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She refuses to sleep!!!

Liane28Liane28 member
in April 2014 Moms
I'm sorry if this is supposed to be posted elsewhere, but I am loosing my mind.
First of all, I do not judge parents who do CIO one bit, but it just isn't for us. I don't mind letting her fuss, but I can't stomach letting her cry. Early on, L slept amaaazingly, but now I can't even put her doown awake without her freaking out and after trying everything I eventually end up nursing her to sleep, which I KNOW is not helping...but it's the only thing that works.

Naps are also impossible unless she is on or next to me...

I feel like such a failure for letting this go on and terrified that shell be glued to my breast until she's an adult...(i'm joking).

Any advice?!?!
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Re: She refuses to sleep!!!

  • UnofficiallyLOUnofficiallyLO member
    DS also prefers to nurse to sleep but he recently started accepting bottles to sleep as well which is fine by me so SO can help get him down. I also suggest unlatching before completely asleep then hold the chin up to try and stop the auto suck motion and go from there, I started this a few weeks ago (after reading No Cry Sleep Solution).
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  • CosmoAnne1CosmoAnne1 member
    Blake will only go to sleep nursing. He is up ever 45 min at night but will only fall back to sleep if I nurse. He's only doing it for comfort because he Gets mad when my milk comes in. I try to comfort him in his crib but he gets on his knees and rocks back and forth he hit his head on the crib then Crys cause he not really awake. :( I just need sleep :(
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  • CecilbearCecilbear member
    Here's what I'm learning: all the supposed "bad" stuff we're doing (nursing to sleep, for one) isn't bad if it's working for you and your little one. Look up Dr. Sears; I believe he supports nursing to sleep.

    I just wanted to throw that out there. You and I have very similar babies, from how it sounds. Once I acknowledged that I wasn't doing everything wrong, I felt a whole lot better about sleeping time for LO. I nurse her to sleep from time to time and do not feel bad about it at all! Do what works!
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  • Liane28Liane28 member
    @Cecilbear‌ thanks for that, It's nice to know I'm not the only one nursing my baby to sleep. The funny thing is, I never really actually felt bad about it until other moms started voicing their concerns and making me feel like I have no idea what I'm doing by nursing her to sleep...

    From the very beginning,I've just tried to always think about how my baby must feel and to act in a way to make her feel as comfortable as possible, but sometimes it's really hard to do, especially when sleep deprived.

    She's been really really tough to get to sleep these days (she'll fall asleep while nursing, but wake up about an hour later and then 2-4 times throughout the night when the only way to calm her down is to nurse. She does go back into crib awake throughout the night though and will usually chat herself to sleep) or other times she'll scream and cry when i put her inti her crib and won't stop unless I pick her up and I nurse her.

    The frustrating thing is that a few weeks back we visited my parents and stayed over night and she slept ALL NIGHT without waking until 6am and then did this the entire week at home! She would go down at 7p and wake around 5:30-6am and I thought her waking up days were long gone...
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  • nycgirlkatnycgirlkat member
    I'm glad this discussion has started as I've been feeling torn between CIO, keep doing what I'm doing or figure out something else. I feel this immense pressure to get the "down drowsy but awake" thing done.

    I bottle feed my DD to sleep and for a while she was sleeping straight through the night (but is an early riser, 5 am). She got her first cold in September and it was all down hill from there. She would feed to sleep, sleep for 4/5 hours and then be up every hour after that every night for about 3 weeks. I tried a modified version of CIO where I stayed in her room to comfort her while she screamed her head off because I thought it was time and I was exhausted. But it turned out she had been getting sick (again) and I felt awful so I stopped. Now we have good nights where she sleeps through and bad nights when she is up. I'm starting to slowly try to get her down drowsy by slightly switching up the bed time routine. Pjs and wearable blanket, book, bottle with the lights on and in the crib with her little puppy lovey as I see her eyes getting heavy. Some nights it's awesome, some nights it falls to crap. Some nights she needs a pacifier, some nights she doesn't. It's my hope with practice we will get more awesome than crap nights.

    My very long story short. You are not alone and I agree with pp, do what works for you. No one but you lives with you and no one has a right to judge!
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