Any other bridesmaids out there? Or BTDT?

jennnyboomboom · September 2014

I was asked to be in a wedding a few months ago that is April 18th. My friend knew my H and I were going through IVF and planning a cycle back in July/August with a potential end of April/May due date. When we picked out our dresses (before I was even pregnant) we planned ahead and I just got an insanely large dress just in case.

So, now I'm realizing I'm going to be 38 weeks pregnant!

Anyone else ever BTDT? I'm kind of nervous, but also plan on talking to her closer to the wedding about possibly having a chair set aside. I don't think their ceremony is going to be too long so hopefully I'll survive. Luckily H is also in the wedding and will be able to stabilize me while going up and down the aisle!

ChanelA · September 2014

My best friend is getting married May 22 and I am due May 11th ... We are both nervous lol

welly01 · September 2014

I was in a wedding when I was 5-6 months pregnant with DS. Totally different than 9 months, though.

I would definitely just talk to the bride about how best to handle it. A chair is a good idea. Could you also be the last bridesmaid and just sit on the front pew?

Good luck!

Chiwatkins · September 2014

My favorite cousin is getting married in mid April. This is the same person that changed her local wedding venue to a destination wedding in Aruba bc her maid of honor said that she was going to try to conceive in Sept. I'm nervous about telling my cousin and waiting until I have my first ultrasound.

LexiSophie55 · September 2014

I danced until 1am at 37 weeks pregnant at my cousins wedding. It didn't phase me a bit. You might be lucky like I was. 10 days later my son was born - 12 hours after bowling. Everyone is so different - it is hard to say at this point.

My advice is to try to stay active - easier said than done, I know. My son was born in Oct...easy to stay active in the summer. I'm nervous about a winter pregnancy.

I am in a wedding the first weekend in June. I'm more nervous about still looking pregnant for that than at 37 weeks....then I have an excuse! LOL

Sarahbmcd · September 2014

Im in a wedding in july. But we haven't tried on bridesmaid dresses yet. I hope we do soon!

sabriel1 · September 2014

I'm getting this ridiculous picture of you husband helping you up and down the aisle and you hardly being able to walk. You'll be 38 weeks but not incapable of walking likely. Everyone is different of course but I know tons of people 38-40 weeks who walk 3-4kms per day hoping to jump start labor so more than likely you'll be fine to walk up and down an aisle without much in the way of balance issues. I would just make sure to stay really hydrated and sit down often after the ceremony in order to decrease the discomfort of swollen feet.

Yikes, yeah, no way I'd be going to a destination wedding at 8 months @chiwatkins ... are you going to decline the invite?

DawnLilly · September 2014

I will be a MOH at 32 weeks. I'm actually pretty happy with the timing because I will be cute pregnant. I haven't told her yet though so.... I don't know what she will say. I'm fairly certain she will be excited.

jennnyboomboom · September 2014

@holly1416 Oh my God, no! I don't foresee myself being this totally incapable person of movement, but I am a FTM so I just don't really know what to expect comfort-wise at that stage in pregnancy.

@LexiSophie55 This is my hope! I'm trying to keep myself moving as much as possible and not be lazy. Regardless of the wedding, more so for my own well-being.

sabriel1 · September 2014

jennnyboomboom said:

@holly1416 Oh my God, no! I don't foresee myself being this totally incapable person of movement, but I am a FTM so I just don't really know what to expect comfort-wise at that stage in pregnancy.

@LexiSophie55 This is my hope! I'm trying to keep myself moving as much as possible and not be lazy. Regardless of the wedding, more so for my own well-being.

hahaha the picture that came to my mind was so hilarious. Hopefully you'll be just fine (and not have had the baby by then

)

nurserachel22 · September 2014

Yes! I am due may 9th wedding is April 11th... My friend still wants me to be in the wedding but I feel guilty about it!!

jennnyboomboom · September 2014

@holly1416 I hereby promise should I lose all ability to walk and function like a normal human being I will make this available on YouTube for everyone's enjoyment!

PinkRoses53 · September 2014

I would rather be in a wedding while pregnant than right after with the baby weight and craziness of having a newborn!

My cousin is getting married 7/11/15 2 hours away and I will probably have a 6-8 week old. I have no clue how that's going to be since I feel like the first 3 months after my son was born were just awful/a blur. Also it took me 11 weeks to lose my baby weight last time so hopefully I will find a dress that looks ok!

Sarahbmcd · September 2014

PinkRoses53 said:
I would rather be in a wedding while pregnant than right after with the baby weight and craziness of having a newborn!

My cousin is getting married 7/11/15 2 hours away and I will probably have a 6-8 week old. I have no clue how that's going to be since I feel like the first 3 months after my son was born were just awful/a blur. Also it took me 11 weeks to lose my baby weight last time so hopefully I will find a dress that looks ok!

I hear ya!!! The wedding I'm in is less than 2 months after the babies due date. I'm Gonna have to work my butt off!

smurf605 · September 2014

I would plan on flat shoes, but as long as you are still pregnant, you will likely be fine. I doubt you would need a chair. Of course, if you have some sort of complications or you just had the baby, that might be a different situation

I would just be sure that the bride has a back-up plan in case you cannot participate.

buppydups10 · September 2014

I am supposed to be in a wedding 2 weeks after baby is due. We are going to tell the bride and groom our situation (dh is a groomsman too) and let them decide if they still want us in it, being that we may or may not be able to come. I will still get the dress (In a huge size) but it will be mostly a game day decision, or close to. I figured we'd just let them decide if they were ok with that or if they'd rather us sit this one out, if I'm even able to attend at all. FTM so I have no idea what I'm getting into lol!

a316b · September 2014

I was a bridesmaid in my bil/sil wedding post-partum. Like 24 hours out of the hospital at a wedding function. It was a 5-day Indian wedding and I made it 4 days. I lasted through my husbands best man speech (that he wrote while I was in labor...) and then went to bed.

a316b · September 2014

It keeps cutting off the second part of my post?

Did my lady parts feel swollen and gross? Yes.
Did I eat lots of Advil? Yes.
I don't regret a minute of it.

You'll make it through and it will be a blast.
I'd leave the alterations until the very last minute, though.

HeatherC21 · September 2014

I am matron of honor in my friend's wedding may 9th. I am due the 13th. I plan on going still if I am able but I don't think it's a good idea to stay the matron of honor. I haven't told anyone yet including family so I'm feeling horrible about going to pick out bridesmaids dresses on Thursday with this HUGE secret. I know I'm going to cry when I actually tell her.

jwm29 · September 2014

I'm a matron of honour in my best friends wedding on April 17th and am due may 3rd. I plan on being in it still but felt awful when I told her

ashtownyeah · September 2014

I'm in my brothers wedding in March. I'll be 30 weeks ... And I need to fly from LA to Ohio. Here's to hoping my doc gives me the green light when the time comes!

jennnyboomboom · September 2014

@jwm29 You and I are pretty much in the same boat, give or take a day or 2!

Pink724 · September 2014

I'll be 34 weeks at a friend's wedding, too... I'm nervous about the dress situation!

mamajama3 · September 2014

I'm a BM in a wedding two weekends from now...the dress is a little tight and HELLO boobs! but I think it will all work well. I told the bride today (she guessed it actually and I couldn't lie lol), she's super excited and can't wait to help me hide my secret

. She said she'll get me tonic water with a lime so people keep thinking it's a vodka tonic (I wish!). BM dresses should come with a preggo option!

mmzdestefano · September 2014

I'm a bridesmaid for my brothers wedding one month after baby and its 12 hours away. Lord help me.

missz326 · September 2014

My best friends wedding is May 16 at which I was going to be the matron of honor My initial due date was May 2nd and with my track record of giving birth two weeks early I felt like almost 1 month postpartum would be perfect for baby and I. I just had my first u/s and they changed my due date to May 18 i told her even if i delivered like usual two weeks prior i would be a sleepless mess, and wasn't willing to bring my two week newborn to a 200+ wedding nor was i willing to leave the baby with a sitter yet. Shes so upset because my kids were also her ring bearer and flower girl . I have been a mess since I found out and feeel terrrrible but i also know what it is to have a newborn baby and it just wouldn't work . Timing sucks on this one but its too close to promise such a big commitment

Wish4BabyM · September 2014

I'm in a good freinds wedding literally 4 WEEKS after my due date:/ this will be tough by the sounds of it.. Between feeding every two hours and stuffing myself in a dress, trying not to leak through it, ugh.. I had someone suggest to have my mom come stay in our suite with us while we are at the reception. If I left the baby at home, if be away for two days. Not sure I could pump that far out.. No clue what I'm going to do:/

missz326 · September 2014

Wish4BabyM said:
I'm in a good freinds wedding literally 4 WEEKS after my due date:/ this will be tough by the sounds of it.. Between feeding every two hours and stuffing myself in a dress, trying not to leak through it, ugh.. I had someone suggest to have my mom come stay in our suite with us while we are at the reception. If I left the baby at home, if be away for two days. Not sure I could pump that far out.. No clue what I'm going to do:/

Yessss if you can bring your mom that way you dont have to be far and can feed right before you have to stand at the actual ceremony ! And fed while everyone else gets ready!! You might even give birth a lil earlier so baby will be a tiny bit older!

scharle3 · November 2014

I'm in a friends wedding I think 2 weeks prior to my due date. I haven't told her yet, but we have to get fitted for dresses by NOV 15. I plan on telling her this weekend. Not sure what I'm going to do and how do I know how big I'm going to get?!? I really have no idea how she's going to respond or what I should say about being in the wedding but there could be a chance that I might not be in it. What should I do?

Jillio31 · November 2014

My best friend is getting married on June 5th and I'm one of her three bridesmaids. I haven't even told her that I'm pregnant yet cause I'm only 11 weeks along. My due date is May 23rd. I feel like I have to tell her and start by saying "don't hate me or be mad at me but..." Any suggestions on how to tell her? We have an a doctor's appt on Nov. 11th and will hopefully hear the heartbeat then. I'm planning on breaking the news to her a few days later. Oh also I live in Michigan and her wedding is going to be on Mackinac Island where medical help is not exactly the best if even available.

ellab043 · November 2014

I am so stressed about this. I'm the MOH in my best friends wedding which is 18 hours by car from our house. Wedding is April 11th and I'm due May 7th. I can't fly obviously and DH put his foot down and said we are not driving it because he's scared he will have to deliver the baby on the side of the interstate. I don't really know what to do and I'm so worried about hurting her feelings.

jennnyboomboom · November 2014

mayflowers35 I'm in a wedding in April, due 5/1, and I was fitted in August! I guess it depends on bridal shop and designer. I wound up ordering a dress that was 8 sizes bigger just to be on the safe side!

a316b · November 2014

My SIL asked me to be her brisdemaid literally the day after i found out I was pregnant with my 2nd.

I told her I'd LOVE to do it if she was ok with me being A) big as a house and/or

attending with my newborn. (Wedding was 11 days before my due date)

She was beyond excited for us and said whatever capacity I could participate in would be wonderful.

Ended up having my son 5 days before the wedding, and we ALL attended. It was tiring - but a blast.

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happyfarmwife10 · November 2014

As a bride who dealt with this exact situation. My best friend found out she was due a week before my wedding and she handled it perfectly. She called me as soon as she found out her due date. Second she said she was so sorry, but she just wouldn't be able to be in the wedding. If she had put the decision on me, I would have insisted that she still do it because I wasn't a mom yet and didn't 'get it'. So, tell the bride ASAP and if it's within 2 weeks before or after the due date, do them a favor and bow out. You don't want to distract from their special day.

AliceKC9876 · November 2014

happyfarmwife10 said:

As a bride who dealt with this exact situation. My best friend found out she was due a week before my wedding and she handled it perfectly. She called me as soon as she found out her due date. Second she said she was so sorry, but she just wouldn't be able to be in the wedding. If she had put the decision on me, I would have insisted that she still do it because I wasn't a mom yet and didn't 'get it'. So, tell the bride ASAP and if it's within 2 weeks before or after the due date, do them a favor and bow out. You don't want to distract from their special day.

This is great advice! It's nice of some of you guys to want to be there for your friends, but it sounds like timing-wise it might be best to bow out (especially for out-of-town weddings). I wouldn't mind attending a wedding the last month of being pregnant, but it would be miserable to attend a wedding the month after giving birth! As a first-time mom, I totally underestimated how hard it would be to do stuff that first month so I definitely wouldn't want to be in a wedding knowing what I know now.

jennnyboomboom · November 2014

happyfarmwife10 said:

As a bride who dealt with this exact situation. My best friend found out she was due a week before my wedding and she handled it perfectly. She called me as soon as she found out her due date. Second she said she was so sorry, but she just wouldn't be able to be in the wedding. If she had put the decision on me, I would have insisted that she still do it because I wasn't a mom yet and didn't 'get it'. So, tell the bride ASAP and if it's within 2 weeks before or after the due date, do them a favor and bow out. You don't want to distract from their special day.

One of my best friends is getting married 4/18 and I'm due 5/1. I'm not bowing out, I definitely want to be apart of the day. We had gone through fertility issues (IVF success in August) and the bride had known about of this even before her engagement. Our situation might be a little different then others, but we all knew ahead of time that I'd likely be super duper pregnant at the time of the wedding and it hasn't been an issue to either of us.

Kburns0925 · November 2014

I'm in a wedding in 2 wks, I'll be 15 weeks 3 days at the wedding. I am hoping my dress will be ok...is a black fit &flare strapless. Just nervous about how the dress will fit but just have to wait and see.

sevillanagal · November 2014

Sarahbmcd said:

I would rather be in a wedding while pregnant than right after with the baby weight and craziness of having a newborn! My cousin is getting married 7/11/15 2 hours away and I will probably have a 6-8 week old. I have no clue how that's going to be since I feel like the first 3 months after my son was born were just awful/a blur. Also it took me 11 weeks to lose my baby weight last time so hopefully I will find a dress that looks ok!
I hear ya!!! The wedding I'm in is less than 2 months after the babies due date. I'm Gonna have to work my butt off!

Ugh I'm in a July wedding too! I guess it will be good motivation for shedding some lbs? FTM here, so I really have no idea, but I'm sure I'll feel like a frumpy mess...

PsMomma718 · November 2014

I'm in a wedding on May 23rd, and my due date is May 24! Because of a prior csection and prior pre-eclampsia diagnosis, my doctor plans to have a scheduled c section at least a week earlier. I'm hoping for a quick recovery, and our dresses are flowy.

Knottie54288128 · November 2014

I'm due a month after my brother's wedding. Really the only thing I'm worried about is being gigantic.

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