December 2012 Moms who do NOT have another baby....

ExcitedAunt2b · October 2014

If you don't have another one, do you want one or are you a one and done family? I know a lot of us are on #2 (or more), and I am really wanting to have another but DH is not on board. He has children, older now, from previous relationships so he told me that he was done when we found out we were having a girl. I have always wanted 2 though, so he keeps saying he'll consider it but never goes further than that. So if you are one and done what made you decide that? If you are wanting another one when are you thinking of trying again?

I'm 35 now so I don't have a lot of time ahead of me to have another one. I know people do it everyday but I don't want to be pregnant at 40.

Jackiemxoxo · October 2014

We actually just started trying for number 2. I wanted to wait til I was finished with grad school and I'll finally be done in 3 weeks. Originally, I wanted to have two close together but I am kind we waited. I think it is hard to decide when to have another one because it feels like there is always something but it has to happen sometime. I hope you and your DH are able to figure out something that will make you both happy.

kjsmith9 · October 2014

We actually just found out last week that #2 is on the way! We were going to wait until DD was 2 to start trying, but then last month figured that a few months wouldn't make a difference in the long run. And as long as this pregnancy goes well, I'll have help in the summer during maternity leave because DH is a teacher and will be on break.

valeriegp · October 2014

We are one and one for a number of reasons. First of all, it cost $10k for me to get pregnant and we can't afford it again. And, in general, having another baby would really stretch us financially, and we want to be able to do at least some travelling, etc. with our son, and afford some other things (I'm not even talking things like private school, I'm talking things like music lessons).

Also, I was 36 when I had him and am 38 now, and I'm just feeling too old. I am exhausted all the time and I can't imagine how exhausted I would be with 2 kids. It makes me a little sad, but I know it is what is best for all of us.

DecemberGirl1216 · October 2014

I have been trying with no luck...it is really starting to be stressful. I am so so happy for all the pregnant ladies here and new babies but it stings a little and makes my heart hurt. My thyroid went hypo after I had A, am charting, temping, all that good stuff but no luck. Will be seeing a reproductive endocrinologist if not pregnant by December

LittleFish1 · October 2014

Fingers crossed for your family @kjsmith9

am excited for you!

We're 1 and done here ... pre-any pregnancies, I used to want 2, but it took a bit of time to get pregnant & early on with the pregnancy of LO realized was totally happy with 1. Once was in L&D, the plan of only one was fully cemented in my mind. DH was always of the 1 or none mindset, and I feel like we're complete. Yes, we have variety of additional reasons, but it boils down to, being good with us being a trio. If LO starts asking for a sibling, she can get a dog if she's convinced her Dad that she is responsible enough (meaning SHE will take full care of the dog).

Litgirl77 · October 2014

We're one and done. Similar to what a PP said, it took us awhile to get pregnant and I'm 37 now so I don't have a ton of time left. Most of all though, I felt like pregnancy took a lot out of me (duh!) and I just don't have it in me to do it again. I've been struggling with hypothyroid issues that are making me exhausted, and until I get that under control there's no way I'll consider it. Every time Sam has a bad night, it kills me. I can't imagine doing to newborn thing again.

I just realized this probably sounds selfish…I don't know. I just know my limits, I guess? I had such an insane desire to be a mom the first time around and unless I feel that again, I don't really want to do it.

LittleFish1 · November 2014

Not selfish at all @Litgirl77 that is exactly how we feel about it. We're all just going at being the best parents we can be. For some of us, that limits our family size. No where does it say a certain # of kids will make your family happy/ideal/complete. Know big famalies & small ones and each are their own entity. All have aspects that workg are great, and all have challenges. Already at playdates, when other kids start to disagree over toys has been very nice to know we will only need to worry about that with friends and not siblings.

kerbear135 · November 2014

We've been trying for #2 since April...we lost one in June and haven't had any success since..it took us 11 months to get pregnant with DD (including a loss) so I'm trying to remain optimistic...it's a lot harder to TFAS since DD doesn't leave us much alone time...I've always seen myself as a mother to 2, and DH has generally been on board with that (he worries about money, but he did that before DD and it wasn't as bad as he feared), but if we can't get pregnant on our own a 2nd time, we'll be one and one b/c we can't afford any of the medical procedures to get pregnant again.

ExcitedAunt2b · November 2014

I would be happy with just Morgan, she is so awesome and makes my day so much brighter! I have a lot of thinking to do. A lot of good reasons/suggestions and points have been made.

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