Monday Bitchfest

jamjoyful · November 2014

Bitch it out.

I was up for over an hour at LO 3am feed. She just wouldn't relax and go back to sleep. Now, both kids are up and I'm not ready to be awake this early. Time to drink all the coffee.

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poofwok · November 2014

My coffee machine broke last night. Im pretty pissed about it. I just want my effin' coffee!!!

IceHide61313 · November 2014

I'm tired of my family commenting about food for LO. If she starts crying my dad says feed her. Um no, if I thought that was the problem, she'd have a bottle in her mouth right now. And yesterday after church my grandma asked us to come over for dinner. I said we can't cause I didn't pack a bottle (last feed was 900 so next feed was 12. Church goes from 1030-1130). So she then says "mom is taking a risk with you"...no I am not. And then the last time she stopped at our place, LO was laying on her playmat, she picks her up, LO starts crying and she says "is mom starving you?" NO! She just ate an hour ago and she's only crying because you picked her up. FFS people!

jamjoyful · November 2014

IceHide61313 said:
I'm tired of my family commenting about food for LO. If she starts crying my dad says feed her. Um no, if I thought that was the problem, she'd have a bottle in her mouth right now. And yesterday after church my grandma asked us to come over for dinner. I said we can't cause I didn't pack a bottle (last feed was 900 so next feed was 12. Church goes from 1030-1130). So she then says "mom is taking a risk with you"...no I am not. And then the last time she stopped at our place, LO was laying on her playmat, she picks her up, LO starts crying and she says "is mom starving you?" NO! She just ate an hour ago and she's only crying because you picked her up. FFS people!

What the hell? Why do people always assume crying = hungry?

That would be very obnoxious. I would have a few choice words for them if I were you.

bumpuser10150228 · November 2014

I'm feeling very bitchy this morning due to being up every hour with LO last night (11 week growth spurt). I'm pissed at our heat in our townhouse... It's either like the tropics or freezing, no happy medium. I'm also pissed at Netflix for removing a bunch of content recently

kareik01 · November 2014

DHs work is sending him out of town for 3 days.

That really bugs me since he's not the only one that can do what needs done on this trip, yet they choose to send the one with a young baby at home. Grr.

Oh well...the other guy going is the one DH is going to open a new business with, so this will just be a good chance for them to work on their business plan together...

rainbowwillow · November 2014

My first day back at work & I forgot the power cord for my pump. FML.

cardgal14 · November 2014

Spent an hour Saturday night debating vaccines with MIL. She thinks we don't need them and we think orherwise. Uggghhh

kareik01 · November 2014

rainbowwillow said:

My first day back at work & I forgot the power cord for my pump. FML.

I think I forgot a piece to my pump or bottles every day my first week back

BeachM · November 2014

lizzie82088 said:

I'm also pissed at Netflix for removing a bunch of content recently

This! WTF Netflix! Please come to my house and explain why you removed Mighty Machines to my 4 year old.

*Merry* · November 2014

No my baby is not "just fussing" or talking to you and I do not appreciate you saying he can just cry. He is a very content baby and if he is fussing it's for a reason! Either he is wet, hungry or if you watched for signs and put him to sleep when I said he would not be fussy. Also please stay out of his face and stop talking so loud to him! He can hear you, it freaks him out and he clearly does not like it!

jenniferurs · November 2014

I apologize in advance for venting about MIL again, but I'm so angry this morning.

Back story: My husband's mother is crazy jealous and possessive and freaks out if she perceives anything as a slight against her, even if it's not. When my husband was just a kid, she would cry and yell at him any time he went to spend half of Thanksgiving or Christmas with his father (they were divorced) and make him feel like a bad child for not choosing to spend the entire day with her and her alone. Fast forward to this Thanksgiving and we decided to stay down in Florida for it and have it at my mom's. We told his mom that we'd be willing to drive up to Atlanta the week before and have an early celebration with her, or she could come down here and go to my mom's with us on Thanksgiving day, or she could come down here and we would have a separate celebration with her either the day before Thanksgiving or the day after (our moms don't exactly get along). You'd think this would be accommodating enough for her, after we've spent the last 3 Thanksgivings with her (and only one of those with my mom as well), but no. She flipped out and had the nerve to bring up the fact that I was raped as a child as a strike against my mother and a reason why we should never spend holidays with her.

Needless to say, we were extremely angry. I ended up sending MIL an e-mail saying that I was incredibly disappointed in her attempt to cut my family out of holidays and even more disappointed that she'd use a traumatic event in my life as a tool to tip the scales in her favor. She responded by telling me that I needed to have a nicer tone with her and that I should be working to build a strong family unit with her, as she would think that I would want her to like me. When I responded by saying that that worked both ways and that a strong family unit didn't just include her, but my mother as well, and that I was incredibly bothered by her trying to monopolize the holidays, she didn't respond. And when I sent a follow up e-mail saying I was hurt by her lack of a response, she e-mailed me back, saying she'd respond "in time." Whatever that means.

A week later and still no response, yet she keeps going on my Facebook and Instagram and liking any photo I put up of LO. It may be juvenile, but I went ahead and blocked her on both social media platforms this morning. We've decided to cut her off for a month until she can learn to treat us with the respect we deserve and I feel like part of that means that she doesn't get to see pictures of LO and pretend like everything is okay, all the while STILL not having the courtesy to respond to my e-mail.

Sorry. Vent over.

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MrsLeahBentley · November 2014

cardgal14 said:
Spent an hour Saturday night debating vaccines with MIL. She thinks we don't need them and we think orherwise. Uggghhh

I had a friend at work who thought it was her life's goal to make sure every child was unvaccinated because her first son has autism. She didn't vaccinate the second and he also has a mild form of autism. Me thinks her theories are incorrect.

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jenniferurs · November 2014

missmimsyy said:

@jenniferurs‌ did she being up the trauma again or is this a continuation from last time?

She brought it up again in her e-mails to me, as if it were some sort of positive point, saying that she just recently found out about it, she's processing it, and she's really mad that my mother "allowed" that to happen to me. Never mind the fact that my husband said she's lying and that she's known for years now...

Dawn5481 · November 2014

I think Delaney is going through another growth spurt. When she's not sleeping, she wants to eat and eat....and eat. She's also a really bad spitter though so I've been trying really hard not to over feed her or at least putting longer spaces in between feedings (holding her, playing with her, distracting her). Sometimes it works, sometimes it doesn't. When it doesn't, holy hell, she starts into a tantrum so obnoxious I worry she's gonna hurt herself. Last night, she started losing it, and I was trying to calm her down before feeding her. FI goes and brings out the bottle of fucking infant Tylenol and starts loading up a dose! WTF?! Ummm no, we don't throw drugs at our child for no reason! He's been watching her on Saturdays for me while I'm at work, and now all I can think is that he's been shoving Tylenol down her throat when she's inconsolable!

Dawn5481 · November 2014

Oh, and a big FU to the dog and my sitter (who clearly isn't paying enough attention). The bastard has now eaten LO's favorite paci, her O-Ball, and her lamby Wub A Nub. He doesn't do this crap when we're around.

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Shiva14 · November 2014

@addysmom22‌ I PM'ed you.

becominggold · November 2014

DH is a hypochondriac!!! LO has a cold

and his little cough does sound yucky. However, we called the pedi yesterday and the on call Dr assured us symptoms were fine to wait until today. DH called again because he was not satisfied with me repeating my conversation with dr. We then argued half the day about taking him to after hrs pedi. I only won when I called there and found out there was an hr+ wait and many people. I put my foot down and said LO would get sicker in that germ fest. Saw our pedi today and LO had clear lungs and ears...it's just a cold. DH has informed me no less than three times it is impossible for him to sound so bad and it be just a cold. DH kept LO this afternoon while I worked and I sincerely wish I had made the pedi appt during that time. DH is SURE it will turn to something much worse and that it will take days for recovery. He is also now certain he is coming down with the same thing.

SoSayWeAll · November 2014

I went back to work today and DS went to daycare. I was a total wreck all day. I feel so sad and hopeless I don't even know what to do. I am the main breadwinner so staying home is not an option. Oh and I am sofa king pissed at my work because I had asked to use a vacation day tomorrow and I looked and I have a full schedule. I didn't check to make sure I had the day off so it's too late now. I sent 18 oz of breastmilk and DS ate 15 in 8 hours! I pumped exactly that much and I am totally freaking out about it and trying to figure out ways to increase my supply.

lynds002 · November 2014

It was my first day back to work and I just realized I will have literally zero free time between housework, cleaning bottles, making dinner, etc. Plus I am only seeing ds for about two hours of the day.

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slippintrippn84 · November 2014

lynds002 said:

It was my first day back to work and I just realized I will have literally zero free time between housework, cleaning bottles, making dinner, etc. Plus I am only seeing ds for about two hours of the day. (

This (except I went back to work last Thursday).
To top it off, I am on call at work and had an issue pop up at the very end of the day so I had to send DH to pick up LO from daycare. It's next to impossible to find people who were still around that could help me fix it that late in the day. An hour later we figured out that it wasn't our issue to be fixing, so I ran out of the office before anything else came up. Got home only to realize that I left my freggin pump at my desk and I had to relinquish more time with the family to driving around at rush hour. DH had put LO to bed by the time I got home. Stupid stupid mistake.

becominggold · November 2014

@SoSayWeAll‌ I started to have a few issues w my pumping last week. I think my supply is very sensitive to my water intake. I have focused on that the last few days and it seems better. I also started drinking lactation tea.

MC03 · November 2014

@SoSayWeAll‌ try not to freak out about your supply, the stress will only hurt your supply more.

The first week or two back your body is going to do a lot of adjusting to a new schedule and to all of the pumping. It's very likely that once you get into a schedule and get it into a flow you will see that you're pumping enough. Good luck I hope each day gets better for you.

SoSayWeAll · November 2014

Thank you, @becominggold‌ and @MC03‌. I will really try not to stress today.

jenniferurs · November 2014

ablessedsoul said:

jenniferurs said:

missmimsyy said:

@jenniferurs‌ did she being up the trauma again or is this a continuation from last time?

She brought it up again in her e-mails to me, as if it were some sort of positive point, saying that she just recently found out about it, she's processing it, and she's really mad that my mother "allowed" that to happen to me. Never mind the fact that my husband said she's lying and that she's known for years now...

******on mobile and stuck in box******

She sounds like a real gem. I have to ask, what does your H say about all this? It sounds like his relationship with her was never really healthy either. Not being snarky, just genuinely curious. I know what it's like as I too have a bsc MIL. I feel bad for H because it is really hard on him.

Far from healthy. They've always had a strained, albeit close, relationship. He's all she really has and he's mindful of that, but a person can only be so patient. This time, he's instituted a one month "probation" period of no communication. The next time will be 2 months. The time after, 3. And so on and so forth. At this point, we both feel like we have to actually do something drastic since threats alone haven't proven to be effective. We already had to kick her out of our house last Thanksgiving and tell her that she wasn't welcome down for LO's birth, because of similar stunts she's pulled, and honestly, we're just exhausted by all of the drama and stress.

So sorry for all of you who are dealing with similar in-law issues and I greatly appreciate the ability to vent and the support!

jenniferurs · November 2014

addysmom22 said:
@jenniferurs‌ Wow, you're MIL could give mine a run for her money in the crazy department. That's terrible that she would say such things and bring up such a horrible childhood memory for you. I'm really sorry that happened to you also! Hugs from someone who also has a certifiable MIL!

Thank you so much! Xoxo

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