CPW: Funeral/Rosaries

srcr2011 · October 2014

If you are not close to the family or person who passed (EXAMPLE:acquaintance's/co-worker's/church member's family) do you make an appearance, pay your respects to the family before service starts and leave, OR do you sit through the entire thing? Either way, they don't see you stay/leave.

ETA: Words for clarification. Hope it helped.

Alygohome · October 2014

I only go if it is close family/friend. I live an hour away from most of the people I used to know and I wouldn't drive in for a funeral if I didn't know the person well. I would send flowers though, or my parents go to lots of the people I went to highschool with and bring flowers on my behalf

jennjilljo · October 2014

Alygohome said:
I only go if it is close family/friend. I live an hour away from most of the people I used to know and I wouldn't drive in for a funeral if I didn't know the person well. I would send flowers though, or my parents go to lots of the people I went to highschool with and bring flowers on my behalf

This. Or I go to support someone that I'm close to. If a closer friend wanted me there to help them through then I would go.

jaztastic · October 2014

Im trying to understand the context here... why are we going to funerals for strangers? Or are you saying like if a coworkers mom died, would go to the funeral?

Going with the latter, I usually attend the viewing or wake, not the actual funeral. Or I would send a card to the funeral home.

srcr2011 · October 2014

jaztastic said:

Im trying to understand the context here... why are we going to funerals for strangers? Or are you saying like if a coworkers mom died, would go to the funeral?

Going with the latter, I usually attend the viewing or wake, not the actual funeral. Or I would send a card to the funeral home.

Yes, for an acquaintance's/co-worker's/church member's family.

Dannylion24 · October 2014

For acquaintances and/or a family member of a friend my preference is to attend the viewing and offer my condolences in person to the family as well as send a Masscard (even if they aren't catholic). If ther person is family or a close friend I will attend funeral and of course graveside and reception as well if I'm part of the 'inner circle' (I don't know how to word that better) of mourners.

srcr2011 · October 2014

@sugahcookie01 I agree!

MrsRoy07 · October 2014

For most people in this category, I wouldn't go to the funeral, I would make an appearance at the wake to pay my respects. If the person who passed was a family member of a close friend and I do go to the funeral, I would stay for the whole thing, like when my best friend's grandma passed away.

maryxc1 · October 2014

I'm with most PP. I usually just go to the visitation.

srcr2011 · October 2014

So here is where the CP question came from. A church member's grandfather passed away. This person is a frenemy but more on the friend part? I don't know, it's weird, but it's still sad to lose a loved one. Anyway, the viewing was 6:30-7, rosary started at 7. We arrived at 6:45, gave our condolences and I was ready to leave. DH is not close this person as well. He refused to leave and insisted we stayed for the rosary (it hadn't started yet, we could have still left). We left DS and we told the sitter we would not be gone long. We we ended up standing for the entire thing. I was annoyed and I know that's selfish.

triplej9 · October 2014

sugahcookie01 said:

If it's an acquaintance, I'd attend a VIEWING to support the family or friend I was closer with. For instance, I have gone to viewings for students of mine who have lost parents. I would not attend the funeral for them, however, as it seems inappropriate since I didn't know them well.

WERE I to attend the funeral, though, I would stay. How could you leave early??? That's what viewings are for.

This is everything I was going to say.

infinity092813 · October 2014

I usually only go to a funeral of someone I know or to support someone I'm close to (i.e death of family). If for whatever reason, I happen to go to a funeral of someone that I don't know at all, I stay for the whole thing. My take is, go for the whole thing or not at all. . .I'm not a celebrity "making an appearance" at someone's funeral.

psychobutthead · October 2014

depends on what we are invited to. also whether we were close to the person matters also. if we werent close i make an appearanc pay my respects then get the hell out of there.

Koukonei · October 2014

I voted SS because if I am not close to the person that passed and/or close with the family, I don't go to the funeral period. However, if I was attending, I would stay for the entire thing.

chicagojackie · October 2014

If you're not that close you can hit the wake and give your respects there. I only attend funeral/graveside services for persons that I am close to or to support close friends/family. You cannot show up at a funeral or graveside and then not stay---so tacky. Go or do not go. There is no try.

mahalo3 · October 2014

My husband and I are actually going to a funeral on Monday for our very close friend's dad. There is not a wake or a viewing, as he was cremated. We are staying for the whole thing and going to the reception after to be supportive of our friend. His wife and his sister and I are close. I would say for an acquaintance, go the wake of viewing or go the funeral and stay for the whole thing. I think it would be rude to say hello and hten leave.

srcr2011 · October 2014

krysmill · October 2014

I think you have to do what your comfortable with but depending on how well you know the person I feel a card is the thing to do if you don't know them that well. I've never been a big person on going to funerals of people I do not know. So I usually send flowers or card.

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