PPD tips?

tugglek23 · November 2014

Hi all,

I had my baby girl on October 9 and since then I feel like I've been out of control. It started off as being very withdrawn and sad. All I wanted to do was hold her and sit in a corner. I couldn't care less if everything and everyone else went away. Now it's turned into more anger and annoyance. Only directed at DH and his family. I don't want him touching me and he makes me so angry. And I hate his family being around her.

I know I'm super stressed with having a newborn (our first) plus my husband was in a motorcycle accident a week and a half before Dylan was born so I've been dealing with taking care of him and the farm and the baby all by myself for the last month plus trying to recover from the birth. I'm really resenting him at this point and I feel horrible about it because I know he didn't choose to get hurt. I just want to send him to his parents house so they can deal with him.

Does anyone have any guidance on how to handle this? I know I should probably let my doctor know prior to my follow up appointment since that isn't until the 20th but was hoping for some guidance from moms who have maybe been here before.

Thanks

meeshybee · November 2014

No experience here, but I would call the doc and see what they think.

silverwings72 · November 2014

Big hugs to you >:D< Sounds like you have been working double time with a baby and DH recovering. Maybe you just need a break or some help with DH. You can't keep doing everything for everyone else and not taking care of yourself, you'll burn out pretty quick. I definitely think you should talk with the doc about how you're feeling sooner rather than later.

I also don't think asking DH's family to help out with his care is crazy. It may be just what you need. That doesn't mean that you don't love him, it just means that you have a little too much on your plate right now.

Use us whenever you need support. We are here for you.

Lilwatz · November 2014

So sorry. I agree that you should call your doctor. They want to help you. Let them. I think it's great that you were able to write this post and get your feelings out. You have had a lot on your plate and it's totally normal to feel the way you do. We love you.

tugglek23 · November 2014

Thanks guys. I'll definitely give them a call tomorrow. I thought it would get better after DH had his surgery, but it almost seems to be getting worse.

Maelara · November 2014

I'm so sorry Hun

call your doctor right away. Do you have any community resources available as well? Like a place to go for new moms that offers free help with things like PPD? It's worth looking into. I found a place like that here and it helped so much when I dealt with this last time. Also, getting out of the house helped tremendously. I know that it's so hard to do when you feel the way you do but try! It's also important to get back to 'you' ASAP. When she's napping, have a shower, do your makeup and get dressed. You can nap in that stuff too

I'm so sorry about what happened with your husband. I'd be resentful towards him as well, personally. If it gets bad, maybe having his family help take care of him would be the best options. It's not fair to put everything all on you, especially with a newborn. Newborns are hard enough as it is.

BabySchroeder2014 · November 2014

Definitely call your doctor and see if they can make a recommendation for a good therapist! doctors are trained to recognize the symptoms of PPD but the majority of them are not equipped to treat!

Jan1214 · November 2014

You've gotten really good advice. I just want to send positive thoughts and reiterate the advice to call your doctor as soon as possible. It sounds as if you have a lot to deal with right now.

jess123456 · November 2014

You have gotten great advice. I also want to send hugs. While I don't have any personal experience with this I do have friends that do. I also recommend contacting your doctor right away and letting her/him know. I'm sure their office can be a great resource to you. Thinking of you.

huntress17 · November 2014

I would call your doctor Hun. Big hugs, I'm dealing with bad PPD right now, at my two week check up my dr sat down and talked to me because my family had noticed I was having a rough time and not acting like myself. I didn't feel myself I mostly sat in my room by myself with dd. I've started some medicine to help and it seems to be helping thankfully.

The best thing to do is get some help. I'm here to talk to you if you would like

jlove253 · November 2014

I'm glad you reached out to the board! I hope your call to your dr goes well! Monday try to do something nice for yourself- go get your favorite snack/drink, shower as long as LO lets you... I know you have a lot on your plate, but try to do one thing for you that might make you feel better.

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