Another Sexy time poll

Re: Another Sexy time poll

• JmeJoLee83 member

  November 2014

  At almost 6 months pp I thought things would be back to somewhat normal. It's still uncomfortable to DTD and I'm just so anxious all the time. I can't seem to relax...ever. I'm having my parents watch LO this weekend so DH and I can "take a nap". We'll see how that goes [-O<

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• cinnamonsmiles member

  November 2014

  I'm a big fan of spontaneous sex so it just isn't happening as much as it used to. However, one of my New Year's Resolutions was to have sex with DH at least once a week, and I've been sticking to that ever since being cleared.
  
  Starting a schedule REALLY helped us (esp that 8pm bedtime), so there's not as much worrying that LO will wake up in the middle
  

  
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• katekat8721 member

  November 2014

  Like once every 3 weeks. Ish. I'm enjoying it a lot more, it's just ... I'd rather sleep haha.

  
  

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• steprozz member

  November 2014

  SS- I have had no desire since B was born. we had done it 1.5 times in 5 months (the first time doesn't count because we barely started before I made him stop so it gets a half a try for effort). then this month I decided to not take my BC thinking it was causing the lack of interest and sure enough I had all the urges and we did it twice this month. except now I'm in the middle of a ridiculous period that might be trying to kill me because I didn't take my BC this month so I guess I will just have to make more of an effort from now on since I have to take it.
  
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• elsa1688 member

  November 2014

  I'm trying to have sex much more regularly (2-3x week). I like my partner so much more when we are getting it regularly.
  
  (I always like him, I just get annoyed much less)

  

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• Abenedict2011 member

  November 2014

  Only 1.5 times here. LO interrupted our frat spontaneous attempt and the 2nd was great. DH has bee away on business for 2 weeks but hoping to get back to a more regular 1-2 times per week when he gets home. As pp have stated we get along better when we're more regular.

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• babygabe614 member

  November 2014 edited November 2014

  We are in the 1-2x/month camp but that is not ideal. I would prefer at least once/week because as PP stated, we just get along better that way. In my defense, my BC has my body all messed up so whether it is the hormones or the unpredictable periods, I feel like we are never in sync. 

  

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• lest12 member

  November 2014

  Only twice sine LO. The first time was after the dr's OK, then the second time was because DH surprised me - caught me totally off guard and we enjoyed the moment. I wish he would do that more, I seem to be too stuck in my own head or exhausted to get into it otherwise.

   

         

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• kriati03 member

  November 2014

  We have not dtd yet as we are both way to anxious about it. In defence, I had a 4th degree tear and about a million stitches. It doesn't hurt in day to day activities, but I have reason to believe it's going to kill when we try. I know, we just need to jump on the horse to get past this.

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• jacksoha member

  November 2014

  We go through spurts. Sometimes we will do it two or three times within a few days, then we will go two or three weeks with nothing. Both of us have really busy schedules and we've been dealing with head colds the past few weeks. We are also struggling to get in sync. He will be in the mood and I'm just too tired or I will want it and he is falling asleep lol

  

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• frenchchocolate611 member

  November 2014

  Ugh this has been horrible for us. I have no desire and it is still painful. I think the lack of Dtd is starting to drive us apart. I know my DH is frustrated.

   

  

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• fsumom member

  November 2014 edited November 2014

  Some of you are making me feel a bit better.  We still haven't.  I feel awful about it.  I'm really scared as I tore badly and had an episiotomy as well.  But, at least I got my VBAC right?

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• ashanne88 member

  November 2014

  1-2x/month camp.  It's finally not hurting but like PP have said, I'm too tired to try most of the time (and LO does not STTN).  If the option is DTD or sleep, I will always pick sleep.  Sorry DH.

  

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• k2k2tog member

  November 2014

  I voted 1-2 times a week, but it's actually more like once a week and a half. It takes me a lot to get into it, which is why we don't much, but once we do, I enjoy it. It still hurts, but not nearly as much as it did when we first DTD after getting cleared. 

  DD1: June 2014 - VBM4lyfe
  DD2: October 2016
  DC3: coming May 2019

  
  
  
  

  
  

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• izzetoot member

  November 2014

  We're about once a week. Im still struggling with getting in the mood, but its getting better.  I feel so unattractive because I can go days without showering, I'm always wearing sweats and baggy clothes to cover up my new baby body, and always have the ta ta's out for feeding/pumping.  My boobs are sooo not sexy anymore.

  
  

  Last night DH lit candles, got us a nightcap and was playing sexy music in the bedroom while I was bathing, feeding and getting LO to bed.  Then while I was pumping I fell asleep.  Mid pump, passed out on the couch with the bottles glued to my girls.  I woke up at 2am and crawled into bed. But made it up to him this morning

  
  

  
  
  
  

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• coffee89 member

  November 2014

  We did it about 3 times when we were first cleared 6 weeks PP. We are coming up on about 3 months with nothing.

  
  

  I'm tired, he is tired, someone has always been sick or busy. When I want he it doesn't and vice versa. I think we would have more sex if we were using some form of BC aside from NFP. After having Zach I'm just not comfortable with it, even though I know all the signs and it worked for us for so long.

  BFP: July 2013 M/C August 5, 2013

  BFP: October 22, 2013 EDD: June 21, 2014

  Baby boy arrived June 23, 2014

  
  BFP: February 2016 EDD: October 17, 2016

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• lecholls member

  November 2014

  In the once or twice a month camp. Every time we have sex our dogs flip the eff out and wake up the baby. Sorry husband, but sex is just not worth dealing with a screaming, sleepy baby. We are supposed to be getting a fence soon so we will be able to put the dogs out. Maybe that'll help.

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• jenlynne0624 member

  November 2014

  We are averaging 2 times a week. I know that it's important to him and we get along much better when we DTD. It took awhile to figure out what positions don't hurt (some still do), but once we've started it's good. Lube helps a lot 

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• MrsCase1 member

  November 2014

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  SS - lesbian married to a man.

  @kaysa2 I took a break for a few weeks and didn't see you got married! Congrats!
  

  
  

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• JujuB22 member

  November 2014

  SS because I keep having birth control issues and random bleeding. So depending on my hormones for the day I'm either attacking DH or not interested at all. Right now I'm not on anything so I want, but scared of getting knocked up.

  
  

  
  

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• KatCameBack member

  November 2014

  Hold the phones @kaysa2‌ ! Are you really married? Who needed health insurance? Does this mean we won't be treated to single-mom dating stories? I was kind of looking forward to those...

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• babygabe614 member

  November 2014

  I feel like I'm the only one who didn't realize you were married, @kaysa2! I'm not going to pry, but I will say that your life sounds incredibly interesting to me.

  

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• MrsCase1 member

  November 2014

  @kaysa2 yeah I'm not gonna pry, either but I feel like my absence has left a ton of holes in my fabric over here! I try so hard to follow everyone's stories, too. That's it, I can never go anywhere ever again, LOL.
  

  
  

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