Working Mom Check In

ramfan05 · November 2014

Hi there ladies! So sorry I didn't get to post this last Friday, but here we go. It's finally Friday! How was your week?

Successes/Celebrations?

Challenges?

Family/Me time?

Weekend plans?

ramfan05 · November 2014

Successes/Celebrations?

Hmm...I guess I've kind of felt like a rock star this week at work. I've gotten a lot accomplished both in meetings and with my kids. And my principal gave me a huge compliment yesterday when he told me that he's seen a whole different person in me since the beginning of the year (he was new last year when I was pregnant) and that he's been really impressed with me. That felt really good!

Challenges?

I've done so great at work, but my house is a mess and I'm just exhausted. Yesterday I ran out of time to eat breakfast, forgot to pack my own lunch, and forgot to start dinner in the crock pot yesterday morning before I left for work. I feel like I just can't keep all of the balls in the air at once. When I'm really killing it in one area, something else is suffering, and I have a hard time with that, especially when what's suffering is at home

Family/Me time?

Not a whole lot. The kids have still been waking up ridiculously early, so I don't even get my time in the morning to get things ready for the day in peace! I feel like DH and I haven't had a real conversation in I don't even know how long.

Weekend plans?

DS and I are having a date tomorrow

I'm so excited to spend some one-on-one time with my little man! I told him we could go ANYWHERE he wants, and he picked the toy store to play with the train table with me, then Chick-fil-a for lunch :x

I'm also having a girl's night with a couple of my teammates from work tomorrow night that I'm really excited for.

TessyMessy · November 2014

Oh Oh Oh!! I am happy to report I had double Me time this week!! I got a facial on Wednesday and I got my hair done last night. The pampering was awesome and it reminded me that I really need to do stuff for ME more often. DH struggled a bit with giving LO dinner, the witching hour and bath time but I actually don't feel guilty.

I am struggling with all of my chores at home. Between the bathrooms, the laundry, vacuuming/dusting.. how do you guys keep up with it all? Have you given up keeping up with it all? I'm always torn between spending the weekend having fun with my family and/or doing all the cleaning.

ETA: I couldn't contribute in the format this week.

TessyMessy · November 2014

@mummypig I wish your H could hang out with my H and show him how to do chores.

nebraska84 · November 2014

Successes/Celebrations? Yesterday was my first day trying this but I found some independent activities for my 2 1/2 yr old to do when we get home so I can do bottles, dishes, and get ready for the next day. He did a great job with it, and DS2 is super content just watching his big brother and play in the living room while I get stuff done.

DH's work schedule was cooperative this week and he was home each night to help put DS1 down for bed, which is super helpful!

Challenges? Trying to keep the house picked up and toys contained. DS1 is great a dragging everything out

But all is all, it has been a good week.

Family/Me time?We will finally have dinner together tonight, DH has Friday's off so I look forward to the few hours we get together each Friday. Me time: hah...not happening

Weekend plans? Nothing big...dinner with DH's boss on Sunday, we are planning on buying the business from them someday soon, so we will talk future plans with them. I am excited for this!

Everyone...have a nice weekend!

TessyMessy · November 2014

Someone mentioned a while ago that they use a chore schedule... I can't remember who??

Like, you do laundry Monday and Saturday. Clean the bathrooms Thursday, etc. I like the idea of spreading everything out so its more manageable. But the problem is the only free time I have during the week is after the kids go to sleep and that is normally when I am ready to have a snack and pass out.

ramfan05 · November 2014

@mummypig, I totally feel you on the lack of energy. Every night, within 10-15 minutes of sitting down (if I even make it that long!), I'm asleep! I told my mom about it, and her advice was to go to the doctor to get blood work to make sure nothing is wrong. I told her it's not my health, it's the fact that I have two kids at home, plus 21 more at school!

ramfan05 · November 2014

@TessyMessy, I struggle with keeping up with housework, too. And it really bothers me because I really like a clean house, but if you stopped by today, you'd probably think otherwise. There just isn't enough time! I can get certain things done while the kids are asleep, but vacuuming doesn't really happen during the week, which is unfortunate because our dog sheds like crazy. I hate it!

@nebraska84, I'm super jealous that your LO will watch his big brother play when you get home! DS does NOT want DD anywhere near his toys, and DD just cries and pulls my leg until I pick her up

@carissalynp, glad everyone is finally feeling better!

@Penguin173, I don't think hiring a cleaning person would be a good solution for us, either. My biggest problem is needing to pick up the house, which I'd still need to find time to do before the cleaning lady came!

ramfan05 · November 2014

@TessyMessy, we have a chore schedule!

Monday: laundry

Tuesday: dust/vacuum

Wednesday: Change/wash sheets/towels

Thursday: laundry

Friday: meal plan

Saturday: clean/grocery shop

Sunday: prep food for the week

I try to keep up with it early in the mornings before the kids are up, and DH helps in the evenings after the kids are asleep. It usually works out pretty well, but I'm feeling behind right now!

SuzyQq02 · November 2014

I am once again reviving this thread on Monday... that should probably tell you all something about how this is going. ;-)

Successes/Celebrations?: I finished up a major consulting project at work and it went really well, and am working out details about their ongoing consultation. It feels weird, but pretty good, to be the "expert" in something. And DD is working on standing on her own! I'm pretty certain she's going to take her first steps either at DC or with my mom, but I've made them all promise not to tell me so when I see it for the first time, that'll count as her "first."

Challenges? My job had basically become undoable by just one person. My boss is feeling the same way, and we don't really have any ideas about how to fix it. We're meeting with HER boss today to start to talk about it, and the elephant in the room about it is that a co-worker that's supposed to be shouldering the load on a major project is actually making it MORE work for me. I really don't want to throw him under the bus (and to be fair, it's partially be fault because I can be a wee bit domineering and he's super passive), but it's a huge weight for me right now.

And it's Monday and I miss my baby. :-(

Family/Me time?: Last Sunday MH and I went out to lunch for our anniversary, which was nice! We also had some champagne after LO went to bed that night. I got some awesome me time on Halloween, I took the day off to get my hair done and use a massage gift cert that was expiring. It's amazing how much better about life I feel with good hair. ;-) We also had a fun family mall outing last weekend. This week/weekend was a lot more about getting ish done. I'm off on Thursday because my mom can't watch LO, though, so she and I will do something fun then!

Weekend plans? We did pretty much nothing plans-wise this weekend. TONS of errands and getting caught up on work from home.

And I feel ALL of you ladies on the chores end... we just don't have enough hours in the day. The bare minimum gets done (laundry, dishes, ect), but that's about it. We're trying a new system where we make up a chore list on Saturday on our dry erase board, and then knock them off as we do them/add them back on as they come back up (like if I turn the dishwasher on before bed, I'll add "empty dishwasher" to the list so MH knows that it needs to be done if he's up before me). We're hoping it will make us more efficient and also, will see the things we're just never getting to, so we can decide after the holidays if we should be outsourcing it and hiring a cleaning person. We're lucky that we do have that option with a little bit of budget gymnastics.

TessyMessy · November 2014

I am happy but jealous that so many H's are helping out around the house.. maybe not pulling their own weight but doing SOMETHING!! I have been throwing around the idea of trying a cleaning lady but for some reason I have some mom/wife guilt over it. Like shouldn't I be able to do it all? Is that dumb? I think we could swing it financially and it sure would free up some time for me to spend with the family..

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