Miscarriage/Pregnancy Loss

Babies everywhere. Except for me

I miscarried on 10/2. Since then, I have had multiple friends announce their pregnancies, all of which have been trying for a while. I am happy for them, but I cry every time I hear about it. And now I'm planning my sisters baby shower and having a head time. I'm just so upset and angry. I wish my boyfriend understood, but unfortunately he won't. He's been amazing, but I feel that you'll never understand unless you've gone through it. =\

Re: Babies everywhere. Except for me

  • My sister in law is doing her embryo transfer next week and that's all she talks about. Im right here with you ((hugs))
    Met 10/27/2006 & Married 6/7/2014
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    BFP 12/31/2014 | EDD 9/13/2015 PLEASE be our RAINBOW

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  • I am so sorry for your loss. (Hugs)

    There really do seem to be babies everywhere. It is tough.

    Me: 31 DH: 36
    Dated Since ‘02, Married in ‘06
    BFP#1 05/16/06, EDD01/16/07, MC 06/12/06 at 8 weeks
    BFP #2 08/14/14, EDD 04/22/15, MC 09/17/14 at 9 weeks

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  • I feel the same way. It's everywhere! TV, friends, celebrities. It's so hard to not feel jealous. I'm even thinking about getting off Facebook for a while
  • I'm in the same place. I hate being jealous but I also find it hard to understand why so many are getting take home babies and I am not. I may also need to take a hiatus from Facebook... But I'm here with you all and sending hugs
  • I'm so sorry :(
    It makes me sad that people are announcing now, because that was suppose to be me... But nothing against them!

    Our time will come and it'll be amazing. Stay strong, girl.
  • I'm feeling the same way. Two of our friends had their babies this week. One of my close friends is due at the end of the month. I'm having such a hard time right now talking to them. We were going to announce next week to close friends/family and another friend just announced today she's expecting twins. I'm just really struggling right now. I'm sorry you are too and sorry for your loss.
    Me: 32 DH: 32
    Met: 4/25/2004, Married 8/14/2010
    Off BC 1/2013 TTC (actively) since 5/2013
    5/2014 started testing with RE, me:  HSG normal, normal AMH, no cysts; DH: great sperm
    Unexplained IF + unexplained anovulation (post-pill vs hypothalamic)

    7/2014 Clomid (monitored) + TI: BFN
    8/2014 Clomid (monitored) + TI: BFP #1: 9/12/2014, EDD 5/22/2015, MMC 10/11/2014 8w1d
    11/2014 Clomid + Novarel + IUI 12/5/14: BFFN
    12/2014 Comid + Novarel + IUI 1/3/15: ???

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  • I called my mom crying today for the exact same reason. I honestly cant take it anymore and feel like I am going totally insane because its nothing but babies babies babies everywhere.

    Hugs to you <3

    Me: 31 DH:28

    BFP: July 6 2014. Ectopic discovered at 7 weeks. TTC since February 2014





  • I'm right there with you. My BFF and I were supposed to have our babies together. We were due 2 weeks apart from each other, but now my baby is gone. I haven't heard from her since the day I told her I MC'd. Not sure which hurts worse, her silence or knowing that she is pregnant and I'm not.

    This is my situation except my bff keeps giving me advice about my MC while she celebrates her baby. I know she is sad for me but I dont need to hear her advice. I know she means well but I cant handle it... dont know what to do...
  • I am right there with you! The day my DH and I found out about the miscarriage we were at home and decided to watch a Modern Family rerun to relax and take our minds off it. It just so happened to be the episode where Gloria finds out she is pregnant. -_- It seems like every where I turn I see a baby or pregnancy. Just wanted to let you know you aren't alone! Babies have been everywhere for me too!
    Me: 29  H: 30
    Married: 4/27/13 
    BFP: 9/16/2014 * EDD: 5/25/2015 * M/C: 10/29/14 @ 10w2d 
    BFP: 1/25/2015 * EDD: 9/27/2015 * DS: 10/3/15
    BFP: 1/13/19 * EDD: 9/28/2019

  • So sorry for your loss. I've had similar experiences to many of you. My BFF fell pregnant about 3 weeks before me but I miscarried early. I decided to throw her a baby shower. I then got pregnant again and had another loss about two weeks before her due date. I wasn't there for her when she had the baby because I just couldn't handle it. I still feel bad about that, but she is a good friend and I think she understands. I do think her mom and sisters might be mad at me, which I don't really think is fair.

    Yes, pregnant women are EVERYWHERE. They are even appearing on TV shows that aren't about family or otherwise connected to babies. It's driving me nuts.
  • Hi Ladies I Haven't Posted In A While We Are Getting Better As Time Goes By. I Saw This Post Below On This Board From 2009 And It Still Holds True. We Do Love Our Own Babies That We Lost But Can Also Joy In Others Blessings As Well. As You Go Through This Holiday Season Find Some Good Thing To Remember Or Focus On If You Start To Feel Overwhelmed. We Will Get Through These Times. :-)

    Verse for the day... "I praise you Lord, for being my guide.  Even in the darkest night, your teachings fill my mind." Psalm 16:7

    Thought for the day...  Life throws us curves all the time.  And forks in the road.  And roadblocks.  In those times, we turn to the Lord for direction.  And in his time, in his way, he gives it if we can hear it.  God's guidance shows the way that leads us to true life.  It will always come when we need it most if we are open to hearing/seeing it.  Wait for God, even if the night seems dark.  He will give you everything you need, when you need it.   by Peter Wallace

    A blessing for you all today...

    A Blessing for My Friends
         Father, I ask you to bless my friend reading this right now!
         Lord, show them a new revelation of Your love and power.
         Holy Spirit, I ask You to minister to their spirit at this very moment.
         Where there is pain, give them Your peace and mercy.
         Where there is self-doubting, release a renewed confidence in Your ability to work through them.
         Where there is tiredness, or exhaustion, I ask You to give them understanding, patience and strength as they learn submission to Your leading.
         Where there is spiritual stagnation, I ask You to renew them by revealing Your nearness, and by drawing them into greater intimacy with You.
         Where there is fear, reveal Your love, and release to them Your courage. 
         Bless their finances, give them greater vision, raise up leaders and friends to support and encourage them. 
          I ask You to do these things in Jesus' name!
         In Christian love,  Your Friend in Jesus.  Amen.
  • Thanks ScienceMama, thanks for your prayers, I just went through it and it's very difficult for me right now but it's well in my heart, because I know that God makes everything beautiful at His own timing. God bless you all and may your desires of your hearts come true. ..
  • I know how you're feeling. I just had my first MC last week and have felt so heart broken ever since and now it seems that everywhere I look, I see pregnant ladies, or commercials about babies etc.
    Out of the handful of gfs I have told, only one has experienced a MC...and I truly believe that you don't understand it unless you've gone through it. Try not to feel down about your bf not understanding. Men are different, grieve differently and handle situations differently. Take all the time you need to heal. XOXO
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