Pregnant after a Loss

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AshReneeRNAshReneeRN member
edited November 2014 in Pregnant after a Loss
Hi all. I've only been lurking this board (been posting a little in May birth month). I didn't want to jump in too early just to have to bow out. My name is Ashley. This is my second pregnancy. I experienced a loss at 9 wks last time which occurred naturally, and I hadn't had an ultrasound yet so no idea when he/she stopped growing and never saw a heartbeat.

This time I'm scared to death (a familiar feeling around here I know). I'm 10w6d today and have had 2 ultrasounds so far that looked great (hb 130 @ 7w1d, hb 182@ 9w2d, both measured spot on for edd of May 31). I have my 12w appt on Monday and while I'm not expecting an ultrasound, I'm optimistic to hear the heartbeat again.

I'm just really wondering when you girls start to relax a little, if ever. I'm so anxious leading up to each appt, I can't sleep or eat. I keep thinking once I know things are good this time then I'll feel better and I do feel better for a couple days but then the worry takes over again. I know you all understand where I'm coming from. So in your experiences, were you able to breathe a little sigh of relief after you hit the 12w appt healthy or am I destined to continue being a basket case the whole pregnancy?

I wish I could reach out and hug you all btw, I feel like I know so many of you from reading your stories both positive and negative. And I promise to try and stop lurking! Lol

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  • Welcome to the board. So sorry for your previous loss ((((hugs))))). Congratulations on this new pregnancy :).
    Began trying for a baby January 2012
    BFP 4.25.2013  EDD 1.3.2014  MMC 6.3.2013  D&C 6.19.2013
    BFP 11.3.2013  CP 11.6.2013
    BFP 3.31.2014 EDD 12.10.2014 Baby boy Carlson born 12.19.2014 
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  • Sorry about your loss:( congrats and welcome. I'm 29 weeks and still have good and bad days. The bad I think about mantras and keep going. Good luck on next appointment:)!
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  • Welcome and congrats! I still get anxious before appointments and I sm 30 weeks. I hope your appointment is wonderful.

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    BFP #1: 8/4/11; DS1 born sleeping on 11/16/11 at 19w1d

    BFP # 2: 5/7/12, EDD 1/10/13, DS2 born 1/4/13

    BFP # 3: 11/8/13, EDD 7/17/14, mmc 10wks

    BFP # 4: 5/16/14, EDD 1/15/15, praying for our 2nd rainbow baby 

  • Congrats and welcome! I am 25 weeks and still have some anxiety, especially before appointments and ultrasounds.  My anxiety was greatly reduced (but not gone) when I started feeling more constant movement.

    Married August 2003

    BFP: January 8, 2012
    Due: September 5, 2012
    DS: August 14, 2012

    BFP: November 5, 2013
    Due: July 11, 2014
    MMC Detected d&c: December 29, 2013 12w5d

    BFP: June 10, 2014
    Due: February 16, 2015


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    BFP #1: 8/17/13     Due Date: 4/26/14      MMC discovered @ 9w 4d       D&C: 10/2/13
    BFP #2: 12/23/13       Due Date: 9/6/14      MMC discovered @ 8w 5d    D&C: 2/6/14
    BFP #3 8/26/14     Due Date: 5/7/15  

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  • You girls are all so sweet. The support around here is incredible! Thanks for making me feel so welcome. I can definitely always use the hugs!! I'm anxiously awaiting my appt Monday morning, the mantras really do help :-)
  • Welcome and congrats!

    BFP #1 7/6/2012, EDD 3/13/2013, Delivered 3/14/2013

    BFP #2 1/7/2014: EDD:9/14 MC: 1/9/2014 (confirmed via blood work)

    BFP #3 7/5/2014: EDD 3/11/2015 MC: 7/15/2014

    BFP #4 11/7/2014: EDD 7/17/2015~~Please be my RAINBOW!

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  • Welcome and congrats!!
    BFP #1: It's a GIRL! DD born October, 2012
    BFP #2: m/c at 7w, February, 2014
    BFP #3: It's a BOY! Please be our rainbow! Due February, 2015

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  • Welcome and congrats!! It's difficult once you've experienced a loss. I have my moments of sheer terror and moments where I'm just so happy to be exhausted and nauseous. I'm 10w 4d (we're almost EDD twins!) and have also had 2 ultrasounds which looked good. I go for my genetic testing & u/s on the 18th and my last one was 10/17 so it's been a nerve-racking few weeks and I'm sure this next week will seem to drag on forever I try to keep busy but it's not easy. I just ordered a home Doppler and am hoping that being able to hear the HB will alleviate some worrying? I know some women find great comfort but it can be beyond worrisome if you can't find a HB. It's not for everyone. I wish you the best of luck and know that you came to an AMAZING place for advice and support. Just know this: whatever it is you may be feeling us ladies can relate and will be here. Congrats again!
  • Welcome and congratulations! Making it past my loss milestones and getting out of the first tri helped me relax. That said, I have my a/s a week from tomorrow and I'm full of anxiety about it! If the results come back healthy, I'm hopeful I'll be able to relax more.

    Sending lots of sticky thoughts to you and your LO!
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    ***Losses mentioned.*** TTC #1 since May 2012. Me: 37, OH: 41. Ectopic August 2012 => tubal damage. :'(  Stage 1 endo removed June 2013. IVF #1 Oct/Nov 2013: Long Lupron with Gonal-F. 7R, 7M, 7F. 2 txfer@3d. Nothing frozen.  => M/C @ 8 wks. :'( Selected RPL panel all normal. Very hyper and brittle response to stims. IVF #2 (antagonist protocol) Feb 2014 => Converted to IUI (Perfect conditions). BFN. IVF #2.1 w/ new RE June 2014: Antagonist protocol. 33R, 31M, 30F, 19 blasts to test!!! I made it through without crashing!! :) Hats off to Dr. Fancypants!! ET of one 5AB blast. BFN. 13 10 CCS'ed snowflakes! FET #1 PUPO as of 7/29 Betas: 8/7@24, 8/9@97, 8/11@334 (etc.) Two sacs on 8/15, one seen on 8/18 after a bleed. U/s 8/25 (6+3) "perfect": 5.9 mm + HB@120bpm! U/s 9/4 (7+6): 15.9 mm + HB@172 bpm! Please, PLEASE stick this time!!!!
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  • Congrats and welcome! Congrats on some good initial ultrasounds too! I did relax a little bit when I hit around 12 weeks, however I don't know if I will ever completely relax. Hearing everyone's stories keeps many of us on heightened alert to the realities out there, though we know one situation has nothing to do with another. I do hope you find some sense of relief or relaxation in the weeks to come.
    PCOS & ute crew member
    BFP #1: 10/24/2012  EDD 7/3/13, missed m/c @ 9 weeks, D&E 
    DX: Septate Uterus. Septum resection 6/4/13
    BFP #2: 12/20/2013  EDD 9/1/14, missed m/c @ 7weeks, D&E
    BFP #3: 5/26/2014 EDD 2/7/15, missed m/c @ 9 weeks, D&E- DX Trisomy22
    RPL, Karyotyping, and SHG: All Normal
    BFP #4: 9/6/14 EDD 5/16/15 Praying for our RAINBOW!
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  • Welcome and congrats! I think it's different for everyone, but I felt a lot better after we had a good NT scan at 12w. I also got a Doppler to use at home so I could check on LO anytime I felt anxious. It gave me that peace of mind that I needed.
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    BFP #2 11/3/10; BO at u/s 10w6d 12/16/10; Natural MC 1/7/11; D&C 4/21/11
    BFP #3 10/27/11 Please stick, LO!! 2/6/12 It's a Girl! Alexis Grace born 6/29/12
    BFP#4 4/27/14 Stick, stick, stick!! 8/11/14 It's a Boy! Evan Wesley born 1/8/15
    "Patience is waiting. Not passively waiting. That is laziness. But to keep going when the going is hard and slow, that is patience."  Let it Be (blog)My BFP Charts
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  • Welcome and Congrats!  For me honestly the anxiety has yet to subside.  I don't think I will quit worrying until I am holding my LO (and then a whole new set of worries starts!) ((hugs)) I know how incredibly difficult this journey can be!


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    BFP #1 - 6-2009 - edd 1-23-10 - mmc - discovered by u/s @ 13wks 2days - D&C
    BFP #2 - 10-15-2010 - Baby boy born 6-11-11
    BFP#3 - 6-2013 - edd 2-21-14 -mmc discovered by u/s @ 9 wks - D&C
    BFP #4 - 3-10-14 - edd 11-19-14 - natural miscarriage 4-10-14
    BFP #5 - 8-24-14 - edd 5-5-15 - Please be our RAINBOW!!! <3
    U/S 9-30 - baby measuring right on track, heart rate of 155bpm
    U/S 10-8 & 10-14 - baby is growing perfectly!
    10-20 - 151 bpm 10-31 153 bpm
    11-13 IT'S A BOY!!!!!
    12-11 & 12-18 - 144 bpm everything looked great at recheck of a/s
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