Mental Health Check in

lancomechica · October 2014

I'm losing it. Yesterday and this morning I had stress manifest in ways I haven't seen in years (crying/rage).
I need a day away from work, school...life in general.

What are some destressers that I can partake in (besides etoh) this weekend?

Anyone else wanna check in and let us know how you are feeling mentally? Anything you are doing differently to reduce stress?

rondokye · October 2014

>:D<

Sounds like you could use a break. Any chance that you can take a personal/mental health/sick day and spoil yourself?

I'm hanging in there. Just came out of a very busy and stressful couple of months with travel, weddings, work, etc. The work thing is still stressful but there is nothing that I can do about that. Hopefully, a new job will open up for me soon. Until then, I'm just trying to take care of myself - sleep, eating right, exercising when I can. DH gave up one of his activities so that I could take a weekly painting class. Didn't really have the money to do it but it was the best thing that I've done for myself in a long time.

giraffeluvspi · October 2014

PEDICURE!!! Sitting my ass in a massage chair, sipping a PSL, and getting pretty feet always helps me. Add on a design so you can look down and see something pretty for extra smiles.

I'm doing much better than I was a few weeks ago. I went off the pill, started seeing a counselor, and things are looking up. I'm not 100%, but DH keeps making comments about "You wouldn't have done x, y, z a few months ago." That is good to hear, but also heartbreaking when he makes comments when I am playing with Sully and he says "You didn't do that all summer."

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Going off the pill has had it's challenges, though. For example two months in a row now during prime time we keep losing condoms. It is like divine intervention, I can't explain it. We used this method for YEARS and never had an issue. I'm just not ready to join the spreadsheet yet and want to send all this "luck" to all the J13 Mama's TTC.

My other issue is work. I keep mentioning it on here, but I'm just trying to decide what I need to be happy. Full time? Part time? WFH? SAHM? I don't know. Currently with my FT job we are on track to buy a new house soon and retire at 55. Is that important to me? Or would I rather stay in my feels too small house and have more time as a mommy? I'm in deep soul searching mode over here.

Thanks for posting a check in @lancomechica :-* I hope you get some much needed R&R. You are due a mental health day for sure. I see those airport check ins!

KikiCohen · October 2014

Hugs, momma! You definitely need a day to yourself (or even an afternoon). I agree with the suggestions of a mani/pedi. You could even take a book to a park bench and well.... park it.

I lost my cool this morning too. The spotting was the final straw. I'm worried about whether or not P will need surgery again. I'm terrified that we'll lose this baby. If we do, I seriously don't think we'll be able to be around DH's family for a long time with all the babies due next year. And our families don't even know I'm pregnant.

DenverBride2005 · October 2014

So sorry you are maxed out with stress, mama! Is there any way you can take a day off? I know sometimes that feels like you'll fall behind with work and be even more stressed, but maybe you'll come back to your work somewhat refreshed and re-energized? I vote mani/pedi, massage, nap, warm bath? GL and I hope it gets better soon!

stephyfaith · October 2014

Hugs mamas!! I agree trying to take a moment to do something that you enjoy alone and just decompress.

I've been struggling off and on with needing to feel necessary other than as a mom/wife. My previous job where I worked from home part time and went out part time was really good for me because I love feeling like I'm making a difference and that I'm needed for something more than just being a SAHM. I haven't worked since May and it's been really hard for me. A small part time project has become available to me that I'm working on this week which is great so I'm hoping that more of those come up or I can find something else. I admire SAHMs but I just don't know if I'm cut out to be one right now...

I'm also feeling a bit stressed about TTC later this year since my cycles have been consistently 25-26 days since the beginning of the year and I'm not ovulating until day 16/17 which makes my luteal phase very short and I've been reading on how that can cause trouble TTC. My periods were always 29-31 days before I had DD and well now I'm down to one ovary so I can't help but wonder how things are going to go.

Tl,dr: I miss working. I'm nervous about TTC.

jennipalmer · October 2014

I have been ok but busy the hard part is when I am not busy. Yesterday I did literally nothing except play and nap with Liam until DH came home. Today I am busy so I am more functional. Luckily my immediate boss is a good friend because I didn't get fired when I had a panic attack.
I have checked out from you guys for awhile might explain some of the blah....I miss the bump

karen0477 · October 2014

Big hugs to everyone struggling right now....

I agree with just taking some time. For me there's nothing better than just being alone in my house, kids at school, baby at daycare and do my nails and watch tv.....I took Friday off work to do exactly that!! Between work and family and nanny issues, it's all just piling on this week.....I've gone back to my job after 14 months off and it's taken me 6 weeks to even figure out all the changes and the huge shift in atmosphere....the job I love is the same, the people are not.....makes me sad.....

kaylakim · October 2014

Hugs you guys! I postedabout this last night in the spam. I really need a pedi and a day off. I'm thinking of taking a mental health day next week when I have to go to town for an eye appt. I might just leave the kids at daycare for part of the day and do something for myself. it's just that work and house stuff is something that can't always wait. It's hard for my type A personality to let things go, even for a day.

lancomechica · October 2014

Hugs all!! I am looking at talking to someone. I think it will help prevent further meltdowns for me.

emandia · October 2014

I feel like I'm right there with you. I started running/walking after work everyday with my sister and it helped soooo much. Then I hurt my ankle a few weeks ago and haven't started back up. I can tell my self esteem, my tolerance and my energy has all gone wayyyy down hill. I feel like shit.

That's it. I'm running tonight.

fabk · October 2014

My mental state is strained. New job is super stressful and super busy. I should have at least a full time receptionist and a much bigger pay check.
Home life suffers because I am still adjusting and Alex keeps getting sick.
Last night saw an epic fight between mh and I.
I also turn to food when stressed which doesn't help my weight loss goals.
I just need to unwind just a smidge and breathe deep for awhile.jix

lancomechica · October 2014

>:D< >:D<
To all of us.

lovemyminions · October 2014

Huge hugs to all the ladies struggling.

Stina2012 · October 2014

Hugs @lancomechica‌! Call me if you need anything or a night out!

You are superwoman with all that you have on your plate!

cuterusaurus · October 2014

Hugs for all of you. I am in a bad place, and I just can't shake it. I feel like I'm in a constant fog, waiting for it to lift. Very similar to the newborn days, but without the support like it was then.

lancomechica · October 2014

>:D<

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