Anatomy Scan without SO?

fiscally3 · November 2014

Anyone do their anatomy scan/find out the sex without their significant other? My husband just started a new job and isn't able to get the time off. I tried rescheduling, but they were completely booked around the "ideal" time for the scan. For those of you who didn't have your SO there, did you find out the sex at the scan, or ask them to put it in an envelope for that evening? Is it weird going by yourself? My husband says he doesn't care if I find out before him, but I can't tell if he's just being nice, knowing how impatient I can be...

Duffgurl · November 2014

Ya I would suggest a envelope too. I think it is more special if you can do it together.

bmblebea · November 2014

I thought I was getting an u/s at my 18 week appt and thought the dr might be able to tell so MH just asked that I have the dr put it in an envelope so we could look later together. I ended up just having a Doppler instead of u/s so we still have to wait another week but if he couldn't make it to the anatomy scan I'd totally put it in an envelope. At my 12 week u/s MH couldn't make it bc of work and the lady was nice and gave me like 15 printout pictures to show him Bc he wasn't there!

ashtat2012 · November 2014

My husband is deployed. We're skyping during the A/S so that we can find out together. I wouldn't feel right finding out without him.

redneckmomma25 · November 2014

I will be going solo but we went together for an elective.

I would have them put the sex in an envelope so you guys can open it together. Also, when I had mine, they actually recorded it to DVD. So we have a video of it. Maybe that is an option where you are? Worth a call and see if they can. I had to bring the DVD though.

Anicole14 · November 2014

I found out by myself. I actually found out through harmony test results. We didn't mind me finding out first, I was so excited to call H and tell him the news. He's out of town for work for 1-2 weeks at a time so we were prepared for me to find out first. If you want to find out together, I agree with pp and have the tech put your results in an envelope to open together. Make sure you get lots of prints also!

Babykells3 · November 2014

I would get it written down and put in an envelope, then you can still find out together.
DH isn't going to be at my A/S, he owns a restaurant and can't take time off during the day so i will be going solo, we aren't finding out the sex though.

ally3242 · November 2014

Have them put it in an envelope and go on a date and open it together. Also, does your OB record your sonogram on a DVD? My DH wasn't able to come to my regularly scheduled A/S (had to have an emergency one two weeks early). The tech gave me a cd afterward that had the whole thing on it, DH loved watching it.

fiscally3 · November 2014

Thanks ladies! It's a very weird situation, he only has two days off until the new year, and we need them to visit my ILs for Thanksgiving. I'm so sad he can't make it - I tried to convince him to do the elective one, but he doesn't see the point in spending the money. I think I will come up with a way to surprise him, whether just doing the envelope thing or trying something more elaborate.

mnharkcom · November 2014

My husband is away for the whole year so my mom and MIL are going with me since they invited themselves along.

mnharkcom · November 2014

Also does your doctors office offer a DVD of it? Mine does for $5 so I'll be sending that to my husband so he can see it.

JLaudio · November 2014

My A/S is the only appts my husband is hoping to be able to attend, however there will be an exercise going on, he could be called in at any minute. If I end up having to go solo, I'll have it put in an envelope for him to open. I want him to be able to tell me vs me always telling him what's going on. It could be an option for you as well. I think it'll make him feel more involved with the pregnancy, of more importance, rather than just being a bystander for the pregnancy.

SeekingSmall · November 2014

ashtat2012 said:
My husband is deployed. We're skyping during the A/S so that we can find out together. I wouldn't feel right finding out without him.

My husband was deployed for the first 6 months of my 1st pregnancy. I had the tech put the photo in an envelope and circle girl or boy to do over skype later. My DH actually saw it first, because I opened it in his direction. :-)

kurban627 · November 2014

I found out the sex of the baby without my husband there. He was sick and couldn't make it. His mother came with me. No envelope method for me I just called him. He was there for the first child. This time he's not as in to being at every appointment. He also got promoted at work and has been working the midnight shift as a police Sergeant so coming to doctors appointments during the day is hard (he's sleeping)

mollymsalyers · November 2014

I actually just had this done! My husband is gone most of the time, (he's a pipeliner) and so I went and found out the sex while I was there. (He's as impatient as I was at knowing the sex.) I went by myself and got a little baby mommy bonding time. It's hard if you go by yourself though, I to recommend that you take someone with you.

fiscally3 · November 2014

I would love to take someone, but my first choice is my mom, who will be watching my kids during it. I don't believe ours did the DVD thing (at least they didn't with any of my past pregnancies and didn't mention it as new feature when I made the appointment.) I guess I could try to figure out a different childcare arrangement to see if she could come, she was the one who drove me to the hospital when I went into labor last time, and she said it was neat to be on the other side of things, so she might enjoy this too.

Thanks for commiserating with me!

BabyIxolib · November 2014

My husband just deployed too but he was home for the sneak peak when we found it was a girl, thank goodness! I go in for the AS next month and I am taking my mom with me and we will skype or face time him in. It's hard when husband isn't here, I'd definitely bring a close friend or family member to the scan appointment.

Sharon&Paul · November 2014

I don't see the issue finding out first and then calling him. We found out the sex with genetic testing. The nurse called and told me the results over the phone ad I call my husband and told him. He just wanted to know. he did not care who knew first.

fatcat11188 · November 2014

I couldn't find out without my hubs! I would really try the rescheduling, and even if its past the 20 week mark I don't think that matters… I don't think the envelope would cut it for us. My H would be very heartbroken and although he may not say something I would see it in his eyes

EmmaSF · November 2014

I am going for my scan today without my S/O. My BFF is coming with me which makes me feel much calmer. I will find out and call DH as soon as I am done and I will tell him. It is not ideal, but he couldn't get off work and we leave for holiday next week so we needed to get the scan done by today.

JaneShops · November 2014

I'm with all the ther ladies about the envelope. That's actually how I did it (at 16 weeks, though)

Just wanted to add that if you do the envelope idea, you may miss a huge part of the experience. I had to close my eyes while my ObGyn confirmed the sex. I feel okay about it since I experienced the entire U/S at 12 week & won't have to close my eyes at the 20 week A/S

vickersh1 · November 2014

Bummer that he can't make it. I have gotten lucky that DH has been able to experience each appt with me. I just make my appts for the latest possible so he doesn't have to miss much work. The A/S is the day before Thanksgiving and the office closes at 12 - so we had no choice but to do a morning appt.

ETA: clarify last sentence.

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