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magrong
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How can we(parents) bond more with baby?
magrong
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My husband and I work full time so we try to spend as much time with our 5month old baby before she goes to bed but the problem is she's so attached to her granny now and wants her all the time. When I hold her she's fine but when my husband holds her she fussy a lot. Granny lives with us so the baby sees her everyday. It has gotten to the point where she can only sleep with granny around her. Any advices on how my husband can bond with her more? I'm worried that because my mother in law lives with us that the baby will only want her even though we try to spend as much time with the baby as possible... It's starting to bother me that only my mother in law can comfort the baby. I know the baby trusts and relies on my mother in law because she's always around and they spend a lot of time together but is this something I should really worry about? I don't know what to expect and I don't want to over worry if the baby will be able to bond and rely on us all when she's a little older.
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CNYBride05 member
I'm confused as to why this is BFing specific....
That said, it makes sense that she's well bonded to her primary caregiver. I can imagine how hard it is to have it be her granny. I'd be heartbroken. I don't really have advice other than make sure you do the care taking when you are there and maybe gave your mil stay back a bit.Natural m/c Oct. 2005
Dx: balanced translocation and LPD
TTC since Oct 2011
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BFP 12/02/12, u/s @ 6w,5d showed 2 HBs! Identical twins!!
Bed rest from 21w-35w due to short cervix, hospital bed rest from 23w-32w due to PTL
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mommatotwo2 member
Just in case you don't come back here to check, I'll tag you @magrong.
My LO went through this early on with her daycare providers. From about 5-9 months old (approximately, my memory is foggy), she would actually cry horribly when I picked her up from daycare, it was pretty heartbreaking for me!
A couple of months ago, LO started having separation anxiety when I left her with those same daycare providers. Now, she's mostly ok when I drop her off.
My point is- its all just a phase. Baby knows that you are her momma and trust me, there is nobody she loves more than her parents. That being said- even though it broke my heart that my LO temporarily seemed more attached to her daycare providers, it gave me peace knowing she felt secure and loved while she was away from me 10 hours a day.
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