Possible miscarriage- PGAL sent me here.

taylorb03 · October 2014

Hey guys. I recently got a positive preganancy test and was so happy. We've been trying to conceive and I had all of the symptoms. Missed period (lmp- 9/22/14), breasts tender and painful, and nausea. I called an obstrician who ordered quanitative blood work, which came back inconclusive.

An appointment was made for another blood test, but in the mean time I've had negative urine tests. Within the last two days I've had cramping and bleeding with clots. I called the doctor who stated that my inconclusive test was at positive level of 11, but believes I'm miscarrying and is waiting for the second blood work results.

How does one deal with this? It would have been my first preganancy and I can't stop crying. My other have is very supportive and let's me cry on him while he cries. He wants to try again right away, but I can't stand to deal with this again. I feel rediculous sometimes because we never got an ultrasound (too early), but I don't know. Any advice? Thanks in advance.

Yours truly.

smagglebit · October 2014

I'm sorry for your loss. Give yourself time to process it and grieve. ((HUGS))

welly01 · October 2014

I'm sorry you're going through this. Take whatever time you need to grieve for your loss before trying again.

incir · October 2014

So sorry for your loss. Its still so fresh -- give yourself some time. Talk to your doctor about next steps and what is right for you. As this board can attest early pregnancy loss is very common.

meredithcarole · October 2014

I am sorry for your loss. Even if it was a chemical pregnancy and ended very early on it is still an emotionally painful experience. There were lots of hopes and dreams that began to grow while you were pregnant. Let yourself grieve and heal. When the desire to try again outweighs the fear that you will miscarry then it is time to start ttc again.

tigerlynx31413 · October 2014

I'm so sorry for your loss! Take time for yourself to grieve and @meredithcarole took the words out of my mouth. Sending you hugs!

Km380 · October 2014

I'm sorry for your loss. As others have said first be sure to talk to your dr about when you can try again. Cry as much as you need. A loss is a loss. Take the time you need, if you are not ready emotionally once you are cleared, then wait. Be sure to be open and honest with each other (((hugs)))

uromys · October 2014

I'm sorry for your loss. I hope you find peace here. ((hugs))

rmpar29 · October 2014

I'm so sorry for your loss. Welcome to the board. ((((HUGS))))

Nikolie93 · October 2014

I am sorry for your loss. I felt the same way you did after my first loss and although you never really forget, it does get easier. Most get to the point they begin trying again. Just keep the lines of communication open with your husband, that's so very important.

And don't forget that being emotionally ready is just as important as being physically ready. *hug*

LizBlue · October 2014

I'm so sorry for your loss. You are absolutely welcome here but you may want to also check out the miscarriage and loss board. It was hugely helpful to me in my early stages of grief (constantly crying and snot nosed). We are here for you and in some ways this will get better. Big hugs.

flyoffeve · October 2014

I am so sorry for your loss. (Hugs) Take it one day at a time. It will get better and may always come back in waves.

dawnstar898 · November 2014

(((hugs))) so sorry for your loss

rslh10 · November 2014

I am so sorry for your loss. Welcome to the board.

stephy1221 · November 2014

I am sorry for your loss

eliida · November 2014

I am sorry for your loss. There's such a stigma in regards to discussing MC that I think many of us were caught off guard by the depth of our pain from our losses. Take your time and let yourself grieve. I hope you find comfort here with this board.

FutureMrsWright2012 · November 2014

Nothing to add to all of the wise PP's, but I am so sorry for your loss.

kittymeowbark · November 2014

I am so sorry. A loss is a loss, no matter how early or late. Take the time you need to heal physically and emotionally. HUGS!

StephieMK · November 2014

I'm sorry for your loss.

foodie12rn · November 2014

I'm so sorry for your loss. Please be kind to yourself. It really doesn't matter how early your loss is--it's still a terribly painful experience. Allow yourself all the time you need to grieve. ((Hugs))

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