My Newfound Antidote to Dr. Google

BookishMomma · October 2014

Well, in Googling "low and slow rising betas" for the zillionth time (I know, I know, I need to step away), I actually came across something I found uplifting that I wanted to share. Have any of you heard of the site Misdiagnosed Miscarriage? It's not a medical or science site--just stories of women who were given dire prognoses for their pregnancies and went on to have healthy babies. After making myself crazy over my beta numbers, I found it comforting to read these stories. I know there's no guarantee for any of us. But, in trying really hard to think positively (which is not in my nature), these glimmers of hope helped me. I've promised myself that every time I want to consult Dr. Google, I'm just going to go to back that site and read another story.

chicagojackie · October 2014

Hi Bookish, I know you're in the waiting zone and I'm glad you found something that you like. I also enjoy passiveaggressivenotes, cakewrecks and postsecret when I need to look at something NOT medical on the internet.

HUGS to you sweetie.

BookishMomma · October 2014

Hi @ChicagoJackie. I love CakeWrecks, but hadn't heard of the others. I'll have to check them out. Thanks!

NoeliaV · October 2014

I had not seen that site @bookishmama. What a resource.

I also like passiveagressivenotes (so many lols) and check surisburnbook daily (she doesn't update every day), and visit getoffmyinternets when I need a distraction.

megbmeg · October 2014

Anything that helps is wonderful!

lyndz333 · October 2014

@chicagojackie‌ - Currently googling cake wrecks . . . . And @BookishMomma‌ - Thank you for sharing this website.

chicagojackie · October 2014

@Bookishmomma do you have more betas? I have been praying for you and little one every day.

BookishMomma · October 2014

@chicagojackie Thank you so much for the prayers! That means a lot to me. I'm not doing another beta until Monday. I decided that, with Halloween tomorrow, I don't want to ruin what is supposed to be a fun day with my family. I know that, even if my number has gone up a lot, I still won't be satisfied. And if it's gone down, well, then it will send me into a funk and I'd rather just have fun with our neighborhood costume parade, bonfire, etc. So I'm holding off until Monday.

I'm not a super religious person, but yesterday morning while I was walking the dog, I prayed for a sign that everything is going to be OK. Then last night, I dreamed about a triple rainbow. YES, a TRIPLE rainbow. As if someone from above or the universe or whatever was trying to hit me over the head with it, saying, "We know a double rainbow won't cut it for you. So here's a triple one." Three is a symbolic number for me since it's the number of my losses. I am taking this as a sign of hope and refuse to hear otherwise unless I have reason to

chicagojackie · October 2014

@bookishmomma that's the spirit. I'm happy for you, sweetie. sounds like you're going one day at a time and finding some peace. keep us posted.

NoeliaV · October 2014

I have never seen a triple rainbow. How cool! FX that it means good things for your draw on Monday.

BookishMomma · October 2014

@noeliaV Well, I've never seen one in real life. It was just in my dream. But it was still pretty cool!

NoeliaV · October 2014

BookishMomma said:

@noeliaV Well, I've never seen one in real life. It was just in my dream. But it was still pretty cool!

Shoot, I'm sorry! lol Reading comprehension is good, right?

I'm going to still count it as a sighting :P

BookishMomma · October 2014

@hmr110913 that crossed my mind too. And not all of the stories on the site are good ones. But some of them gave me hope. And that's all I have right now. I definitely can see how it might trigger bad feelings though too.

Eta- ((Hugs))

chicagojackie · October 2014

hmr110913 said:

I'm glad that the website has helped you and so many others, however for me it makes me sad..... the whole time after my D&C (which I had done the same day we were told of our loss which they said was 2 weeks prior) I kept thinking that I should have gotten a 2nd opinion, and WHAT IF they were mistaken and my poor baby was ripped from my womb while still alive. :(:(:(:(

I'm sure they weren't mistaken, and I probably wasn't one of the lucky ones whose baby was still alive after they said he/she wasn't, but I just can't help but wonder "What if" .... how do you truly know that what they said is correct and not a simple error?

Sorry to be such a debbie downer.

I feel this way too. I try to stick to non-baby related funny sites when I'm limbo-ing.

Luckily I had a natural m/c so the diagnosis was clear. People should always be aware that expectant management is always an option (even if it isn't what the doctor would choose for herself--physicians tend to choose more aggressive, invasive procedures for themselves interestingly) and procedures don't need to be done on the same day if the mother is not ready. That being said if the diagnosis is definitively made, it doesn't matter when mom has it.

((HUGS)) to everyone

kj808 · October 2014

I leaned on that site a lot with my last miscarriage. It was uplifting to read the stories but I also had to consciously remind myself that my situation may not turn out as well. One thing it did teach me was to be sure to make an informed decision about what to do whether it be waiting for a natural miscarriage or take medication to induce. So it was educational for me as well.

Best of luck to you!

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