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Hormonal Breakdown

Lyndee720Lyndee720 member
in April 2015 Moms
So I had my first hormonal overreaction today. I work in a school and often get school lunches, but my choices have been more limited since becoming pregnant. Today, the choice was a turkey sandwich or a chef salad. In the past, I would have chosen the turkey sandwich, but today I chose the salad, since I am not supposed to eat deli meat. I didn't even think about it coming with meat on it, because usually school salads are basically lettuce and maybe some carrot strips. So when I got to the cafeteria and saw all the pre-made salads with turkey and ham, I asked if they had any without. The first lunch lady went to ask her boss. Her boss then came out and said in a very put-out tone, "Can't you just pick it off?" 

Normally, I don't like to rock the boat and even if something I hate is on a school meal, I will just take it off and live with it. I explained that I was pregnant and not supposed to eat things that came in contact with meat, due to the possibility of bacteria on the meat. The boss said, "Well, we have them already made. You should have told us you had special requirements. Now they have to make you a special salad!" Her tone was just so hateful that I was immediately fighting back tears. I don't like causing trouble. I am not even the type to send something back at a restaurant if it is incorrect. I will just suffer through it. 

A minute later, the first lady returns with a salad. This time there is no turkey, but she has put ham on it. I smiled, accepted the salad and promptly threw it away in my room. Then I was fighting tears the next twenty minutes. I am not a crier, normally. I am not an emotional person and I hate crying in front of others. Even though I was alone in my classroom, I knew my face would be all red and puffy if I allowed myself to cry, so I fought it back with only a few tears. I just felt like a mess, though. Am I just completely crazy? I even know that tears is a huge overreaction to the situation. I just couldn't seem to stop from crying, though. Please, someone, tell me this is pregnancy normal.
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  • alexis95alexis95 member
    Normal! I've cried at plenty of stupid things already this pregnancy, and I'm not a crier either.
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  • LMurphy207LMurphy207 member
    Totally normal. My husband got his blood work back from his physical and they gave it to us yesterday. His cholesterol is slightly higher than it should be. No meds just watch what he eats. I cried like a baby for 20 minutes and when I could finally speak I explained to him that I didn't want him to have a heart attack. He laughed his butt off at me.
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  • bsdubbsdub member
    Your normal! I get upset over the dumbest stuff! It will happen again, and next time will be over something really dumb! The joys of pregnancy!
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  • MitoRachelMitoRachel member

    I'm actually worse about being overly emotional when I'm on my period vs. pregnant. Until I get hungry, at which point all bets are off! I hate that you were made to feel like an inconvenience when you were just trying to do what you feel is best for the baby.

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  • ur_mom222ur_mom222 member
    My doctor is very persistent about no deli meat unless you know it's handled properly. I had a stomach bacterial infection and I was lucky it wasn't something worse like listeriosis (I got it from camping). In my opinion, deli meat in a school wouldn't be something I would eat. And I definitely would've overreacted too. Totally normal, don't feel bad for not eating the meat if you aren't comfortable with it. On the off chance someone gets listeriosis from it, most of the time they don't know and it can seriously harm your baby. Do your research for sure and ask your doctor.
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  • taahirataahira member
    Totally normal. I almost had a major meltdown in my local starbucks today because they ran out of English breakfast tea, I was close to tears when I explained I have such a major headache and the tea is the only thing that helps.
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  • fro88fro88 member
    This was a completely understandable cry. How dare someone make you feel bad for what amounts to a medical restriction. I, too, have avoided deli meat, and people have been super accommodating about it. 

    On average, I think I  bawl at 3 or so commercials a night. Hubs thinks that I'm a straight up basket case. 

    Cry it out, lady. You're in good company ;) 
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  • theinvadermothershiptheinvadermothership member
    Just fyi, you can get a bacterial infection from veggies too. So... honestly either choice could have been a huge risk. But usually not. If the school is following health code, they should be getting their shipments from a reputable sorce and should be handling properly (seeing as children are also very susceptible to bacterial infections), there shouldn't be much worry.

    As for the crying, cometely normal. Best thing is to not get yourself in those situations of disappointment. Probably better to make your own lunch from now on.
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  • ur_mom222ur_mom222 member
    By the time kids are in school they are not likely to be susceptible to listeriosis. Our bodies are so good at protecting us from that particular food borne illness. And yes you can get it from veggies but usually it's an outbreak in a certain type of veggie or fruit and is caught very quickly. Meat is contaminated from poor handling. Facts aside, listeriosis if untreated (which many pregnant women have little or no symptoms there infant has it) can cause terrible problems with your newborn and even death. Not worth it to a lot of women, even at the low risk we get it. I can agree it is a super small chance you will get it. But she shouldn't have had to feel like shit for not wanting to eat the deli meat just because she technically can eat it. Can you imagine how she'd feel if she ate it and got listeriosis despite the fact that she didn't want to? It's just a personal choice. And a very controversial one at that.
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  • mary62108mary62108 member
    Totally normal reaction.  I cried at DD's ballet class last night because she decided to be the class asshole.  I was completely embarrassed that the teacher had to keep correcting her and telling her to join the class or she wouldn't get a sticker. 
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  • ASCrosbyASCrosby member
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    I cried for an hour when I came home to find my husband had eaten my left over calzone! I called him and cried/yelled at him for eating my food. When he came home and found me sobbing on the kitchen floor he offered to get me another calzone, which sent me into an even bigger round of sobbing. He finally loaded me into the car and took me to Taco Bell. I cried the entire way there, apologizing for my craziness. I finally calmed down enough to eat, only to find creamy jalapeno sauce on my quesadilla, even though I specifically asked for it to be left off. That started a new round of hysterics....
    Long story short, your crying was justified and in no way your fault. Hormones are a force all their own.
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  • jenthehumanjenthehuman member
    I cried when the chili I made came out too spicy. Then, I proceeded to tell my husband we weren't eating dinner and I was throwing it all away. He was smart enough to let me cry through it and not call me crazy. We ate dinner 15 minutes later and everything was fine...and not too spicy. Figures.

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  • Lyndee720Lyndee720 member
    My fertility clinic's only rule was that I not eat deli meat. My doctor told me the same. I am being super careful, especially because of all we had to go through to even get pregnant. I know some people do eat lunch meat while pregnant and the chances of it hurting the babies are small, but I just don't feel comfortable taking that risk. Thanks for the supportive comments. This was the first time during pregnancy that I even felt like crying over something so small. I think it was just how hateful the woman sounded. Now I wonder, would she act like that if I had an allergy to something?

    Oh and I did eat the sides that went with the school lunch. Plus I had a snack in my room that I had forgotten about. So I did eat lunch. I agree that skipping a meal definitely isn't good for the babies.
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  • court476court476 member
    The other day DH made me cry because I was cooking him eggs and they weren't runny enough for him. He said it was fine but still I cried and I'm not a crier. 


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  • kitc101kitc101 member
    Normal...

    I saw a buck get hit Wednesday night. His family crossed the road and he didn't quite make it. The car only hit his back end, and the poor guy was trying to crawl himself off of the road. I immediately started crying, then got pissed when the car who hit him sped away! I called animal control and the police, no one would help. It's all I can think about now. The image of that poor creature trying desperately to get to safety. I was surprised no one was willing to help. Thought animal control would at least put him out of his misery :-(



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  • ur_mom222ur_mom222 member
    CaterinaC said:

    keeganbeck said:

    And yes you can get it from veggies but usually it's an outbreak in a certain type of veggie or fruit and is caught very quickly. Meat is contaminated from poor handling.

    All Listeria infections come from poor handling of foods. Most infections are from dairy and veggies. There are at around 3-4 Listeria outbreaks a year but the last meat related outbreak in the US was 2010. It involved Salmon, not lunch meat. In fact, you have to go all the way back to 2005 to find a lunch meat outbreak.
    By your logic we shouldn't be eating any fish, dairy, veggies, fruit or lunch meat because there might be a chance of Listeria.
    No, by my logic you should be listening to what your doctor and your own opinions tell you to do. If there was such a huge chance we could get it from veggies I'm sure doctors would tell us not to eat that too. They are the professionals... Not any of us. That's why I listen to what she thinks is best for me and my baby as I believe you should do too.
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  • clover28clover28 member
    I cried for an hour because I bought my husband a Subway sandwich and when I brought it home he told me he wished I had bought a footlong instead of a six inch. I bawled, he apologized. An hour later I asked him if he was hungry and he said yes. I cried on the bathroom floor for another hour.
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  • somewheresublime86somewheresublime86 member
    I cried last week because the dog jumped up and it hit my boob and it hurt. I teared up watching Caspar on Halloween because the poor ghost just wanted friends. And I've had some other stellar moments. I say you're normal. :-)
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  • ur_mom222ur_mom222 member
    CaterinaC said:

    keeganbeck said:


    No, by my logic you should be listening to what your doctor and your own opinions tell you to do. If there was such a huge chance we could get it from veggies I'm sure doctors would tell us not to eat that too. They are the professionals... Not any of us. That's why I listen to what she thinks is best for me and my baby as I believe you should do too.

    Yeah, my provider doesn't infantilize pregnant women by making blanket statements based on a study that is over 10 years old. Mercury in fish and alcohol are our joint food concerns. Otherwise I eat what I want. Thanks.
    Perfect! As long as you trust your doctor and are happy with what she tells you to eat and not to eat that's exactly what I was saying you should do. Exactly like what I do, and the original poster is doing! She shouldn't ever feel bad because her doctor told her not to eat deli meat or that she chooses to listen. So you're very welcome!
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    souptin said:

    Honestly I don't remember who the poster was. That leads me to believe she is not a regular here.... but i could be off base with that. I'm on mobile right now but can try searching for the post later.

    I saw that - it was beautiful. It was under announcements @FlyThruMyDreams9‌
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    FlyThruMyDreams9 said:

    bsdub said:

    souptin said:

    Honestly I don't remember who the poster was. That leads me to believe she is not a regular here.... but i could be off base with that. I'm on mobile right now but can try searching for the post later.

    I saw that - it was beautiful. It was under announcements @FlyThruMyDreams9‌


    Thanks! I'm having trouble finding it amongst all the results that come up when I search "announcements," but I will keep looking!!
    It's under here:
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  • scaggsedscaggsed member
    Totally normal! I hate it when people try to make you feel shitty because they don't want to do something. Don't they have to have a vegetarian option at least?
    Also, I will eat sushi all day and I have no problem with having a few drinks a week, but I wouldn't trust lunch meat from somewhere like a cafeteria without it being heated. Who knows how long it was sitting around, how it was handled, etc. Especially when they're unkind about having to make a new one, who knows how much they care about their job/food quality? I would stuff my desk full of backup snacks just in case!
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