We have a mom's group through FB. I think maybe a handful of us SAHM. Often the handful will get together around lunch for play dates.
We also try to do evening Playgroup twice a week including a Saturday night.
The complaint from many WM in the group is that they feel excluded from the afternoon play dates. I've posted the time/location. Many have lunch breaks & I've told them we would love to eat lunch with them if they'd like.
The general issue is that they feel that we should not have get-togethers unless everyone can attend. I've voiced my opinion that this is not fair. The whole point of the group is social activity.
What does Jul13 say?
Limit GTG to weekends & evening?
GTG whenever & whoever can come will?
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We do post photos in the group of the GTG (all of them). I understand everyone's situation is different. I don't want to exclude anyone, but in reality we aren't excluding them. We are just working on different schedules. :-??
One of the SAHM suggested being Super Secret Squirrel about the GTG during work hours. I feel that is wrong & excluding. She's of the mind "what they won't know won't hurt" .
I'm not down with that. So I'm go in with open-door /info.
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We do a Wednesday night Movie + Potluck at my house. Basically pile the toddlers over for food & a cute movie. Spouses are welcome. Those start at 6:30pm, so I try to include everyone. I understand my kids are night owls. The other night owls can make these but often that seems to be bed for some of the families.
I want to please everyone & that's hard to do.
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Being a working mom has its up and downs, as does being a SAHM. One of the sacrifices WM's have to make, is decreased flexibility with play-dates. The kids of SAHM's shouldnt suffer because of that. Those other mamas need to put on their big girl panties.
Do I wish I could go to some daytime events like these? Sometimes.
Do I think others should be deprived of social lifelines because I can't make it? No way!!!
There are ups and downs to sahm and wm. This is a perk for the sahms.
I will say that it seems weird to invite them to lunch, because I really don't want to hang out with you and your kid sans my kid (unless you are my sister and those kids are my niece and nephews). Also, and I realize I need to gtfo this friend in general, but my one sahm friend talks about us getting together but then says her weekends are SOOO busy, because it is the only family time they get. No shit. So, as long as there are weekend Gtgs, they need to get over it.
Edit: I wouldn't keep the lunch play dates a secret, I just wouldn't be surprised if they don't look at lunch play dates as an opportunity for them to hang out.
Baby boy 7.10.13
You're probably just being too sweet (unless they're sending emails being like, "you effing bs are being the worst friends evarrr!")
It was a minor dust up.
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I mean, sometimes I'm sad that I don't get to do the stuff during the week, or that some of the moms have become closer friends because they see each other a lot, but...I don't really think that's THEIR fault, you know?
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