How Did you girls do it in the beginning?

beaner628 · January 2009

I am so nervous this time around. I need to stop taking tests and just go with the flow. I am going for my first betas after work around 4:30. I keep thinking its not real and every time I have to pee I am praying that is all I see.

moniquitta · January 2009

Believe me, that first stretch is a tough one. I kept lots of pg tests handy. I did not have many symptons in the beginning either so I was a nervous wreck. We have mantras here... I dont know if you saw them or not (they are posted in the google groups pages), but keep those in mind. Most importantly, just take things one day at a time. Also, we are here for you... we have been there as well.

SaraBobby · January 2009

I am STILL a hot mess! I wish I could relax a bit but I just can't. I don't know if/when it gets better.

honeybeee · January 2009

I'm not out of the woods yet, but what has really helped me is to not obsess. Don't POAS, don't keep charting, etc. Nothing I do will prevent another m/c. I really obsessed with my m/c pg so this time around I'm just trying to go with the flow. I know that is easier said than done! I did have my betas and progesterone levels checked, and that helped me feel more positive.

mmcrocker · January 2009

The best way is to take it one day at a time and count your blessings each day. You'll have your ups and downs and it will get easier. Hang in there!

ava_belle · January 2009

I set milestones and still do!

soon2bRoubinek · January 2009

I still worry about what I might find on my tp. I just went day by day and prayed for the next milestone to come quickly. I liked getting my betas because it was reassuring to see those numbers double.

beaner628 · January 2009

Thanks ladies. You are right about the milestones and just taking it day by day. I am going to stop taking tests as of today and just count my blessing that we did get PG again. Today is my first round of betas, so I will set my eyes on getting the confirmation this is real and getting a great beta number. Thanks for the advice.

bamfs · January 2009

It is so hard in the beginning, I just tried to remember that this pregnancy was different and a new chance. I always checked when I wiped and I was constantly praying that I wouldn't do anything to hurt the baby. I got symptoms pretty early and after I started throwing up everyday, it was kind of a comfort. I also got a doppler at around 10 weeks and found the heartbeat right away, which was great!

cladac17 · January 2009

The beginning was very hard. The mantras do help, remembering that every pregnancy is different. I just tried to focus on each milestone and just take it a day at a time. It also helped to have a u/s at 6wks, 8wks, 10wks, and 12 wks. I had them all for good reasons but basically just don't be shy to talk to your dr and let he/she know if you really need reassurance. I didn't buy a doppler and maybe some of the ladies that did can comment on whether or not it helped them. Looking back I do wish I had gotten one.

LindseyS0504 · January 2009

I feel for you, Maggie. I totally know how you feel. For that first couple weeks I was traveling internationally for work, so I was SO nervous that it wasn't real or something was going to happen. I took a test nearly every day. I will admit, the first 12 weeks or so are tough - like you feel like it's all too good to be true. Keep setting milestones for yourself. Little by little, you'll have reassurances: good betas, the first time you see the heartbeat at the u/s, the first time you hear the heartbeat, etc. Then, it get REALLY exciting. I know that everything is going to be a-okay with you. I'm so happy for you.

Gregsbride22 · January 2009

It's SO hard those first few weeks, I almost drove myself crazy. I can't tell you how many pg tests I took too! I won't lie to you, time seemed to go by slow, and I think being on the nest is the only thing that kept me sane. Hugs and email me if you need anything!

dmsmth · January 2009

It's difficult. But I didn't let myself think ahead farther than the next test. Which helped. Each thing was no more than 2 weeks apart. So I basically lived in 2 week increments. Beta #1, beta #2 a week later, first appt 1 week after that, u/s 2 weeks later, got my dopper 10 days later, second appt 2 weeks later.

Just keep im mind my past does not dictate my future.

flygirl4ev · January 2009

Girl! I'm there with you! This board has given me a lot of strength with all the womens support though! But know your not alone!!

nellieboo · January 2009

I'm not sure, it's all a blur now I blocked it out

I took tests for a week after my BFP....took a lot of deep breaths...came on here for support. And basically tried to ignore that I was pregnant until our 7 wk appt. I didn't have much for symptoms until 6 wks, when I started puking. Even though it sucked, it made it a bit better knowing baby was doing it's thing! Also, set up a ticker, and set milestones. It seems like it takes forever, but it does help to see time tick away. GL, I'm sending prayers this is it for you!!

MrsRoehl_2008 · January 2009

Each day without spotting (which is how my m/c started) I considered a milestone accomplished...especially at the beginning. It's so difficult, but you need remind yourself constantly that this is a new pg. It's hard to shake a good pg and hard to save a bad one; so I prayed like crazy that that it was a good pg and preemptively for the grace to be a good mom, which I think helped my mindset.

NelyBelly · January 2009

Those weeks sucked! I actually took a nest break from time to time - even for afew days and that helped me feel a little more control of my life. Definitely keep yourself busy . . .hugs, and you WILL make it through to the other side.

yosemite · January 2009

Day by day. The time does pass, but it feels unusually and painfully slow. Best of luck!

Daisy22 · January 2009

I really didn't breath until week 13 and that was after 2 u/s and finding the heartbeat multiple times on my doppler. It's tough and everyone here knows how you feel. I posted on here a lot and really leaned on the others that were at the same week as me. Also take it one day at a time. You are pregnant now and your past doesn't dictate your future. I said those over and over again.

damissus · January 2009

My first pg was so short that I had told myself if I ever get pg again to savor every day with your baby. I know it is nervewracking but with every milestone you hit and symptom you get you bond closer and closer... It does get easier day by day. Glad you're here!