39 weeks with no signs of baby coming any time soon, WTF!

bsquare4115 · November 2014

Hi, I wouldn't say that I'm new to the board bc I've been following it throughout my entire pregnancy (just not posting anything). I'm 39 weeks pregnant with my first baby and I'm starting to get a little frustrated. Thankfully baby is head down and has dropped but the most of "anything" that I feel are a couple pelvic cramps here and there with a lot of constant back pain bc she's so low. I rarely have braxton hicks and if I do, it's usually because I've caused them by walking and continuing to be active, and when they happen, they're not that strong. This may be TMI but at my last Dr. visit cervix was "softened" but I still wasn't dilated at all. I guess I'm wondering if anybody else has experienced this and if so, how long did it take your body to "wake up" and realize that it needs to go into labor. I would like to have a natural labor but at this rate, I'm probably gonna have to be induced.

AnnieRoo13 · November 2014

Be patient, the baby can't stay in there forever. Your due date it just an estimate so don't get worked up if you're "overdue". Also I wouldn't worry about having to be induced just yet as most doctors will allow a woman to get to 42 weeks before inducing and you have 3 more weeks before then.

Some women never dilate before going into labour and some women sit at 4 cm for weeks without any action. Again, just be patient. Easier said than done but that's all I've got.

jac409 · November 2014

Be patient. You still have probably three weeks until you would have to be induced, so don't get ahead of yourself. You can go from zero dilation to labor very quickly, so it really means nothing. Same with lack of Braxton Hicks. If baby is head down and has dropped, your body is doing what it is supposed to do. I am also 39 weeks and have a lot of a Braxton Hicks, etc., but I haven't gone into labor yet either. But, I am not even to my due date yet, so why would I expect to? Just relax. It will happen when baby is ready.

abbyful · November 2014

Be patient. According to Harvard University and Bradley Method Childbirth, actual human gestation is actually 41w1d.

DS was born at 40w6d. No "signs" until I was actually in labor. I never even had BH with him.

shindylahoe · November 2014

All of my babies (3 and 1 to still come) have been born late. 41 weeks late. It is so so so so hard not to get discouraged when you see everyone around you having their babies before 40 weeks.

No advice in the world can take this frustration away. Just wanted to say "I feel you" and soon it will all just be a memory!

SweetMelissa5 · November 2014

I'm going to echo what everyone else said and add that I'm almost 39 weeks with my fourth, and I've had no signs of labor starting. It will happen eventually, and there's no need to start worrying about induction for at least a couple of weeks (barring any medical conditions or issues, of course).

misterdonut · November 2014

I'm on the same exact boat! approaching 40 weeks tomorrow

bsquare4115 · November 2014

Thanks for the encouragement everybody! I know I have another week until my due date and even then, will probably have to wait a little longer. I guess I'm just anxious about meeting my little girl and all the wonderful chaos that is going to come after that.

rox825 · November 2014

I get your frustration, I'm 39w4d and at my last appointment hadn't made any progress either- no braxton hicks ever, no contractions, no dilation, nothing. It's frustrating, I'm not necessarily in a hurry for LO to get here but it would be nice to know that things were moving in that direction! And my practice does induce shortly after 41 weeks so I have less than 2 weeks for baby to make his or her arrival before induction. I've just been trying old wives tales and reminding myself that if the baby doesn't show up til 41 weeks, that's an extra week that I get to sleep in :-) Anyway, just saying that I get it!

kikimeemee · November 2014

Doctor told me that 75% of babies are born between 39-41 weeks. Sounds like your situation is pretty normal. Patience...

stacyslo · November 2014

My first came 12 days early and I literally had no signs of labor until I went into labor. This time, I am 8 days away from my due date, have had ongoing nighttime contractions for the last week, but am still barely dilated to 1 andand not effaced. I have also started losing my mucus plug over the last few days (lost it all at once with ds). Talk about frustrating. Hang in there, we are almost to the end.

misterdonut · November 2014

Glad to hear other ladies' support. I have been aiming for a natural birth but he discomfort is starting to overwhelm and frustrate me. I'm with you, OP!

uksteph11 · November 2014

Lurking from October board. At my 40 week appointment I had not dilated and my cervix was "as hard as a rock" according to my OB. My water broke that same night at 2 am. I know it is hard, but try to be patient. Your baby will come when it is ready. Good luck!

mrsodonnell12 · November 2014

I'm 40+1 with no signs of baby and this is my third child.

With my last baby I had no signs of labor at my 40w6d appt... She was born a few hours later.

Baby will come when ready. Like others have said you probably have a couple weeks to go and that's ok. Signs mean nothing until you are in active labor.

mb314 · November 2014

Be patient. With DS1, I rarely had Braxton hicks and had no signs of labor. I had a cervical check at 39 weeks, 4 days, and was barely effaced and only 1 cm. within 24 hours, DS1 was in my arms. Everyone is different. And it is normal for a FTM to be one to two weeks late.

Sarahbeth612 · November 2014

If letting things progress naturally is your goal, keep that in mind! As PPs have said, especially with your first, you may not have any signs at all until it is the real deal. Speaking from experience, being induced intensifies labor, so don't rush baby out until she's ready. It will happen when it is supposed to! Good luck

kfirstiun · November 2014

It is nice to hear that other people had no signs of being ready prior to labor starting. I haven't had any Braxton hicks, baby is still pretty high and my doctors don't do cervical checks. I am 39 weeks. I am fine with waiting another couple of weeks but was nervous that I'm not really anywhere near showing signs yet... this post is reassuring that not everyone has "symptoms" prior. It is also reassuring because I have been told that I am not uncomfortable enough for the baby to come by numerous family members...a little frustrating.

mrsodonnell12 · November 2014

kfirstiun said:
It is nice to hear that other people had no signs of being ready prior to labor starting. I haven't had any Braxton hicks, baby is still pretty high and my doctors don't do cervical checks. I am 39 weeks. I am fine with waiting another couple of weeks but was nervous that I'm not really anywhere near showing signs yet... this post is reassuring that not everyone has "symptoms" prior. It is also reassuring because I have been told that I am not uncomfortable enough for the baby to come by numerous family members...a little frustrating.

Being uncomfortable does not mean baby won't be here soon. People are ridiculous!

With my last pregnancy I felt the best I did the entire pregnancy my last two weeks of being pregnant. I went into labor on my own at 40w6d and baby girl arrived in 1.5 hours. You never know!!

TheBenzMom · November 2014

I'm from October14 and just wanted to say I'm 40 weeks 6 days and no signs of labor. I have an induction dated for the 10th but really really want baby to come on his own. It is so hard waiting around.

AuthorMomof2 · November 2014

You're a first time Mom AND not even at your due date yet, patience is a virtue! You probably have another two weeks to go. Any pregnancy book covers this, it's basic information but you can try walking and sex for some natural remedies. Really though, baby comes when she is ready and that's that.

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