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BethKate2 · October 2014

The January Snowflakes check-in is for anyone who has had an EDD or a loss in January of any year. Feel free to join by introducing yourself and telling us your EDD or loss date. This thread will be posted on Monday evenings.

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LSS ☆☆ 1/15/14 & EDD 1/5/15 @Elliecat17 ☆☆ I'm sorry you had to deal with that tactless OB. I hope you're feeling better.

EDD ☆☆ 1/27/14 @BethKate2 ☆☆ Hi!

EDD ☆☆ 1/2/15 @rmpar29 ♥twin boys♥ ☆☆ Yay for being off the bench!

EDD ☆☆ 1/5/15 @Amybunny30 ☆☆ Any kitchen pics yet??

EDD ☆☆ 1/8/15 @JellicalParker ☆☆ How are you this week? Have had had the chance to have a heart to heart with your H since the fertility conversation?

EDD ☆☆ 1/10/15 @CFearsy ☆☆ I still hate that you're back here. How are you doing? ((hugs))

EDD ☆☆ 1/12/15 @rslh10 ☆☆ I'm glad your RE appointment went well and that you have a plan to start testing!

EDD ☆☆ 1/21/15 @GreenEyes842 ☆☆ I hope you're having a better week this week!

EDD ☆☆ 1/23/15 @mrandmrsk91011 ☆☆ How are you feeling?

EDD ☆☆ 1/24/15 @jj32 ☆☆ Glad your period has left the building! FX for you this cycle!

EDD ☆☆ 1/26/15 @MrsPhD83 ☆☆ You're TTA this cycle, right? Did you talk to your H about whether or not it's just one cycle?

EDD ☆☆ 1/30/15 @HoldingOutHope ☆☆ How did your biopsy go and how was your H's SA?

rslh10 · October 2014

@cfearsy you're not being a downer! you're allowed to be upset. I hope your appt goes great on Friday! ((HUGS)), lots of em!

BethKate2 · October 2014

@CFearsy, I'm so sorry.

I really hope you're able to get your point across to the doctor and also set up a plan. If your concern is you LP, you should ask for 7dpo blood work (not CD 21, unless you O on CD 14). Also, do you plan on starting with a RE once it's been a year in January? If so, you may want to skip the testing with the OB and just try to set up a January appointment with a RE.

BethKate2 · October 2014

AFM, I've been a pretty miserable person the last few days.

**pregnancy mentioned**

One of my coworkers announced her pregnancy on Friday. She just found out a few days earlier, so she's about 5 weeks at this point. First of all, she's telling everyone already. Practically the whole school knows, so everywhere I go, someone is making a comment like, "Can you believe ____ is pregnant?!" Not only that, but it's all she talked about all day. She even made a comment about being a "stuffed turkey" when we dress up for a celebration the day before Thanksgiving. Um, you'll be like 8-9 weeks along. STFU.

BethKate2 · October 2014

@Greeneyes842, I'm glad you're having a better week. Best of luck to you this cycle!

I wanted to punch my coworker today too. The worst part is that I just told her last week about my IF issues and how I was having the IUI on Monday. Why she thinks I'm the appropriate person to talk about her (surprise and sort of unwanted) pregnancy with, I don't know.

Elliecat17 · October 2014

Hi ladies! (hugs) to all of you! I am struggling with trying to stay happy in the face of this month. I am trying not to sink into *I should be holding a baby now* mood. However I have decided to take control of my Hashi's but in order to do that I need to do more research, because my OB is such a turd he gave me a diagnosis and no info. I am also trying to figure out what all I need to do to stand up for myself. Such as do I need blood work at other times in my cycle? Should I head to the RE now? Also why has no doctor ever given me an ultrasound?!?! lol so that's where I am at.

@CFearsy Huge hugs to you love!!!!

BethKate2 · October 2014

@Elliecat17, have you been TTC for a year or close to it? If so, I'd call the RE to set up consult.

The RE will probably start with CD 3 blood work and an u/s, an HSG, and then an SA for your H. Then you'll be able to start making a treatment plan from there

MrsPhD83 · October 2014

@BethKate2, Hi! Thanks for the check-in! How are you? Have you boarded the CT yet? I have everything crossed for you!

@CFearsy, I'm so sorry

it sounds like BK2 had some good advice. I don't have any advice to give, but wanted to send you big ((hugs)).

Can I join CFearsy in a Debbie Downer post? Sorry in advance, ladies! It's gonna be long and BLERG city. Soooooo after all that we've been through the past few months, here we are TTA for this cycle. I arrived to this decision because if I got PG this cycle I would *definitely* miss my sister's wedding next year. We decided to just TTA this 1 cycle (and by "we" I mean, MH still grumbles about it). If I get PG next cycle or later, I'd be more likely to be at her wedding (cause I'd be 37 weeks or less), but I guess I still can't guarantee anything. So despite the fact that TTA is my choice, I am still just pissed by the whole thing. I'm pissed that we had our loss in June, I'm pissed that I had the CP 2 cycles ago, I'm pissed that I'm not pregnant yet, I'm pissed that my sister is getting married and now I have to try to plan shit around her, and I'm scared I won't actually even be PG at all at her wedding.

Also, I saw a few friends this past weekend, and 1 is married and is planning to TTC next year. So she is super excited about it and she asked me if MH and I were still TTC (she knew we were earlier this year). And so I told her about our loss. She said she was sorry and she was actually really great about it and let me vent. But then the rest of the weekend she proceeded to casually mentioned TTC. E.g., "maybe I'll be PG next year!", "What kind of fun drinks should I have when I get PG?!", "I can't wait to see what I look like when I'm PG!" And I have nothing to add to that because my personal experience with TTC is not exciting anymore. So instead, I offered up responses that did have something to do with my experience, but they were soooooo debbie downer. I said no fewer than 10 times, "Well, when I was PG before, ......." So really it just was a constant reminder that I'm not PG and ultimately put me in a horrible mood by the end of the weekend.

Thanks for reading all of that. I'm rebounding a bit today, but I'm with CFearsy - all the feels and all the fears

BethKate2 · October 2014

@CFearsy, I'd recommend skipping the testing with the OB because working with people who are having trouble TTC isn't their specialty. They're trained to help you stay pregnant and to deliver babies, but they're not trained in fertility treatments. Too many OBs seem to prescribe meds (Clomid) without the proper testing (like an HSG) beforehand and monitoring during treatment. If you're looking to get started with testing/treatment, I'd go straight to a RE in January.

A RE will likely do CD 3 blood work when you start testing, but if you're concerned about your LP specifically, you'll want to know your progesterone levels during your LP (at 7dpo).

BethKate2 · October 2014

@MrsPhD83, ((hugs))

I'm feeling down about this cycle. I've pretty much convinced myself that this IUI won't work, so I'm not feeling too crazy. I keep trying to remind myself that it could work, but I'm doubtful.

Elliecat17 · October 2014

@BethKate2 it will be a year in January. You are a doll with all your information and help! The only thing I need to check is whether or not I have to be referred for insurance to cover or if I can just head that way.

I have my Fx for you.

rmpar29 · October 2014

@BethKate2 - Thanks for the check-in honey! Wow, your temps are looking good! So sorry that you have to deal with that co-worker. Many (((((HUGS)))))

@CFearsy - All the (((((((((HUGS))))))))))) coming your way love! I hope that your doc can answer some questions and deals with that incompetent doc.
@GreenEyes842 - FX honey!
@Elliecat17 - I don't know your entire history, but now might be a good time for a second opinion. Whether it's an OB or RE, I'm not sure what is best.
@MrsPhD83 - So many (((HUGS))) coming your way. Your friend definitely sounds clueless as to how to handle someone with a loss. I'm so sorry that you had to endure that. I hope that you don't see her too often.

AFM: Just trudging along. I have a couple more weeks before I will O (if my cycles don't completely change) so nothing exciting happening here. Just getting back into temping.

rslh10 · October 2014

BethKate2 said:
@CFearsy, I'd recommend skipping the testing with the OB because working with people who are having trouble TTC isn't their specialty. They're trained to help you stay pregnant and to deliver babies, but they're not trained in fertility treatments. Too many OBs seem to prescribe meds (Clomid) without the proper testing (like an HSG) beforehand and monitoring during treatment. If you're looking to get started with testing/treatment, I'd go straight to a RE in January.
A RE will likely do CD 3 blood work when you start testing, but if you're concerned about your LP specifically, you'll want to know your progesterone levels during your LP (at 7dpo).

I 100% agree with BK. I wish I would have listened immediately and went to an RE instead of wasting 4 more cycles with my OB who pumped me full of clomid and tried to handle my IF DX. I went to the RE and I felt so much better. My RE did an Antral follice count on me and my OB had never done it. It's so different. They know what they're looking for and it didn't feel like a waste of time.

rslh10 · October 2014

*pg mentioned*

@MrsPhD83‌ ((hugs)) it's so confusing when someone is ttc around you. You've had this shitty experience that you wouldn't wish on your worst enemy, and you want to be happy for the person but it seems impossible. I recently went to a kids birthday party and the mom told me she was Pregnant.....7 weeks maybe. And all I could think is, ugh...so early! Keep it to yourself because untelling is so hard. But she was so happy and excited that it just hurt my heart to even think about her having a loss.

She wanted to talk to me about it and I was cornered so I had to talk about it. But when she asked if we were going to ttc, I told her my story and she looked like she was going to cry. She said she was sorry and didn't know about my story etc ect, but I told her it was fine, how was she to know?

Ttcal makes me look at everything with "Debbie Downer" glasses on.

Also? This. From SNL.

rmpar29 · October 2014

@GreenEyes842 - Hmmm...how about now?

rmpar29 · October 2014

@GreenEyes842 - I just sent you a friend request to make stalking easier for both of us.

MrsPhD83 · October 2014

@BethKate2, big ((hugs)) to you too. I'm sorry your coworker is being so insensitive and that she said those things even though she knows about the IF. And I'm sorry you're feeling so down about this cycle! I know it's hard though to get your hopes up when everything feels so challenging. I'm going to continue to be optimistic for you.

@Greeneyes842, your chart looks good!! Glad you are feeling better this week. FX for you this cycle

@rslh10, lol @ the SNL debbie downer. And I'm sorry that woman at the birthday party cornered you! Ugh. The worst! It's so hard to talk about stuff like that, especially in public when you aren't prepared. Now that she knows your story, I hope that she isn't so in your face about her being PG.

@CFearsy, more hugs coming your way! you are so right. TTC is just terrifying now. And draining. And I'm SOOOO with you about the weight gain. I've gained about 6 lbs since June, and this weekend when my friends were talking about their new fitness routines, I said "well, I couldn't work out much this summer because of my surgery...." blah blah blah DEBBIE DOWNER!!!! Ugh! I recently bought a fitbit and I find that it's really helped me to increase my activity. Sometimes I feel too blah to go for a run, but I can challenge myself to 10,000 steps a day! I highly recommend it!

@Elliecat17, sounds like you need a new doc or an RE! You deserve a doc who is dedicated to your health and treatment and not just someone who is throwing diagnoses at you.

@rmpar29, woohoo for being off the bench! It's hard to get back in to temping. I hope everything returns to normal! I'll be chart stalking you

@jj32, thank you for thinking of me

That's kind of weird about your spotting. Have you ever had it before last cycle? Do you have any upcoming doc appointments where you could ask them about it? Have a good time at your halloween party!! What are you dressing up as?

MrsPhD83 · October 2014

jj32 said:

@MrsPhd83 I had spotting around O day before after my 1st loss for a few cycles. This just started happening last cycle where I am getting spotting after I wipe a few times a day. It started yesterday and it was there today too. I have some pain on my right side. I have no doctor's appointments coming up, and not sure if it warrants a call to the doctor. I did the Google thing, and read that it could be from the surge of estrogen.

This year I am going to be a deer and my H is going to wear all his camo gear and bring his crossbow, so he will be my sexy hunter. Here is my inspiration pic. I doubt my makeup will be that awesome though, but I am going to try.

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@jj32, sounds like that could be it. If it gets much heavier in subsequent cycles, I would consider calling just to be safe. And your costume sounds so cool!!! That makeup is beautiful. Have fun!!

BethKate2 · October 2014

@rmpar29, good luck getting back into temping! I'm not reading into how high my temps were since I'm on progesterone. That's why I stopped temping last week. My temps don't really mean anything at this point.

@jj32, GL this cycle! I wouldn't worry about spotting so early in your cycle.

@CFearsy, progesterone seems to be an issue, but you should definitely have it tested around the middle of your LP, not the end since it could already be dropping around 12-14dpo.

@mrandmrsk91011, I'm sorry you're going through this right now. ((hugs))

BethKate2 · October 2014

AFM, I've been testing out my trigger and the test seemed negative yesterday, so I've decided to stop testing for a few days, and I'll probably test again on Friday (13dpt/11dpiui). Betas are scheduled for next Monday, but I'll be testing at home before then. If I'm getting negatives (or if my period shows up), I probably won't go in for betas, and I'll just get a pregnancy test done at my CD 3 appointment to be 100% sure.

JellicalParker · October 2014

@Cfearsy I am sending you all of the hugs in the creepy internet. I'm still so sad you are back. I hope your dr really gets the point that what you went through was really messed up. I wish there was a way for them to make it up to you!

@BethKate2 I am so sorry you are dealing with your coworker. There is a sort of sorrow that I feel every time I deal with people like that... I always want to tell them to be excited, but keep it to themselves because it really sucks to have to untell. I hope she calms down, specifically in regards to you, about it. I really do hope this is your cycle! Keep us updated!!!

@Greeneyes842 FX for you this cycle! Make this O time worth it!

@elliecat17 I'm glad your testing gave you some answers but I wish that your OB had revealed what is next for you. Don't be afraid to call and harass them as to what to do next. In fact, I encourage you to. I say, at least call an RE. What's the worst that could happen? They could tell you to wait and call back closer to Jan.

@jj32 FX for you! Have fun at your Halloween party. Sounds like fun.

@rslh10 Seriously? Sorry you had to tell someone your story like that! Isn't it wild how some people just decide YOU are the person to talk to about their pregnancy. I hope it didn't bring you down too much. Maybe she learned something from you...

@rmpar29 Good luck getting back into temping. I stopped temping at cd2 this cycle and I've been having one hell of a time getting back at it. lol. Hope you are better at making good habits than I am.

@MrsPHD83 I honestly don't know how you can put ttc on the back burner for your sister. You must be an amazing person through and through

Just remember that you can change your mind at any time, and could she really blame you for it if you did happen to get a bfp? I would hope not.

@mrandmrsk91011 I'm sorry you are dealing with YH possibly having depression. I know how much it sucks. MH has moderate depression and is on the list to be tested for PTSD. It sucks. Just remember to tell him you love him and do the little things for him. Sometimes it can be as simple as making him a cup of tea, or making his favorite meal. I know MH tends to at least have better moments if I keep up on things like that. I hope you both can work through it in a productive manner. And don't let his depression rub off on you. They say it isn't contagious, but I have felt it happen. When the person you love isn't happy, it's so very hard to be happy yourself. Don't forget to take care of yourself, while you take care of him. And feel free to message me. I can kind of relate.

AFM: MH has gotten more optimistic. He has started to take more of an interest in my bumping activities and all of the wonderful information you ladies have taught me. He is starting to understand that our timing has most likely been off this entire time, and that he really shouldn't feel so disheartened by our lack of bfp.

My menstruation was disturbingly strange this time around. Kind of concerned, it was no where near normal. I know, your cycle is normal until its not. Still... Getting ready to schedule my annual though, so I can talk to them about it when we get there.

NTTCALR: I started my new job today as a photographer! I had a blast! I really do believe I have found my niche in the world, and I was told I made an awesome impression today by a few different coworkers.

Also, quitting my restaurant job was the most exciting thing I have ever done! I've waited many years to get out and the peace I felt afterwards was so wonderful!

rmpar29 · October 2014

@BethKate2 - Sorry, I had forgotten you were on progesterone, which could explain the high temps. I still have everything crossed for you lady and I hope that you get good news on Friday. ((((HUGS))))

@JellicalParker - I put my thermometer on top of my cell phone, in front of my clock, right next to the bed. So, it's the first thing I see when I look at the clock which reminds me to temp. If I didn't do that, I would never remember! Good luck!

rmpar29 · October 2014

@Amybunny30 - I'm glad that you are cutting your hours back with the company that you are unhappy with. I hope the upcoming weeks will be easier. I'm glad to hear that your DH is getting closer to being ready. I know that fear that comes with TTC again. It's tough! I hope that the weight loss starts going better. Good luck!

MrsPhD83 · October 2014

@BethKate2, FX for Friday!!! I'm usually going nuts by this point in the TWW. I hope you have some distracting activities planned for the next few days

@mrandmrsk91011, ((Hugs)) for you!! Is his depression related to your loss? MH had a hard time after our loss with anxiety/panic. I hope that YH seeks professional help for his depression and that you're both taking care of yourselves.

@JellicalParker, I'm so glad YH is being more optimistic! Knowledge is power, as far as I'm concerned, so I hope he sees how great charting can be. And YAY for your new job! I'm so excited for you!

@Amybunny30, I heart YOU! You are so awesome for being so aware and insightful about your job situation and making changes that make you happy. And I'm so glad to hear that YH is coming around!! Hopefully this means you'll be unbenched soon

Also, I just got a fitbit and it's been awesome! Sometimes I get kinda "bleh" about doing a formal/more intense workout. But I like being able to challenge myself to 10,000 steps and wearing the fitbit is a constant reminder to get off my butt and just be active around the house or while at work. Maybe something similar would be fun for you if you don't have time to get to the gym right now!

Also, just want to say that I LOVE our January family! You guys are the best!!!

rmpar29 · October 2014

@mrandmrsk91011 - I'm so sorry that I missed your update earlier. My DH is bipolar and I finally got him in to a doctor after years of begging him too. I finally told him that I wasn't going to TTC until he got in and that finally motivated him enough to do it. I'm sorry that you are encountering a similar experience with your DH. I hope that you are able to get him to get help soon. It's not easy to convince someone they need help. Huge (((((HUGS)))))

JellicalParker · October 2014

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