November 2014

We are between appointments so not much to report. I swear I feel baby moving when I lay down so that helps me feel good about things. Our next appointment is 11/24 and it can't get here soon enough. I just want to know that everything is ok with baby and the ultrasound will certainly help. We are going to get the sex results and do a reveal with my parents on 11/30. I can't wait!!

QOTW: we didn't have any usable embryos leftover so we will be starting from scratch if we decide to have a 3rd baby. I have always loved the idea of adoption so we may pursue that route. IVF was so stressful and emotionally taxing for DH and I that I'm not sure if we can do it all over again.

Alicia_R1 · November 2014

@pblge yes that is her name! and thank you!

I swear this past week I have jumped up in weight too, I only get weighed at appointments but it was a shock since I didn't feel like I'd gotten much bigger. I think wearing maternity clothes accentuates the bump or it could all be in my head....

Haley612 · November 2014

Not much to report this week. Sleeping is getting increasingly uncomfortable, but I'm now feeling movement every day, which is really exciting! Can't wait til its stronger and more consistent.

QOTW:

We have 4 frozen blastocysts (untested, so not sure how many of those are viable). Our plan is to try on our own for 6 months when this baby is a year old, and if that doesn't work, we'll transfer another embryo, one at a time. It's very unlikely, but not impossible, we would conceive on our own. It happened once, but ended in a chemical. We also would not use any birth control after this baby (not try/not prevent). It seems absurd to use birth control after everything we've gone through!

I've always wanted 4 kids, but definitely at least 3. If we don't have enough viable frozen embryos for 3 kids, I would definitely go through another retrieval, but probably not to have 4. I would just stop at 3. Lately my husband has been pushing for stopping at 2, which is making me nervous. I think this pregnancy has been a lot harder on him than he expected. I have rheumatoid arthritis and I'm off all medication, so he is our sole breadwinner right now, and he has to pick up a lot of the slack around the house too. Hoping things get easier once the little one arrives.

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KellyA724 · November 2014

@GrailSeeker14 - glad your BP has been okay! I'm also impressed with your decision to donate - I'll get into my plans later, but I think that's so incredibly selfless of you.

@CaterinaC - I have a friend who looked about 30 weeks when she was 16 weeks, so you're not alone there.

@catlover790 - congrats on the baby boy!!

@jszy10 - I'm glad you're feeling so happy lately! It's nice to get past the constant fear of first trimester, right?

@baby_blessings - I hope you'll post a pic of that nursery wall when you finish!

@pblge - so sorry to hear about your food poisoning, yuck!

@stranzm - that's great that you already found a couple of daycares! I'm feeling super behind on this.

@Alicia_R1 - I feel the same way re: belly size. DH and I think I have a huge belly, but I've had several people tell me they can't even tell I'm pregnant. I have NO clue why they can't see it when it's so huge to us!

KellyA724 · November 2014

Whoops, I posted before I put in my own update! And sorry this is so late, I was at a conference all week.

We haven't had any appointments since two weeks ago, but our A/S is scheduled for the 26th. I've been feeling baby move every day, which is absolutely amazing. I get sort of giddy every time I feel it. My belly is definitely growing, which I love. But, as I mentioned above, there are still people who are shocked when I mention that I'm 18 weeks pregnant. I'd guess that it's because I'm all belly and carrying completely in front at this point.

As for future treatments, we have 7 embryos on ice. We will definitely shoot for one more child, and won't try to prevent at all after this baby arrives. Seems highly unlikely that we'd conceive on our own, but we have an unexplained infertility diagnosis so it's still possible.

We haven't completely decided what to do with any unused embryos. We aren't comfortable donating to another couple, because we just won't know anything about them and hate to think about what could happen to a child that is biologically ours that is just out there. We had originally planned to donate to science, but DH is concerned that they will become "lab slaves"- I think he has a fear of some sort of sci-fi scenario going down. I can't even imagine just discarding them, though. To me that feels sort of like an abortion, and after everything we went through, the thought of that makes me sick to my stomach.

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