For the working moms...

littlemissmarla · November 2014

Just saw this on FB, hurts my heart.

https://www.huffingtonpost.com/regan-long/a-working-mothers-plea-to-the-president_b_6090202.html

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JLHV1909 · November 2014

Thank you! I wasn't looking to cry tonight, but I completely understand this writer. Other than not having four kids and my LO is a he, this could have easily been written for me. I love my 2nd graders but my heart hurts when I miss LO during the day. I feel like I'm missing a piece of me during the day when I'm at work and he is at daycare. I hate having to constantly get updates from someone else about how my own baby is doing.

huggabunch · November 2014

I'm lucky that my job lets me work 4 10's, so I get Wednesdays off with DD. I long for Wednesdays all week. I read this article the other day too. It sums up how I feel very well. I went back at 8 weeks, because I wasn't eligible for FMLA. The first 4 weeks back, I felt so irked, because I wanted those weeks off with DD so badly. It hurts my heart thinking of all those moms that have to go back at 6 weeks, or some even earlier, due to being unable to afford being off.
I love to work, but I also love my baby. It's a constant internal struggle.

Ekg688 · November 2014

I read this too! My struggle is more when I get home. DH works night so I have her by myself. Shes usually down around 8:30ish and I'm generally home by 6 every night. I'm running around managing a kitchen all day so I'm physically and mentally drained. By the time I clean up messes around the house, wash bottles and pump parts, do laundry and shower I'm lucky if I get to spend 20 minutes with her.

I grew up with parents who both worked full time and we went to a sitter before and after school. I was never resentful towards my parents for working, nor did we emotionally suffer. I just hope as our daughter gets older she recognizes how hard DH and I work to provide a comfortable life for her and our family.

ADC1979 · November 2014

My feels. I had to stop reading so I wouldn't tear up in public. On Monday nights, I don't get off work till 8 PM. When I got home, I had about 20 mins with LO in which he ate, then he conked out in exhaustion. I felt so terrible that that was the sum of our evening together...20 minutes.

melissaquinn106 · November 2014

I've been an emotional wreck the past few days as my maternity leave comes to an end. I still have a little less then a month home with my precious little girl but the impending doom of going back is eating me up inside. I worry about my supply, pumping at work, having enough breastmilk for her each day, missing all of her precious moments, being exhausted when I finally get home to her and needing to spend my time with her, the list can go on forever. I know I'm very fortunate to have had 4 months with her and my mother will be watching her when I finally do go back, but my heart hurts to have to leave her at all. Trying to make the most of the time I have left, but hoping I win lotto between now and then so I never have to leave her or any future children again.

jessafishy · November 2014

I liked it until I read the author's previous article. Now it just makes her seem like an entitled brat, even though I agree with her point.

JmeJoLee83 · November 2014

June '14 lurking and thanking you for this..I go back to teaching next week and I cry every day thinking about leaving my baby!!

littlemissmarla · November 2014

I'm going back the week after Christmas, I feel very fortunate that DD will be right downstairs at the daycare part of my school.. but I'm still having anxiety about someone else spending the day with her, hugging her, kissing her.. I know logically she won't forget me.. but that's just a fear I have.

littlemissmarla · November 2014

jessafishy said:

I liked it until I read the author's previous article. Now it just makes her seem like an entitled brat, even though I agree with her point.

Oh now I need to go read that.... hmmm

littlemissmarla · November 2014

stellabunny said:

jessafishy said:

I liked it until I read the author's previous article. Now it just makes her seem like an entitled brat, even though I agree with her point.

Yeah. I just read the previous article and I've lost all sympathy for her.

I read the one about "My husband didn't want our baby," is that the one your referring to? While I still can understand her sentiments about having to put her baby in daycare..

"I was teaching full time, writing a column, writing a book, started my own photography business and within a short amount of time, had six grad classes to take within one semester. Shortly following this, I made the decision to become a Beachbody Coach. "

If she didn't stretch herself thin, she might have time for her kids...