I met an older woman at the playgroundyesterday. Upon first look I would have said she's about 50. She was there with three young girls, I'd say 5yo, and her husband, probably 70/75. we were chatting and i asked her if they were her granddaughters.
LO has taken to turning her hands up in an "I don't know" shrug gesture that she picked up from me. If she's mildly confused, it's one hand turned up, palm open, like a one-sided shrug. If she's really confused, it's both hands. It's so expressive and really amusing.
I mentioned previously that I was struggling not only with the depression that had become my status quo but also with a crisis. It was an event that kind of stopped my world from turning and set DH and I against each other.
Now DH says he might want a temporary separation. I asked him to decide by tonight so I can start planning either way. FX he doesn't leave. I already have too much work and too little support--that's what caused my problems, which caused our problems, in the first place.
On the upside, I decided to delay completing my masters and move up my flight home by 3 weeks mostly because I don't think I can make it the 6 weeks I was planning to do. Honestly I hope I can hold it together for the remaining 3. I'd like to leave right meow but there's still too much to do (sell, pack, ship, etc) to get out faster than that esp if I have to do it alone.
I have a sweet pt today that is on an inhaler type drug that is apparently very dangerous for pregnant women. I went in and gave him his other meds (I don't administer respiratory medications) and after I come out of the room, the respiratory therapist tells me that I should probably stay out for another hour or so to let the medication dissipate from the air. Awesome. Here's hoping it wasn't enough to hurt mini-pinks!
H has been fighting with the mechanic anout his truck tire they messed up. All this started 2+ weeks ago. It took me 2 days to get things done and fixed and free to us.
I have a sweet pt today that is on an inhaler type drug that is apparently very dangerous for pregnant women. I went in and gave him his other meds (I don't administer respiratory medications) and after I come out of the room, the respiratory therapist tells me that I should probably stay out for another hour or so to let the medication dissipate from the air. Awesome. Here's hoping it wasn't enough to hurt mini-pinks!
It took me a minute to realize that pt=patient. I was like "sweet potato?"
Don't worry - I am sure they just want you to be extra cautious. I am sure your little pink is fine!
LOL, yeah, I have a tendency to assume that everyone knows my nurse abbreviations.
Thanks for the reassurance. I think it'll be fine too. There's just always that nag in the back of your mind, though, ya know?
@Amjoy25 , you'll notice I said he was a sweet patient. This is pertinent information bc the charge nurse gave me the option to switch patients, but by that time the damage was already done and I figured, nah, I'll keep my sweet guy over an unknown. #nursesknowwhatimtalkingabout
Andplusalso, my OB said It was fine for the rest of the day.
@Amjoy25 , you'll notice I said he was a sweet patient. This is pertinent information bc the charge nurse gave me the option to switch patients, but by that time the damage was already done and I figured, nah, I'll keep my sweet guy over an unknown.
#nursesknowwhatimtalkingabout
Andplusalso, my OB said It was fine for the rest of the day.
Yeah it's a D, which means they still could give it to you if the benefits outweigh the risks of the drug. So, I wouldn't be too worried.
I usually just lurk but I need to vent today. We have very limited space for pumping in my office and there is a new mom that is pumping 3 times a day for almost an hour each time. How can she pump for an hour?! My nips would fall off. The rest of the moms have to stalk the room to try to catch it when it is free. We also have a mom that will set up her pump in the room that just leave and expect no one else to use the room because she set up already. Not a big deal if I miss a pumping session but some of the other moms are pumping in their cars.
I know I am one of the few ones here still pumping but this is driving me crazy. I am going try to get DS on WCM soon.
DH says he won't leave us alone in St. Kitts--if I give him a weekend off to go to St. Marten and if we can go back to the US in 3 weeks instead of 6.
Done, DH. Now if only I could make you like me again too.
I feel like I missed something...you don't have to answer if it's too private, but I missing a piece of the puzzle here.
There is a reason he's upset with me, yes. And no, I'm not going to share it publicly. Suffice to say that he thinks my mistake is very big and all my fault, I think my mistake is not so big and not all my fault, and commence marital discord from there.
I am so sorry @huntjul ... I've been down that path. Worrying about making someone like me again. Thinking what I've done is so terrible, I have to make it up to this person over and over again. But please don't put yourself through that stress. It doesn't work like that. Either he will come around or he won't. Your main priority is take care of yourself, and your next priority is take care of your LO. He will have to decide what he wants, no matter how scared you are that he is going to leave. But you ARE strong enough to get through this, no matter what happens.
I usually just lurk but I need to vent today. We have very limited space for pumping in my office and there is a new mom that is pumping 3 times a day for almost an hour each time. How can she pump for an hour?! My nips would fall off. The rest of the moms have to stalk the room to try to catch it when it is free. We also have a mom that will set up her pump in the room that just leave and expect no one else to use the room because she set up already. Not a big deal if I miss a pumping session but some of the other moms are pumping in their cars.
I know I am one of the few ones here still pumping but this is driving me crazy. I am going try to get DS on WCM soon.
Wow. Sounds like have one entitled lady on your hands! I would talk to whomever is in charge about the one who sets up her pump all day. And I hear you on hour long pump sessions. I pumped for 15 minutes 3 times a day. I like to be very supportive of new moms pumping because everyone was so supportive of me, but a girl recently asked me to watch her patients and said, "I'll be back in 45 minutes." I was surprised, and a little concerned about my ability to care for 10 pts for 2.5 hours (combined) that day...
@Amjoy25 , @baconface , @cdhaslag, thanks guys! You really have made me feel better. Even though I know logically that mini-pinks is in no real danger (and if this had been anyone else's worry I would have told her she was fine) I was really more concerned than I'd like to admit. Having others confirm that this is no big deal makes me feel much better. ((Smiley hugs to all)) (since my emoticons don't appear to be working, lol.)
I usually just lurk but I need to vent today. We have very limited space for pumping in my office and there is a new mom that is pumping 3 times a day for almost an hour each time. How can she pump for an hour?! My nips would fall off. The rest of the moms have to stalk the room to try to catch it when it is free. We also have a mom that will set up her pump in the room that just leave and expect no one else to use the room because she set up already. Not a big deal if I miss a pumping session but some of the other moms are pumping in their cars.
I know I am one of the few ones here still pumping but this is driving me crazy. I am going try to get DS on WCM soon.
Wow. Sounds like have one entitled lady on your hands! I would talk to whomever is in charge about the one who sets up her pump all day. And I hear you on hour long pump sessions. I pumped for 15 minutes 3 times a day. I like to be very supportive of new moms pumping because everyone was so supportive of me, but a girl recently asked me to watch her patients and said, "I'll be back in 45 minutes." I was surprised, and a little concerned about my ability to care for 10 pts for 2.5 hours (combined) that day...
Just to offer perspective-it took me 45 min to pump too (no matter what I did). My boobs hate the pump. Now she may be taking advantage- IDK. But some women take longer to pump than others.
I do understand this, and like I said, I try to be supportive. It's just very difficult in the fast paced, high stress environment we work in to comprehend having two and a half hours of "free time" in a day...
My random- I have a cleaning service coming on Fri to clean for DD2's birthday party on Sun. I'm nervous because it was one of those Groupon deals that have a lot of bad reviews. I've done another cleaning service deal that also had a lot of bad reviews and it turned out great! I'm afraid I won't have another good experience and I really do not have the time to clean right now.
i'm thinking of bribing her with a $20 tip.
Tip her upfront. I do that on vacation instead of waiting until the end. People work harder when they already 'know'/got tipped.
I usually just lurk but I need to vent today. We have very limited space for pumping in my office and there is a new mom that is pumping 3 times a day for almost an hour each time. How can she pump for an hour?! My nips would fall off. The rest of the moms have to stalk the room to try to catch it when it is free. We also have a mom that will set up her pump in the room that just leave and expect no one else to use the room because she set up already. Not a big deal if I miss a pumping session but some of the other moms are pumping in their cars.
I know I am one of the few ones here still pumping but this is driving me crazy. I am going try to get DS on WCM soon.
Wow. Sounds like have one entitled lady on your hands! I would talk to whomever is in charge about the one who sets up her pump all day. And I hear you on hour long pump sessions. I pumped for 15 minutes 3 times a day. I like to be very supportive of new moms pumping because everyone was so supportive of me, but a girl recently asked me to watch her patients and said, "I'll be back in 45 minutes." I was surprised, and a little concerned about my ability to care for 10 pts for 2.5 hours (combined) that day...
Just to offer perspective-it took me 45 min to pump too (no matter what I did). My boobs hate the pump. Now she may be taking advantage- IDK. But some women take longer to pump than others.
I do understand this, and like I said, I try to be supportive. It's just very difficult in the fast paced, high stress environment we work in to comprehend having two and a half hours of "free time" in a day...
...she says as she mobile bumps from work...
I am hoping three hour lady is just taking advantage, otherwise I just feel sorry for her having to pump that long every day just to feed her LO. That is one dedicated mama. And there is no one really "in charge" of the rooms so there is not much I can do about the lady that just leaves her pump. I really think the problem is with our facilities department it is a huge office and we do not have a dedicated room for pumping, we just have to hope of of the few rooms without a window to the hallway is free. On the plus side I get to meet the other moms while waiting for a room.
I am done venting now. Thanks for listening. I should not complain, I am really lucky I have been able to pump for this long.
I stepped in Noodle pee again tonight. I wish the damn vet will get back to me with his blood and urine results to I know if he is just old and peeing himself or if there is a real problem. <<adds more paper towels and Clorox spray to grocery list>>
Is he going in the same spot? Clorox spray has bleach so the ammonia smell that is left behind that he can smell might be triggering him to go in that spot again.
@huntjul I understand that you say you "did something horrible" that has put your marriage in jeopardy and your DH is obviously giving you ultimatums. I can only guess what you did, but while whatever you did may have been wrong, your DH shouldn't be putting all the blame on you. You clearly are in trouble and you have been expressing concerns for a long while now. I think while you need to seek help individually, you also need to seek help within your marriage, as well. Please take this me offering advice and not coming across as rude, because I'm not trying to be at all. I just feel like he's really putting a lot of extra pressure/stress on you that isn't needed by placing 100% of the blame on you, and not trying to understand what you're going through.
I usually just lurk but I need to vent today. We have very limited space for pumping in my office and there is a new mom that is pumping 3 times a day for almost an hour each time. How can she pump for an hour?! My nips would fall off. The rest of the moms have to stalk the room to try to catch it when it is free. We also have a mom that will set up her pump in the room that just leave and expect no one else to use the room because she set up already. Not a big deal if I miss a pumping session but some of the other moms are pumping in their cars.
I know I am one of the few ones here still pumping but this is driving me crazy. I am going try to get DS on WCM soon.
Is there any way you can start a shared schedule (online or on the door/room)? This is how we have to do it at work and throughout the 4 months I was pumping at work there would be entire months where the schedule was completely filled. We had 30 time slots, which although was too short for me in the beginning I learned to deal with.
We cannot do a schedule because we don't have a dedicated room for pumping. We have phone room which can be any employee that needs a room for a private matter. We tried complaining to facilities, their solution was just to put a note on the door asking people to keep the room free for people who need it.
@huntjul I understand that you say you "did something horrible" that has put your marriage in jeopardy and your DH is obviously giving you ultimatums. I can only guess what you did, but while whatever you did may have been wrong, your DH shouldn't be putting all the blame on you. You clearly are in trouble and you have been expressing concerns for a long while now. I think while you need to seek help individually, you also need to seek help within your marriage, as well. Please take this me offering advice and not coming across as rude, because I'm not trying to be at all. I just feel like he's really putting a lot of extra pressure/stress on you that isn't needed by placing 100% of the blame on you, and not trying to understand what you're going through.
((HUGS))
@afolske106 - no, it's true, I know it wasn't 100% my fault. For months I kept asking, asking, and asking for DH's help, trying to get him to understand the severity of my situation all to no avail. DH not answering my cries for help led me to do what I did. But in his mind, he is blameless, and I'm afraid to explain otherwise for fear of causing a fight which will hurt me more than just accepting the blame.
Now he finally understands (I think) how precarious my mental state is. However at this point he is still doing more damage to me than help. It's getting less bad, but he's definitely pushed me closer to the cliff instead of pulled me away from it.
He and I will remain in therapy separately for the next 3 weeks until we leave the island and then will probably take a 2-month hiatus from therapy over the holidays as we'll be living temporarily with my parents. We are going to separate to some extent after going back to the US as we routinely do, visiting our respective families. When we go to TN we may choose to do couples therapy if the problems haven't blown over. I should probably remain in individual therapy also, but I suspect by then I'll choose not to.
Re: hump day randoms
She said no.
"They're my daughters"
I bolted to the other side of the park.
LOL, yeah, I have a tendency to assume that everyone knows my nurse abbreviations.
Thanks for the reassurance. I think it'll be fine too. There's just always that nag in the back of your mind, though, ya know?
#nursesknowwhatimtalkingabout
Andplusalso, my OB said It was fine for the rest of the day.
I know I am one of the few ones here still pumping but this is driving me crazy. I am going try to get DS on WCM soon.
I do understand this, and like I said, I try to be supportive. It's just very difficult in the fast paced, high stress environment we work in to comprehend having two and a half hours of "free time" in a day...
...she says as she mobile bumps from work...
BFP: 1.19.2013 - EDD: 10.2.2013 - It's a girl! 9.25.13: Welcome Addison!
...she says as she mobile bumps from work...
I am hoping three hour lady is just taking advantage, otherwise I just feel sorry for her having to pump that long every day just to feed her LO. That is one dedicated mama. And there is no one really "in charge" of the rooms so there is not much I can do about the lady that just leaves her pump. I really think the problem is with our facilities department it is a huge office and we do not have a dedicated room for pumping, we just have to hope of of the few rooms without a window to the hallway is free. On the plus side I get to meet the other moms while waiting for a room.
I am done venting now. Thanks for listening. I should not complain, I am really lucky I have been able to pump for this long.
We cannot do a schedule because we don't have a dedicated room for pumping. We have phone room which can be any employee that needs a room for a private matter. We tried complaining to facilities, their solution was just to put a note on the door asking people to keep the room free for people who need it.