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How would you handle this discipline related?

chelseymatchelseymat member
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DS1 is on a soccer team with several of his neighborhood friends. The kids from the neighborhood used to be nice kids but I'm not sure what happened. One of them is constantly calling the other one names until he snaps and punches him. While my kid isn't involved in the altercations per say, he's having a really hard time paying attention to the coach in soccer because he's in the middle of everything. Soccer practice is a nightmare. The regular coach only shows up about half the time and doesn't tell anyone he's not going to be there so the other dads are forced to step in with no notice and no supplies. Not one of the 7 kids listens to a word these guys say. They are running around like crazy, screaming, getting in each others facing (both playing and angry) and like I said, the two kids we know are constantly fighting. DS is no special snowflake but he tends to be a pretty good listener and pretty compliant kid (I've never had a behavior problem at school) and he isn't listening either. He loves soccer though. Last night when he wasn't listening I pulled him off the field and made him sit out until he was ready to practice. It helped for awhile but with all the other chaos, it went back to the same problem. Do I pull him again and make him sit again? Once he gets back out there the other kids are so distracting that they are right in DS's face talking over the coach. I mean not one of these other parents, aside from the dad that fills in coaching, is disciplining their kids at all. One of the moms was looking right at her kid when he punched another kid in the face and she just ignored it. WTF? Do you have any suggestions besides making sure we get on another team next season? I'm at a loss here. *Again, please don't think I'm saying DS1 is some special super listener…..that he is not. I just don't know what to do to help him focus in complete chaos*
Gabriel 11/04/09 Vincent 9/17/11 Grace 8/02/13
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  • kcisthebombdotcomkcisthebombdotcom member
    I would just remain consistent with my discipline. Just because other kids are allowed to act a certain way doesn't mean he can. That's a pretty important life lesson to me. I would mention to the coach that the team has become total chaos due to the inconsistency and inquire about an assistant coach. It doesn't surprise me a bunch of school age kids are acting out due to the poor structure/inconsistency.
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  • chelseymatchelseymat member
    kcisthebombdotcom said:
    I would just remain consistent with my discipline. Just because other kids are allowed to act a certain way doesn't mean he can. That's a pretty important life lesson to me. I would mention to the coach that the team has become total chaos due to the inconsistency and inquire about an assistant coach. It doesn't surprise me a bunch of school age kids are acting out due to the poor structure/inconsistency.
    Thanks. I guess I'm just frustrated because DS is getting close to nothing out of this season and he was so excited to play. I tried talking to him and explaining that sometimes the whole team needs a good listener to show them the right way to act and he could be that guy. I'll just keep making him sit out until he can listen.
    Gabriel 11/04/09 Vincent 9/17/11 Grace 8/02/13
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  • Linnea503Linnea503 member
    I would probably try to find a more organized league that allowed the kids to actually play and practice soccer. What you're describing is out of your control (the other kids, the lack of structure) so like I said, I would try to switch.
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