Back again, miscarriage mentioned.

SarahP1986 · November 2014

Hi all. I've posted on here a few times but wasn't very active on the page so I decided not to post when we found out we were pregnant on October 21st. But October 28th I started bleeding and after an ultrasound and blood work on the 28th and 30th we found out we had lost the baby at 6 weeks. We have been trying for a year and a half and have had 3 rounds of clomid but ended up conceiving on a cycle without medication. I'm not sure if this is the best place to post or not but since we hadn't told anyone but our parents I was just looking for someone who might understand or have some advice to offer. How do you cope after something like this? I go back to the doctor Wednesday for another ultrasound and labs and am sure they will answer some questions for me but how long should we wait until we try again? Just feeling a little lost right now, thanks for letting me ramble.

BethKate2 · November 2014

I'm so sorry for your loss.

As far as how long to wait, your doctor will likely tell you something around 1-3 cycles, but whatever it is, definitely follow your doctor's recommendations. He/she knows your situation best.

The Trying to Conceive After a Loss board is also awesome, so you might want to check out that board too.

Hollowvic · November 2014

I'm sorry for your loss. Like @Buttmonkey34‌ said getting back on here is very helpful.

blsav23 · November 2014

***Miscarriage mentioned I am so sorry to hear of your loss. I had a miscarriage in 2007 & it was devastating. My best advice is to lean on your partner & work hard at not taking your sadness/frustrations out on each other. It is an incredibly delicate and painful situation that only the two of you fully understand so you must rely on each other in the most difficult times. As PP stated, please be gentle & forgiving with yourself.

All my best in this terribly difficult time.

redandblue · November 2014

I am sorry for your loss. I don't have much to offer more than what PP said, but want to second what they have shared. Be patient with yourself and your partner. Take care.

Rachaeleigh · November 2014

Sorry for your loss. Time has been most helpful with my healing. Allow yourself time to experience whatever emotions emerge. Opening up to a few friends for IRL support has been helpful as well

mshandlebar · November 2014

I am so sorry for your loss. I don't really have any advice to give, but I think that it is good that you are here. This board is where I get most of my support from, and it has helped me be stronger. Take care of yourself and big hugs.

Ann612 · November 2014

I don't have a lot of advice, but wanted you to know that I am so sorry for your loss. I hope you are able to find some help and support on these boards.

williegsocks · November 2014

First, I want to say that I am extremely sorry and that nothing I will say will be able to completely console you, but I am going to try and offer some support.

I know exactly where you are coming from and the pain you are feeling. It has been exactly 2 weeks and 2 days since my D&C. We have been trying for nearly 2 years now and we also became pregnant on a non-medicated cycle. When I found out it was a nonviable pregnancy, I felt like everything was closing in on me and like I was completely alone. I honestly did not think that I would recover and I know you must be feeling that way too. One thing I can say is that you WILL heal from this. It may take time and everyone heals in their own way, but you will make it through this. It still stings when I allow myself to think about what could have been and I still find myself feeling emotional about it, but each day it gets a little easier and now I am feeling ready to ttc again. Your RE may tell you differently, but when I asked mine he told me that we could start ttc again right away. I only had to wait 5 days after the procedure to allow my cervix to heal, but then he gave us the green light to start trying again. I will say that after a miscarriage your ovulation date can be unpredictable so that is why some people suggest waiting until you have your first period to start trying again to make it easier to date the pregnancy and pinpoint ovulation.

Good luck and please PM me if you ever need advice, support, or just someone to type out your anger and pain to. I am here and I know what you're feeling. (HUGS)

ShellyR · November 2014

I don't have advice but wanted to say that I'm sorry for your loss. Please take gentle care of yourself.

juneroses · November 2014

I have no advice, but wanted to say I am so very sorry for your loss.

meredithcarole · November 2014

I am very sorry for your loss. Having a miscarriage can be really devastating. I agree with PP that both TTCAL and the misscarriage/loss board are good places to go to validate your feelings and your experience.

nikiswimr · November 2014

I'm sorry for your loss. I just went through something similar after two years of trying and two medicated cycles and miscarried on 10/11/14. For about two weeks I felt completely loss and couldn't even think of trying. It has slowly been getting better but I will always long for that baby. I am starting to feel ready to move forward. When I was going through it, I found the miscarriage board to be incredibly supportive and helpful. I am still very involved on TTCAL and the ladies there are wonderful and supportive as well. My RE cleared me to try after one cycle and I'm currently waiting out my first post-loss AF on the bench. I'm sorry you're dealing with this.

elucas2011 · November 2014

So sorry to hear about your loss. HUGS to you.

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