Books to burn/worst advice

Re: Books to burn/worst advice

• Daisy1232 member

  November 2014

  For me, it's the womanly art of breastfeeding. It makes me feel horrible every time I pick it up. From the constant references to a "drowsy, medicated baby" if you do any pain management to the anecdotes about women quitting their jobs after one day of having to put their kids in daycare, I feel like it's only directed towards women that have no trouble bfing and can stay home. I would love to, but momma needs to work for money.
  Then it goes on about how cortisol levels are higher in kids in daycare. And the final straw for me was when it said that babies with lip and tongue ties are more common in women that use cocaine while pregnant, not to say if your baby has one you did, but that you probably used some stimulant that caused it. WTF?

  

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• Vavavictoria member

  November 2014

  Wow. I'm glad I didn't read that. I'd be ready to burn it too

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• aliciak316 member

  November 2014

  One of my extremely pro breastfeeding friends told me to only nurse every three hours for 15 mins each side, and that's it no matter what......yea right my son is 8 weeks and in 6 months clothing, he likes his food

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• RedBaramid member

  November 2014

  Everyone who told me that I would think twice about wanting to go back to work can suck my balls. I miss having something to do besides the baby and the house, also I miss other grown ups.

  
  

  Also anyone who told me that I'd forget how awful pregnancy was is a dirty whore.

  
  

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• conradraging member

  November 2014

  I'm actually kind of mad I wasted my time reading ina may.

  
  

  
  

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  BFP: 12/25/13  ---  DD: 09/10/14

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• JustCricket member

  November 2014

  conradraging said:

  I'm actually kind of mad I wasted my time reading ina may.

  I've heard some awful stuff about her books

  
  

  
  

   

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• conradraging member

  November 2014

  JustCricket said:

  
  

  conradraging said:

  
  

  I'm actually kind of mad I wasted my time reading ina may.

  
  

  I've heard some awful stuff about her books
  
  I don't necessarily think it's a bad book but I do think it gives some bad feelings if you're unable to have the natural birth..

  
  

  
  

  BFP: 09/13/13  ---  MMC: 10/25/13

  BFP: 12/25/13  ---  DD: 09/10/14

  BFP: 03/16/15  ---  EDD: 11/30/15

  
  

  
  

  
  

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• JustCricket member

  November 2014

  conradraging said:

  conradraging said:

  I'm actually kind of mad I wasted my time reading ina may.

  I've heard some awful stuff about her books

  I don't necessarily think it's a bad book but I do think it gives some bad feelings if you're unable to have the natural birth..

  that's exactly what I heard. I think any book that says anything bad about those not having or choosing(if they even had the choice) an intervention free birth can go suck an egg.

  
  

  
  

  
  

   

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• Ivorytower2 member

  November 2014

  If one more person tells me to put the baby in the swing for naps, I'm gonna lose it. What a waste of money that was...
  
  Also, those who say "sleep when baby sleeps" must have maids and chefs.
  
  Agreed on Ina May- I thought the book was a bit pretentious and judge-y.

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• wieb67 member

  November 2014

  Ivorytower2 said:

  If one more person tells me to put the baby in the swing for naps, I'm gonna lose it. What a waste of money that was...
  
  Also, those who say "sleep when baby sleeps" must have maids and chefs.
  
  Agreed on Ina May- I thought the book was a bit pretentious and judge-y.

  Haha seriously - if I try to sleep when baby sleeps I am just laying awake stressing about my filthy house so might as well get up and clean it!

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• sapphires-and-diamonds member

  November 2014

  You'll forget the pain of labor and want more babies.
  
  If you need stitches you won't even notice once that sweet baby is lying on you.
  
  You will be so bored on maternity leave and want to come back to work after a month or two.
  
  Do your shower thank you cards while on leave. You'll have so much time!
  
  Breastfeeding is so natural and the baby will know what to do.
  
  All lies!

  

  
  

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• Ahlome08 member

  November 2014

  When they said to put DS on a schedule and he will cry when he's hungry. Lolol he naked his own schedule AND he shows hunger cues waay before he cries! Also, my naive thought about never giving him a paci...bahahahaha they are life savers in the car for a fussy baby!!

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• jht14 member

  November 2014

  Sleep when the baby sleep. Ha. Wtf am I supposed to do when the baby DOES NOT sleep?
  
  You'll hate being a SAHM. I give you a month before you're crying to go back to work. Um no. LO is almost two months old and I'm loving it. No plans to go back to work for a while.

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• JackieB15 member

  November 2014

  conradraging said:

  JustCricket said:

  
  

  conradraging said:

  
  

  I'm actually kind of mad I wasted my time reading ina may.

  
  

  I've heard some awful stuff about her books

  I don't necessarily think it's a bad book but I do think it gives some bad feelings if you're unable to have the natural birth..
  
  There's a great podcast called The Longest Shortest Time. She did an episode about this and how Ina May made her feel awful. You should check it out.
  

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• Everyusernameistaken member

  November 2014

  JustCricket said:

  
  

  conradraging said:

  
  

  I'm actually kind of mad I wasted my time reading ina may.

  
  

  I've heard some awful stuff about her books
  
  My labour with LO #1 stalled for hours and I needed pitocin to get things going again (after 30+ hours) so I really appreciated reading in Ina May that stalls are the result of "unresolved emotional issues." SUPER HELPFUL, INA MAY.
  That was sarcasm, btw.

  
  

   

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• str13 member

  November 2014 edited November 2014

  I was still seeing a therapist for lingering depression after having DD1 and I was told not to read books! Lol that's actually good advice I got!!
  I never officially read the womanly art of breastfeeding because I never finished it with DD1!! made me feel soooo bad about myself.
  
  Also all the advice about my breasts and making them lactate effectively. I've had 2 kiddos now, both lost significant weight since I'm not making anything for them. Nothing! So kiss my ass!! You may have "loved" breastfeeding, but my kids love getting actual food in their bellies.
  
  I love hearing other moms birth stories, but I hate when people act like you're satan because you got an epidural, pitocin, induced, whatever. It's such a beautiful, personal moment; no one does theirs better than you did it. My birth, my story!!

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• hadeelb member

  November 2014

  My problem is I read too many books before LO and he does not conform to any of the theories. So now I stress I'm not doing the right things to help him sleep, eat, play ect., and I'll have to break all his "bad" habits some day!

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• conradraging member

  November 2014

  withagrainofsalt said:

  "You'll hate cloth diapering." Actually it's been 2 weeks and we love it. LO hasn't had a diaper rash since the switch and the "extra" laundry hasn't phased us at all!

  I got this and have been CDing for 5-6 weeks now. I love it mostly, though some stink issues had me frustrated for a bit.

  
  

  
  

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