So BD had us in and out of court a handful of times because he wanted to get his CS lowered (below the state mandatory 20%). He took days off of work and drove 3 hours one way each time because he really, really couldn't afford $65 a week. He would send me countless text messages about his bills and school loans and how much debt he was in. He would tell me he couldn't afford food and other necessities and I really thought about temporarily lowering his CS to give him a break.
Then one day at court, while we were waiting for the judge I asked him about this second job he was supposed to be working on and he told me the ball wasn't rolling as fast as he hoped because he wanted to take some "me time".

After that I was like, you know what, it's up to you, if you can't afford to live than you do something about it. I'm not gonna take money away from our daughter for you to take me time. The judge pretty much let me decide what I wanted to do so it was ruled that the CS was fair (and he even said "This might be wrong for me to say sitting up here in my seat. But $65 a week really isn't a lot of money.")
Well then a couple weeks later his girlfriend came with him to drop off our daughter and she had this shiny new engagement ring on her finger and I just laughed to myself and wondered how big of a FOOL I would have looked like and felt if I would have let him lower the CS that he couldn't afford. HA
Re: Just gonna leave my vent here
Throwing leaves
Love makes you stuoid sometimes. But again, good for you for standing your ground.
I have a similar child support situation, mines is $63 a week. The judge in my case told BD that he is voluntarily under employed and should he ask for a reduction he may actually get an increase. just got notification that he may be trying for the reduction to $0 because I am married now. Thanks, but what about the $18K + that was accrued before my wedding.
Hang in there and stick to your guns. You don't get the easy way out being a single parent and neither does he. Tell your BD what I tell mine "Times are tough for everyone, take care of your kid."
BEAN *06/29/2012*
BFP: 07/14/2014, EDD: 03/04/2015