OPP Tuesdays

theholmanherd · November 2014

Other People's Pregnancies are only good for one thing: getting a good rant in. Have at it, ladies!

theholmanherd · November 2014

My best friend is about to have her second kid. My other BFF is NTNP, but I just know she will get knocked up soon and will lap me, too. They both got pregnant with their firsts within the first month of marriage (one wasn't even trying). It's just so frustrating. Everyone else can just decide to have a kid and it just happens. For us? Years of agonizing and then nothing to show for it at the end (well, many of us will eventually have kids, but unfortunately not all of us). #$%^&*

valcow · November 2014

I'm not very active on here, please forgive me for that. Quick background: I'm the oldest of 4 sisters. Each of them has at least 1, and were all oops babies. I can't even get even get 1 BFP! H and I have been married 5 years and TTC for exactly 1 year.

One of my sisters had her 3rd baby last night, the first boy on my side. I'm happy for her, but she needs to stop! She can't even move out of my mom's house. I'm just glad that I won't be able to visit till this weekend. I don't think I can handle, "all your sisters have babies, when are you gonna have one"

typo31 · November 2014

This Sunday I attended a baby shower for one of my oldest friends. I knew it was going to be tough. She, another friend (also at the shower), and I were unbelievably close from first grade on. The other friend is also pregnant - they are both due within a week of one another next month and looking so damn adorable. We took a picture with me in the middle and both the bumps on either side of me. Sigh.

Because there were a lot of hometown moms and family friends at the shower, and because we always did things as a threesome growing up, there were tons of comments from people being surprised that "(I'm) not pregnant along with them!" The host of the shower was very pregnant, and I was one of only two young people there who aren't mothers or currently pregnant.

I felt awful because my mom was with me, and I haven't told her yet about our IF. I was cranky and quiet and I don't see her too often and she was probably wondering what the hell was going on. Maybe she can guess.

That invitation on my fridge has been mocking me for a month now, I'm so glad to be able to throw it away

Ed: left something out

megrae12 · November 2014

So, most of you know we had our second loss last week. The very next day, we found out H's cousin (who is like his sister) tell us she is 12 weeks pg with second kid. Seriously??!!! I ugly cried for like 20 minutes and told H that I was not going to be able to do Christmas with them this year. I just can't. Why can they get pg so easily, and I can't? Why them and not me?

On another note, my coworker is pg and due Dec 10th. She has been pretty good about not rubbing it in, but lately, she is driving me batty!!! All I hear day in and day out is we have this ready and blah, blah, blah. Oh and did I mention she got KU on her FIRST cycle off BCP?! FML.

SND1231 · November 2014

So I went to a friend's birthday party on Saturday. Another friend who is about 11 weeks preggo came in and I just knew it was going to be bad. She's the one I have mentioned previously who is constantly complaining about not being able to do anything yada yada and how much she hates being pregnant and wishes she hadn't gotten preggo.. etc.. So I am in the kitchen helping out and she comes up to me and gives me a huge hug and says I really need a hug today. I am just so tired. I made my mom come pick up Kensi ( He two year old) because her DH was out of town. She proceeded to tell me how terrible being pregnant was. How she always feel nauseated and cant take care of her child because she is just too tired. So she has taken her daughter to her moms house pretty much every single day since she found out she was pregnant. She goes on and on about everything bad.. She then goes on to tell me that she went to a baby shower (which I skipped) and asked why I wasn't there. I just said well to be honest talking about babies and seeing pregnant people is a just a little too hard right now. She totally turned and walked away because apparently I was rude!! Are you kidding me! She knows that we are having TTTC and she still felt the need to complain constantly to me and then get mad because I said it was too hard right now.

DSculley1824 · November 2014

@amlrunner‌ yes!! What the heck Jill Duggar. Her pregnancy has really hit me hard. And I also watch Five Wives on TLC and one of the wife's daughter just announced her pregnancy. What's up with all of these TLC reality people getting pregnant instantly who just get married. Not fair. Had a pity party to myself while watching.

mshandlebar · November 2014

@lemonliz That is the worst! I had the same problem with my father. It got to the point where I didn't want to talk to him about anything at all. I know he wasn't trying to be hurtful, and I actually think he was just overcompensating by being super OK about everything. I ended up snapping at him one day. He got the full force of my hormone driven rage. I told him I didn't care if he got pregnant, I don't want to know about it! He understood and was very compassionate, and I haven't heard a peep about other pregnancies or births since. Depending on your relationship with your mom, I would tell her. You don't need that sort of stress and frustration in your life.

BunnyBerry · November 2014

Enjoyed holding the 3-month-old daughter of a good friend at church on Sunday. But although I babysat infants for years, I now feel insecure/awkward/inferior when holding or playing with babies, like I am a failure and don't know what I'm doing. So I felt really nervous holding her, and was kind of freaking out, like, she is so much heavier than I expected, and are all her limbs comfortable...she kind of wiggled and I reacted by looking so scared that her mom took her back from my arms. It was sad and embarrassing and just weird but I couldn't figure out where all those feelings were coming from.

And of course, while holding her some guy at church said, "Careful, it's catching!" I just said, "Hope so!" but grr! Either I don't or I do want kids right now, so how is that polite to say either way?

@typo31 I'm so sorry, I'm really glad that shower is over.

Hopefully soon you'll have success and be able to look back and laugh at that photo!

stace2524 · November 2014

I hate FB.... Need I say more....

deelopi9 · November 2014

I've been good with avoiding my very good friend's pregnancy journey and yesterday she asked me to help create a candy station for her baby shower. I used to have a candy station party business w/my BFF. I wasn't sure if I was even going to her baby shower. What to do...my gut tells me do the candy stations and if on the day of I'm not up to it, just hand it over completed to our other good friend who's hosting it. My good friend knows about our journey...I hope she is understanding.

redandblue · November 2014

I hear you @stace2524‌ . FB can definitely be a trigger. I have two to complain about . One is my DH twit of a friend (I have complained about her here before ). She finally had her baby, a really cute little guy. I am happy for her and hope that this will help her to grown up and perhaps deal with some of her own issues. But she posts on FB the other day how he is growing so much and she wishes he would slow down. Um idiot he is like 2 weeks old. I have to remind myself she is an idiot, and is just enjoying her moment, but it bugged me. My second OPP is older now, but it still triggers for me. (I hope it's okay to share two). It's one of my BFF's. She got married 3months before me. She got pregnant on her honeymoon, which she discovered very early but ended in an early miscarriage. She then got pregnant right away. So when she was in my wedding 3 months later, she was basically 2 1/2 months pregnant. Yay for her! Well it's my 4th wedding anniversary on Thursday, and here we are. She has a wonderful family (between the 2 of them they have 4 children). My friend has been supportive, but when I told her about our plans, fertility and now starting to explore adoption, she was like' oh we have talked about adopting also. Even though we done having our own biological children, I don't know if we are done parenting'. Um okay. Why don't you do that. Ugh. I guess my anniversary this week is triggering me.

SND1231 · November 2014

Thanks ladies. It feels so glad to be able to talk about the things that drive me nuts and someone actually understand where I am coming from!

eener817 · November 2014

Ugh, mine is my old roomate. We were in eachother's weddings, so pretty close. She didn't tell me ahead of time and I found out on FB. The photo of her and her DH cradling her bump in front of the Eiffel Tower was just f-ing perfect. And then when I didn't respond on FB, she actually had the nerve to message me and ask if I was mad at her. I gave her the whole diplomatic response - no, happy for you, blah blah. When I saw her in person next, she of course had to tell me that she wanted to tell me in person, but we just hadn't seen eachother for a while. A text message would have sufficed. And then she OF COURSE had to defend herself and say "I swear, we weren't trying!". Dude, totally not what I want to hear. I just had her baby shower a few weeks ago and it took 2 xanax and a bottle of wine to even get me through it.

This is super mean of me, but it makes me sort of happy that she doesn't look so good. She is due in January and is bigger than our 2 other KU friends who are due any day. I'm going to hell.

SND1231 · November 2014

@hruska I have tried avoiding her at all costs. We are not close. We rarely text or do anything, but since she got KU she has constantly calling and texting complaining to me. I seriously can't stand being around her now.
Edited bc the bump decided to repost my previous comment.

juneroses · November 2014

lemonliz said:

eener817 said:
This is super mean of me, but it makes me sort of happy that she doesn't look so good. She is due in January and is bigger than our 2 other KU friends who are due any day. I'm going to hell.

QUOTE FAIL

@lemonliz‌ said: If you're going to hell, I'm going with you. I've thought this about a few acquaintances - mostly wives of MH's friends who were total AWs about their pregnancy. The more of an AW they are, the more I reserve the right to be petty.
Ladies, I am right there with you both. @eener817‌ happy pregnant pictures in Paris should be illegal. Travel is the one thing I use to console myself with - "if we never get to have a baby, think of how much easier it will be to go cool places while we are young". Your friend's picture post sounds brutal.

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