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Any young first time moms!?

kaylaamarokaylaamaro member
in May 2015 Moms
im only 19. This was an accident but now I am excited. My boyfriend gets annoyed by how much I talk about the baby and how I'm always on this app. He's excited for the pregnancy also he's just annoying to me lately with my hormones. Anyone else young and scared to have your baby?
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  • taybrewertaybrewer member
    I had my daughter two weeks before I turned 19 she is now almost 4 my husband (boyfriend) at the time was the same way he was excited but also got annoyed at how obsessed I was with my pregnancy! It's totally normal you will both go through periods of adjustment & growth. Being scared is normal, I waited a while to tell my family I was pregnant the first time because I was so scared of them being disappointed, it was rough in the beginning but my daughter is so loved by our whole family everyone got on board & was supportive! Just stay positive & talk about your feelings & what your going through to help your boyfriend to understand bring him to dr apts to make him feel included & it will become real for him! The first time my husband saw my daughter moving inside of me he started crying! It's more real to you right now because your body is changing SO much but it takes a little longer for guys to understand espically being young! Good luck with everything
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  • McBaby19McBaby19 member
    I'm 19 as well! First pregnancy, 8+2weeks so far. My boyfriend was scared and annoyed at first but now he's used to it and just as excited as I am. We didn't plan it either. And we've got both of out huge families to support us so were doing well. Make sure you've got a great support system like PP said, it relieves tons of stress! And you're the only other really young mom I've seen on this site so far. Seems like everyone else is married and in their 20s+. We planned on waiting and getting married and everything first but hey, what happens happens! Lol don't be afraid to PM me if you wanna talk!
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  • sarahchrismcksarahchrismck member
    edited October 2014
    shmeell25 said:
    I am not but my sister was 19 when she had her first son. Do you have a good support system? That helped her a lot!
    I second having a support system. If you have people who are able and willing to help you out, then that's even better. But as long as you (and your boyfriend) love the baby and are willing to do whatever it takes for the baby, he/she will be fine! Good luck!

    ETA: And actually, what I said applies to ANY age.
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  • cassidyrae21cassidyrae21 member
    I'm 20! First pregnancy & my fiancé is actually more excited than me. I think I'm still in shock about it all & a little scared but he is beyond excited. I have such a great family & we have so much support from both sides!! Good luck
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  • ashleyandelyashleyandely member
    I'm 22 and my boyfriend is 30. This is our first pregnancy which was not planned but we are both super excited! Although my anxiety is through the roof. He's definitely more calm/relaxed than I am.
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  • briixobriixo member
    Oh great! I was beginning to think i was the only one. I'm 20, and 9wks. I haven't told my family just yet because I don't know how they'll react. Also, I recently found out my mom is pregnant too
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  • SassyPants150SassyPants150 member
    edited October 2014
    Pintobean39 said:
    I was 20 when I got pregnant last time. But I was/am married and it was a planned pregnancy. I can relate in the sense of the public eye and accusations in regards to being a young mom. I'm now 23 and pregnant with our second. Some people say moms who choose to have babies young are missing out on the freedom and fun of the 20's. My parents chose to start a family young as well (20 and 21) and they counteract that statement with "well all our kids were out of our house before we hit 50 and now we have all the time and money to still enjoy our time together without kids".
    Unless you're like me. I had my first at 19, second at 24, and my 3rd at 40. :-)
    One of my best friends/neighbor had her first son at a super young age then two more boys soon to follow. Then after her husband had multiple assignments in Iraq and Afghanistan they decided to try for one more. Her oldest is a senior in high school and she's only 34. She also now has a 2 year old boy. She jokes a lot about how she can't believe she decided to start over again...it was much easier having the house to herself all day with self-sufficient children. ;)

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  • Pintobean39Pintobean39 member
    SassyPants150 said:


    Pintobean39 said:

    lauranicole91 said:

    I was 20 when I got pregnant last time. But I was/am married and it was a planned pregnancy. I can relate in the sense of the public eye and accusations in regards to being a young mom. I'm now 23 and pregnant with our second.

    Some people say moms who choose to have babies young are missing out on the freedom and fun of the 20's. My parents chose to start a family young as well (20 and 21) and they counteract that statement with "well all our kids were out of our house before we hit 50 and now we have all the time and money to still enjoy our time together without kids".

    Unless you're like me. I had my first at 19, second at 24, and my 3rd at 40. :-)

    One of my best friends/neighbor had her first son at a super young age then two more boys soon to follow. Then after her husband had multiple assignments in Iraq and Afghanistan they decided to try for one more. Her oldest is a senior in high school and she's only 34. She also now has a 2 year old boy. She jokes a lot about how she can't believe she decided to start over again...it was much easier having the house to herself all day with self-sufficient children. ;)


    Yes sometimes I need my head examined. This child is just going to be well traveled because it's going everywhere with us.
    Fucking bump!!!!
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  • ambarnett1ambarnett1 member
    20 with my last pregnancy and 21 with this one. I got married to DH at 32 weeks pregnant with DS. It's hard seeing all my friends enjoying a normal college experience and having fun, while I'm a SAHM, but I love my DS to the moon and back. Parenting is amazing and extremely hard at any age. Good luck!

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  • catmentzer21catmentzer21 member
    I was 19 with my first son and my best support was my two best friends. My family was ok but did not really care till baby arrived. As long as you have a couple people you trust and that will support you you will be fine. Good luck to all of you lady's. I had my second at 25 and am now carring my third at 28 ( will be 29). If you need to talk feel free to send me a message .
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  • martin0124martin0124 member
    I'm 19 and pregnant with baby number one, I'm 10w4d. My husband and I are so excited we've been married for 9 months and we just couldn't wait any longer to start our family. The only down side right now is that he's deployed (in the army) luckily I might be one of those girls who gets all her symptoms later in her pregnancy which is perfect because he'll be back next month, so he wouldn't have missed a thing lol
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  • babyrandolph2015babyrandolph2015 member
    19 here! Will be 20 when baby arrives! Definitely not planned but I love my little jellybean no matter when he/she decided to bless me and my boyfriends lives :) at first I was so scared and felt like my world was falling a part. Scrambling to make sure I have a way to take care of this little life and do it well. Still in my sophomore year of college trying to push through! My boyfriend and I just bought our first home last week and can't wait for closing so we can finally move in and all this will seem real. He is excited I think. I hate to admit but when I found out I cried. Tears of "what am I going to do now" and he just hugged me and told me everything will work out. He's been great! Finally told my family ( Christian household, no sex before marriage sticklers ) at first they were mad I.e. Not speaking to me but now they are coming along. Just have a good support system as many have said and you will be just fine! Best wishes!
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  • Knottie3475256 Knottie3475256 member
    23 FTM and I feel like I am young compared to today's standards...
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  • lysser1218lysser1218 member
    Knottie3475256 said:

    23 FTM and I feel like I am young compared to today's standards...

    I am 24 and I am seconding this lol. I feel young but I know I can definitely do this! My boyfriend is 27 and definitely wasn't happy at first but he is finally coming around to it... And dare I say a little excited lol!

    Great to meet you ladies!
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  • AErinYAErinY member
    edited November 2014
    It's interesting because like a few other posters, I feel young but I'm 24! We planned having ours, my husband is 33. I am 10w0d today and though I am so excited, I am also pretty anxious. I just want to know that everything will be okay =)

    I think when it comes right down to it, we are all anxious at one point or another, and overly so when it is our first <3 good luck to all =)
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  • RobynLeighHuntRobynLeighHunt member
    I'm 19 and currently 10 wks 3 days pregnant with first baby. In the beginning when we found out, My boyfriend wanted an abortion and was hoping that I'd miscarry (despite being Christian and knowing how much it would hurt me). But now he is coming around slowly and is being a little bit more supportive. My family also doesn't believe in sex before marriage so they were really pissed off when I told them. They are also coming around slowly and have been able to speak about the baby without it turning into a fight like it did before. I'm extremely excited and I feel like every single baby is a blessing no matter when it happened and no matter the circumstances. I love this little jellybean with everything I am. I wish I had more support from my boyfriend and family though...
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  • 2undertwo2bee2undertwo2bee member
    I'm 23 so I feel on the younger side. My husband is 29 though so he takes care of the older side for us lol. This is our first pregnancy and it was planned. We've been married a year and a few months and together for 5. We wanted to time it so that we were having our first before he was 30 and not be super pregnant in our move we just had. So it happened at the perfect time. I am excited and nervous and still in shock. I feel like people will judge me for being a young mom but we are financially doing well to where I can stay at home with baby, I'm in school for my degree, and we have a great marriage so I guess People can judge away. I'm 13 weeks Tom.
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  • allinkyallinky member
    I'm 26, but this wasn't a planned pregnancy. My boyfriend and had only been dating for 4 or 5 months before I found out I was pregnant. I'm 14 weeks and 3 days today. Now both of our families are really excited.
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  • bczappasbczappas member
    I was 18 when I had my daughter, now I'm 22 and I'm 12wks pregnant with my second. My husband and I got married a few months after I found out I was pregnant with our first. Honestly, I feel like it just depends on the type of woman and mother you are. My age never defined what kind of mother I wanted to be. I never went out partying, I never felt "robbed" of my youth, my daughter is the best thing to happen to me and my husband and I thank God for making me a mommy when He did! Don't get me wrong, going to college and getting married BEFORE baby would have been a lot less stressful but that just wasn't in my deck of cards! Good luck!
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  • skyesamuelsskyesamuels member
    edited November 2014
    Along with PP I am 24 and have only been with my boyfriend for 6 months! First pregnancy and it was not planned but I'm starting to get very excited! My boyfriend was so happy when he found out he cried and couldn't stop saying that he's going to be a dad. I felt so young and was absolutely terrified/ speechless. But I look at my ultrasound pictures of my little babe and I know I've got to do everything for him or her. I'm 12w2 and anxiety is through the roof and sleep is nonexistent! Both of our families are super excited though and my close friends are so supportive. So glad that there are other mommies to be that feel this way. Thank you so much for sharing!
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  • nicolegironicolegiro member
    24 first time mommy. Unplanned with ex boyfriend of almost 6 years. Scared to do this alone, he wants to be involved, but I have never felt so abandoned by someone I've been close with for over 7 years. I am incredibly excited, nonetheless and have an incredibly overwhelming amount of support from family and friends.
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  • jraeohyeaaajraeohyeaaa member
    Knottie3475256 said:

    23 FTM and I feel like I am young compared to today's standards...

    Oh me too! When we told our closest friends who are also our age I think they were excited for us but also a little weirded out since none of them plan on having kids until they are 27 or 28. We may be young but both my mom and MIL tried for three years before getting pregnant the first time (MIL had a mc in there too) so I just wanted to give us some time in case it took awhile.
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  • afavazza91afavazza91 member
    I'm 23 and pregnant with my first child, 11 weeks exactly today. My family does not support me but my husband's family is so excited and so supportive. As long as you have some kind of support system, it will be alright.
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  • jenniferdel123jenniferdel123 member
    You're definitely not the only young one out there! I'm 20, turning 21 in a few days. My boyfriend and I are super excited!
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  • Timbr10Timbr10 member
    I just a turned 20 a few weeks ago. And when I first found out I was a nervous wreck not sure how my boyfriend would feel. And same here we were only together for about 5 months before finding out. And he is so excited and loves talking about it. Can't wait for our bundle of joy!! I'm 13 weeks 3days.
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  • shimama14shimama14 member
    I'm 22 years old, 11 weeks pregnant! This is my first pregnancy. My boyfriend and I also were only together 5 months before finding out. We are both very excited and both of our families are so excited for us! I'm new to Oregon so I don't have any friends around here. Joined the site to connect with other moms :)
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  • llgmama15llgmama15 member
    I'm 24 years old and will be 25 next month and I feel like a very young mom! My husband and I wanted to get pregnant right away, but we did not think it would happen on our wedding night ;) We are 12w 4d! Good luck to all of you!
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  • stark01938209stark01938209 member
    I'm 30, that's young... Right?! I was 25 when we had our first. :D
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  • sbride68sbride68 member
    I am 23 and my DH is 27. This is our first and we are both excited scared nervous and everything else all balled up into one. As long as you have great support, good resources and take care of yourself I think you will do just fine. It's totally normal to be excited. I go through spurts of it with the hormones but I completely get what you mean. I have like five different apps on my phone :)
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  • AllierenneAllierenne member
    I am 18 and its my first baby. My bf and i did not plan for this but now thst its happening it is so exciting to me! He doesnt really care at this point and isnt very supportive but hopefully that will change...but yea im nervous/ excited! !(:
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  • gkrenzelgkrenzel member
    20 year old (21 when baby arrives) first time mom! Fiancé (24) and I found we were having baby 4 days after he proposed (crazy timing!). Super excited, as are our families. They both live close by so it will be nice to have baby sitters all around!
    Excited to have baby as flower girl/ring bearer at wedding in a few years!
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  • mrseagmrseag member
    Im 21 with my second on the way:)
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  • ajlwsmomajlwsmom member
    I am 24 years old this is my first pregnancy and I am very excited so is my husband
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  • nessaic21nessaic21 member
    I'm 23 and 13 weeks pregnant with my first! It was completely unplanned and I was shocked and so scared when I found out! Luckily my bfs parents were thrilled. I haven't finished college and work full time so I am so scared about not being just me anymore. My future changed in a flash the moment I saw that positive test. But I am optimistic about the future and I know this baby will be a blessing in my life. I love the peanut already!
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