Advice: when someone doesn't text back

epidemic · November 2014

So I'm not one for lots of drama, but this situation has been seriously weighing on me.

DH and I had the chance to have dinner with an old friend of mine from college. During dinner, we chatted about mutual friends (also in the military) who live nearby. He let slip that one of the couples is expecting. Given that I hadn't talked to them in awhile, (and they aren't big on fb) I messaged them congratulating them on the news. The husband responded with date and gender and also congratulated us on our little one. I offered to sew them a gift as I had done for other friends, but the wife has not responded to any of my messages or questions about her colors/themes for the nursery.

I'm thinking that she is perhaps upset that our friend let her news slip, and although I was just excited at the time, I seriously regret messaging them. I mean, if we live that close and they didn't share the news, I suppose I should have taken the hint that they were keeping things quiet.

So what would you do? Let it go? Message again in a week? Make something and send it without their input? Thanks in advance for the advice..

Edit: spacing

amandamarie2 · November 2014

I tend to take a long time to respond to texts (almost always hours later unless I'm expecting it) and one of my friends typically takes days to respond. It's not necessarily that she's upset. Even if she is, she could just be thinking about it before she responds- this is definitely something I do if I don't know how I want to respond, I would rather take the time to think of a good response than send something I don't really mean right away. Give her time.

kurban627 · November 2014

I'd say don't worry about it, but also don't continue texting until she responds. My sisters hate texting me because I don't respond quickly

erikaluna01 · November 2014

I'm going to say let it go and don't send anything unless she replies. It's rude and insulting when you're offering a present and people don't even say thanks. I'm the type that replies and expects people to reply so I don't bother with friends that take years to get back to me.