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issytex12issytex12 member
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Hi all, havent posted in here before have been a little on the march birth club but wasnt aware there were other forums! I am 18 weeks pregnant after losing my baby boy noah at 33 weeks almost 1 year ago due to congenital CMV. It will be noahs 1st birthday on saturday and was wondering if anyone else had any advice on how they got through it, im totally lost dont know how to act at all im either crying or not crying. I think my husband and i have spent the whole year trying to make ourselves busy so we dont feel the hurt of what happened and its all come at once. Its hard to enjoy being pregnant when you're terrified and grieving :(
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    Mom2anAngel2Mom2anAngel2 member
    ((HUGS)). Angelversaries are really hard. Our son's 3rd angelversary is coming up in a few weeks. The first year we did a lot of crying and visited him in the cemetery. We also believe that he is a guardian angel watching down over us all. There really is no easy answer as to how to get through the day. Just follow your heart and do what makes you feel good or helps you remember.

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    littlecookielittlecookie member
    Welcome and congrats on your pregnancy.

    I'm so sorry for the loss of Noah. Someone on the TTC after loss board went and took photos around town that day. It was beautiful. I hope you're able to find something that feels right for you and your family.
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    pblgepblge member
    I'm so very sorry for your loss. Welcome to this board and congratulations on your new pregnancy!
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    peggels24peggels24 member
    I'm so very sorry for your loss.  Congratulations on your pregnancy and welcome to the board - the ladies here are absolutely fantastic.
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    KJsbabeKJsbabe member
    ((Hugs)) I'm so sorry for the loss of your son. Welcome and congrats on your new pregnancy.
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    Mel&John2013Mel&John2013 member
    I'm so sorry for your loss.
    And congratulations on your new pregnancy.

    We spent our son's birthday looking through photos of him, and spent a lot of time at his spot at the cemetery. We had chairs, had lunch and talked about him and to him, and just spent the day remembering him. It was a hard day, I won't lie, but we tried to let ourselves feel whatever we needed to feel.
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    issytex12issytex12 member
    Thankyou guys i havent really spoken about it at all so all this is new to me. We are doing lanterns hopefully on saturday if the weather holds out. I couldnt bring myself to bury him so ive got his ashes in my bedroom i just stare at them i cant let go of them yet im not ready :(
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    NoeliaVNoeliaV member
    I am so sorry for your loss of your dear, sweet Noah. I'll be thinking of you and sending you ((( hugs ))) as his birthday approaches.
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    Samuelismomma Samuelismomma member
    So sorry for the loss of your sweet Noah:( welcome and good luck..
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    KMW08KMW08 member
    I'm sorry for the loss of your precious Noah. I believe pregnancy & infant loss grief is an area where there's really no right or wrong. however you need to cope to get you through is just fine and you don't have to ever feel like you're 100% ready to move on.

    I haven't experienced a late loss, but even being an early loss momma I've found that the fear of loss never truly goes away. I remind myself daily there's nothing I can do to jinx this pregnancy, this is a new and completely different pregnancy than my others, and I'm thankful to be pregnant again.

    I think the lanterns are a beautiful way to celebrate Noah's birthday. (((Hugs)))

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