Baby B is a week behind Baby A

starlightgator · November 2014

I had my 8 week ultrasound last Thursday and have been pretty upset ever since. My RE told me that Baby B is a week behind Baby A. He said that there's a 50/50 chance Baby B won't make it. I'm so upset and so scared. I also asked the nurse afterward and she said that when they see a baby that is 3 or 4 days behind it's not a big problem, but more than 7 days and it is. Has anyone else experienced this? I'm so sad it's hard to be positive. But everyone keeps telling me to stay positive. We lost our first pregnancy 2 years ago at 11 weeks, so I'm a nervous wreck.

pblge · November 2014

I'm sorry you're going through this. There is still a good chance that both babies will survive, and I will be sending you lots of sticky thoughts for that outcome. As PP said, vanishing twins are very common. I had a probable vanishing twin this pregnancy, although it was very early (two sacs became one sac; hormones got a bit wonky). It's a hard thing to process, and I would imagine it would be harder once you've see two little heartbeats.

Thinking of you as you wait. ((hugs))

hopeby2015 · November 2014

Unfortunately, we lost a twin round 7w - no hb found. I hope your lo catches up! ((Hugs))

kmc84 · November 2014

((Hugs)) I hope both babies thrive and that B does some catching up!

Unfortunately it is common to lose a twin early (my dd was a twin, the other was lost very, very early). Most people have no idea. Since we have such early u/s, that's the only reason most of us ever find out.

Try and be positive; I know it's hard! There is nothing you can physically do to change the outcome, so I always feel that in a situation like that, the only thing you can control is how you approach it.

turquoisequeen · November 2014

I'm so sorry to hear this. Sending lots of prayers your way!

starlightgator · November 2014

Thank you all for your genuinely heartfelt comments. Both had strong heartbeats but I guess we will see at the 10 week ultrasound.

gsancho · November 2014

I'm sorry your dealing with this. It's encouraging that both had strong heartbeats. FX baby B catches up. Do you go back soon?

indianaalum · November 2014

Yes, I sadly went through this, but it was very early on. It is called "vanishing twin" syndrome. I had 2 gestatational sacs, but only 1 baby developed a heartbeat. I am happy to say that I am 36 weeks pregnant with a singleton, so it does not always mean both babies will be lost.

Good Luck and hang in there

absolutelymaybe · November 2014

No advice but will be thinking positive thoughts for both your babies.

starlightgator · November 2014

@gsancho‌ Yes, both had strong heartbeats. I'm not scheduled for another ultrasound until next Friday, the 14th. But, I may go in today since I've had a lot of breathing trouble from this cold. Doc told me to go to the ER last night but I was hesitant. Might go today. Very congested and out of breath easily. Can't take anything to release the congestion except Benadryl.

starlightgator · November 2014

Finally went to the ER. They gave me an IV. They think it's either a blood clot or pneumonia causing the shortness of breath.

sweetpotato123 · November 2014

Oh no! I hope they are able to determine t your diagnosis quickly. Feel better soon!

pblge · November 2014

Yikes!! I'm sorry you're going through this. Please keep us posted. ((Hugs))

MissEm15 · November 2014

Sending hugs your way.. I really hope Baby B catches up!!

KT416 · November 2014

I'm sorry you are going through this. Sending positive vibes to baby B and hope you feel better soon!

kmc84 · November 2014

Oh no! Keep up posted!

Of the two, I'm hoping for pneumonia!

starlightgator · November 2014

Doesn't look like pneumonia and won't know for sure about blood clot without more symptoms or a catscan. But not safe with high amounts of radiation. Probably a bad virus. Going home and rest. Waiting for one more blood test result. Thanks again for all your kind words. Means so much.

blueberries8 · November 2014

Thinking of you and sending hugs and prayers your way. I hope you will get good news at your next ultrasound and I hope you feel better soon!

starlightgator · November 2014

@IFinTN‌ Thanks so much. I'm not sure what a D-Dimer is? ER doc seemed pretty motivated to do a catscan but knew it was too dangerous. But, he said it's the only way to know for sure with a clot.

Sunny B · November 2014

I hope you feel better soon. I'm also thinking of your babies and hoping everything picks up for Baby B.

jaytee16 · November 2014

Thinking of you and your little ones. I hope you're ok and that baby B catches up!!

rella22 · November 2014

Feel better soon and I hope both babies thrive through this!! T&P your way!

rox825 · November 2014

I'm sorry, I don't have any insight just wanted to send a hug.

turquoisequeen · November 2014

Are you feeling any better @starlightgator‌ ? Thinking about you and your babies!

starlightgator · November 2014

You all are a great bunch of ladies! Thank you so much for sending kind wishes. I'm home resting and will have to go back to work tomorrow. But, so far it looks like a normal virus, not the blood clot or pneumonia they feared. Still praying for both babies, and waiting anxiously for the US a week from Friday. I'll keep you posted.

beachy6 · November 2014

Hoping you start to feel better soon! Praying for your babies to look amazing at your next u/s.

mrs.willie · November 2014

I don't have any experience with this, but wanted to send some T & P's your way. Hope everything looks great for both babies at the next u/s and I hope you're feeling better.