I am never posting anything on this damn site again. I am seriously hurt by all the shitty answers and responses I got from my baby shower question. Excuse me for being a first time mom, for not understanding how everything is supposed to work. Or that there are specific ways to ask specific questions. Thanks for making me feel like crap
I didn't post on your other thread, but you asked about your shower and got answers. Very good answers, minus a few goofy ones, I might add. Maybe they weren't what you wanted to hear, but it's good advice from people who know a lot about etiquette. *Shrugs*
Well, I can at least say I tried. As a mother of a child with autism who has heard way too many times that my daughter doesn't "look" the R word I find it incredibly offensive. I wish op would have just taken my advice and laughed it off instead she dug herself in farther
Hey op don't feel that way. Many of us have been flamed for posting a question that wasn't well received when we first came to the group. If you lurk a little you will get a feel for the community and you'll see how baby shower questions usually go. I hate to see someone leave without giving the group a chance. There are wonderful women here and they are so supportive you just have to give it time. I really don't think you got it that bad tbh, but I understand if you got your feelings hurt. It's considered tacky and against etiquette to plan or throw your own shower and when having one the host or hostess is expected to feed the guests that's all. No biggie, you can easily bounce back from that.
I'm rainbows and unicorns anymore lol I seriously cannot help it I'm that happy about still being pregnant I just want to spread the love!! M15 I've gone soft on ya;)
Oh sorry, I don't know why I thought that. I wasn't offended or anything just explaining why all of my posts have been unicorns and rainbows lately lol
If you bothered to read the boards and get to know any of us, you would have realized that we have already established that we are a group of haggard trolls. But just for you-here's some unicorn farts.
Eh...dunno about you guys but this site would be damn boring without the snark! I hereby declare that I am never posting again if you guys ever go soft... But jokes aside I like the honesty and calling out that goes on here...guess some people don't...there are other places online
So... is there anyone in here feeling sorry for the OP? Because she just dropped the R word in her other thread. So, yeah.
I do. I feel sorry for any person who is so ignorant that they believe that kind of language is acceptable. I feel sorry for them because I can't imagine how small and sad a life you must lead when you're that ignorant and intolerant.
I feel sorry for OP's child, too (GASP!) because that child will be raised with its mother's perspective and will potentially continue to spread ignorance and intolerance. And that's a mindset no innocent child should have pushed upon them.
I feel sorry that OP would refer to themselves as "retarded" as if it's some terrible thing. A punishment. Something that makes a person somehow "bad" or "less than". Not only is it a shame that OP would have such a low self esteem, it's deeply saddening that OP would use such a term to describe themselves in a negative light.
I happen to work with special needs children for a living. I cannot even express the depth of the lessons they have taught me. Lessons in patience and humor and the true meaning of what unconditional love looks like. I cannot express how much richer my life is because of these children who teach me and touch my heart every single day.
Huh. Ok, OP. Ok. You're totally legit. I mean, if you are....eek....
Anyhow, back to my Halloween candy. I over estimated on purpose but damn, we hardly got any ToTers and now what to do with all of this candy...::unwraps another Baby Ruth::
I completely missed your post, OP. But I have a hard time believing anyone was cruel to you. Maybe just honest. If you no longer wish to participate in this community, then certainly that's your choice. An unfortunate one, since these women are all honest, bright and witty. They act as an incredible support system for each other, especially for first-time Moms here.
Your original post was actually rude. Why would you throw your own shower and then expect people to bring you gifts and pay for themselves to eat? You get what you give!
Re: why is everyone being so cruel?!
*goes back to eating caramel corn*
I feel sorry for OP's child, too (GASP!) because that child will be raised with its mother's perspective and will potentially continue to spread ignorance and intolerance. And that's a mindset no innocent child should have pushed upon them.
I feel sorry that OP would refer to themselves as "retarded" as if it's some terrible thing. A punishment. Something that makes a person somehow "bad" or "less than". Not only is it a shame that OP would have such a low self esteem, it's deeply saddening that OP would use such a term to describe themselves in a negative light.
I happen to work with special needs children for a living. I cannot even express the depth of the lessons they have taught me. Lessons in patience and humor and the true meaning of what unconditional love looks like. I cannot express how much richer my life is because of these children who teach me and touch my heart every single day.
So yeah. I feel really fucking sorry for this OP.
Anyhow, back to my Halloween candy. I over estimated on purpose but damn, we hardly got any ToTers and now what to do with all of this candy...::unwraps another Baby Ruth::