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Ways to tell DH we're pregnant?

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Hi everyone,

I am back after quite a long break. We have been TTC for 3 years now. In that time, I've had 2 pre-cancerous cervical cancer surgeries to remove cells. In May I had a scar tissue removal surgery to help with the pain I was having with periods and to help give us better chances to conceive. In the last 3 years I have probably taken about 20 pregnancy tests, all with a big fat negative. 
Well, this morning, after several days of feeling nauseous, I took a test this morning and got 2 lines. I was so shocked I took another one to make sure it was correct. It was!
We are pregnant with baby #3. Now, what I need help with is how to tell DH, then our daughters (51/2 and 31/2). I've seen lots of 'tel the extended family' ideas, but I am looking for a special way to tell my DH, since we have struggled for so long. 

Please share any ideas you might have. Thanks in advance!
~mantle



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  • mantlemantle member
    lol, Yes, but after 3 years of trying and knowing that this may be the last one we are blessed with, I'd like to come up with something a bit more special. 



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  • amyjay23amyjay23 member
    My sister really struggled with fertility and they tried for two years.  She found the most adorable little onesie that said "Worth the Wait" with a cute little turtle on it and put it in his briefcase (which she knew he was about to reopen to start some work at home.  He was really surprised, and they ended up doing a newborn shoot with the LO in the onesie.  Precious!
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  • mantlemantle member
    MauiBliss, that is pretty funny! I also like your Ides of March in your signature. 

    Thanks for the feedback. I really am not looking for anything super cutesy. I just wanted to try something more than just telling him. For the first two, he was with me when we took the tests. This time I took it on my own, because after 20 some negatives, they excitement was dwindled and I was tired of us both being disappointed. 

    @ amyjay23, I really like the idea that you shared. Since I am not sure how much longer I can hide this nausea, I may just make one myself with that phrase. Thanks for the suggestion! Simply, easy, functional.



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  • mantlemantle member
    jefa621, that is not at ALL want I mean to imply to anyone!

    Everyone has a different story and a different way to share their amazing news. I just though t that asking here, I might find something that felt right for us. 

    I am SO sorry if I offended anyone. That was not, in any way, my intention. 

    Every single one of the babies we are blessed with is special and whether it is a simple, "We're pregnant" or an elaborate dinner out, the message is the same: we are about to grow another human being to add to our family. 

    Hugs to you all!



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  • thehills1983thehills1983 member
    I was going to plan something cute like a #1 Dad mug, but there was no way could I keep myself from calling him as soon as I got the BFP. I was so excited! How are you keeping this in?
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  • AmstreagleAmstreagle member
    If you've been ttc that long I'm pretty sure just telling him will be exciting enough. In fact he's been on this journey with you so I actually can't believe you haven't told him yet. IMO it's pretty shitty you're holding off.
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  • BeachBum678BeachBum678 member
    DH was with me when I took the test. We set it down in the counter and watched it together. He kept saying, "Wait 3 minutes! It hasn't been 3 minutes yet!" even though the line took, like, less than 30 seconds to show up (what, like it's going to disappear?) Finally, we both just looked up at each other. DH said, with his voice all choked up, "We're gonna have a baby!" and threw his arms around me. It was beautiful and perfect and to this day one of my favorite memories.

    So you see, you don't have to do anything out of the ordinary to create a special moment. Some things in life are plenty emotional all on their own. Team "Just Tell Him" all the way.

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  • normandyn7normandyn7 member
    Amstreagle said:
    If you've been ttc that long I'm pretty sure just telling him will be exciting enough. In fact he's been on this journey with you so I actually can't believe you haven't told him yet. IMO it's pretty shitty you're holding off.

    This was my first thought too. If DH and I were trying for 3 years and I finally got a positive I would have told DH right away. If he wasn't home I would have sent him a picture of the positive test. Just tell him.
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  • Buckles0528Buckles0528 member
    edited November 2014
    I took the test while he was at work and wanted to tell him in person when he got home, not over a text.  Way too impersonal, I wanted to see his face.  I bought a onesie, put it in a Banana Republic bag and said, "check out the shirts I bought you today let me know if you like them."  When he pulled the onesie out he knew right away and cried.  I would never tell over a text, but that's just me.  Good luck.
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  • oneblessedmessoneblessedmess member
    Throw the pee stick at his face and yell "Surprise, mofo!!"

    (I'm another one who just walked out the bathroom and told DH. In fact he's the one who picked up the test on the way home lol. But I'm sure whatever you come up with will be just the right amount of special.)
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    vineheart137 said:
    Throw the pee stick at his face and yell "Surprise, mofo!!" (I'm another one who just walked out the bathroom and told DH. In fact he's the one who picked up the test on the way home lol. But I'm sure whatever you come up with will be just the right amount of special.)
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  • PrimRoseMamaPrimRoseMama member
    Cook him his favorite meal & tell him over dessert. Good food plus good news always wins in my house.


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  • sschwegesschwege member
    I bought 'big sister' and 'big brother' books from the bookstore.  After the kids went to bed, I handed him the bag and said, "Check out the books I got for the kids!"  I figure we can wrap them up for the kids when we are ready to tell them.
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  • WhitfryWhitfry member
    edited November 2014
    I had all sorts of cute plans that I'd have gone through with if I'd waited to test until DH was at work. I tested a day earlier though, stared at the test in shock, sort of stumbled out of the bathroom grinning like a stupid idiot and asked him if he thought it looked positive. Then I spent the rest of the week peeing on sticks "just to make sure".
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    BeachBum678 said:
    DH was with me when I took the test. We set it down in the counter and watched it together. He kept saying, "Wait 3 minutes! It hasn't been 3 minutes yet!" even though the line took, like, less than 30 seconds to show up (what, like it's going to disappear?) Finally, we both just looked up at each other. DH said, with his voice all choked up, "We're gonna have a baby!" and threw his arms around me. It was beautiful and perfect and to this day one of my favorite memories. So you see, you don't have to do anything out of the ordinary to create a special moment. Some things in life are plenty emotional all on their own. Team "Just Tell Him" all the way.
    What a great story!  It's funny my cousin did the same thing!  She said the plus sign popped up, but the three minutes weren't up yet.  She left the bathroom, started to clean out her closet, came back a few minutes, still a plus sign, must be pregnant!  What a terrible pregnancy test that would be, "Hooray, we're are pregnant!" two minutes later "Oh man, we didn't wait the full three minutes!"
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  • delujm0delujm0 member
    I basically came running out of the bathroom waving a pee stick and woke DH up immediately. There's no way I could have kept that from him long enough to come up with a creative scheme.
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  • orangecurlsorangecurls member
    Have a martini waiting for him when he gets home and tell (or show him).
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  • oneblessedmessoneblessedmess member
    KingLED said:
    vineheart137 said:
    Throw the pee stick at his face and yell "Surprise, mofo!!" (I'm another one who just walked out the bathroom and told DH. In fact he's the one who picked up the test on the way home lol. But I'm sure whatever you come up with will be just the right amount of special.)
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    Joy2611 said:
    vineheart137 said:
    Throw the pee stick at his face and yell "Surprise, mofo!!" (I'm another one who just walked out the bathroom and told DH. In fact he's the one who picked up the test on the way home lol. But I'm sure whatever you come up with will be just the right amount of special.)
    I didn't know you were pregnant!!  Congrats!!!

    EDIT: I am not... I just post everywhere :-)
    Haha yeah... We had decided to postpone TTC until next year for various reasons... And now, well... Surprise, mofo!

    Thanks love!! ^_^
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  • AmstreagleAmstreagle member
    I showed dh the test. His response "what is that thing". Me "a pregnancy test". Him "Oh what does it mean?". Face palm. I just wanted to show you where I marked my territory. I'm pregnant idiot!
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    Glad you liked it!  Can't wait to hear how it goes!
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  • iteachkids81iteachkids81 member
    Maybe put the youngest child in a cute shirt that says "not the baby anymore' or "big sister (brother) July 2015" ?
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  • crikit83crikit83 member
    I was so entirely shocked, I just showed him the test because k couldn't make words happen.

    He was crazy excited, and then all "ew, wait, didn't you pee on that? Don't put them near my face." And then we cried. It was damn near magical.
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