DH... GRRR

cmcc5 · October 2014

So my Dh has been annoying the living daylights out of me. I am so sick... and I still feel like I have to do everything. I really think hes trying but I just want to punch him... I dont feel well and can still run circles to get things done around the house. Hes like a lost puppy and grrrr..... just aggravates me. My DD woke up 3 times last night- did he get up... NOPE. I pushed him bc I wasnt feeling well and he didnt budge. I had to go immediately bc she has started to try and climb out of crib. This morning I told him and he said "sorry, I didnt know or hear you" GRR! And this morning he looked at me and said "This will be our last baby, I cant take you being so miserable and sick." I wanted to kill him... he cant take it... hes not the one with nausea and vomitting and taking to take care of a 2 year old all day and night bc he is a firefighter and works lots of 24 hour shifts. I just needed to vent.... GRRR.

notquiteblushing · October 2014

Grr is right. I'm so sorry. My husband sucks with hearing our son in the middle of the night. I started putting the monitor on his nightstand and turning it way up. Just tell him you need your rest right now and it's his responsibility to get up with your daughter on the nights he is home.

bumpuser8130818 · October 2014

My H is the same. He doesn't understand why I can't just pull it together to do all of the things I am "supposed to". He's like, well you worked last time. Yes, but I was miserable at work too. It just doesn't even occur to him that maybe he should volunteer to make dinner sometimes or take DS to do something so I can just get a break. Really annoying.

Ladymouse · October 2014

Right there with you, but DH is pretty responsive when I start getting irritated. (It was building for about a week here.)

triplezelle · October 2014

I've been battling an upper respiratory infection for 3 weeks now and feel like shit. My 11 month old son spiked a fever over the weekend and was sick too, yet, my husband left for the whole day yesterday to go golfing with his friends. When I laid into him for it - he was confused because I didn't tell him he shouldn't go. If I had told him, he said he wouldn't have. Can my husband be that oblivious??!! grrrr is right.

lalamomma · October 2014

I can totally relate. Totally. I'm not sick yet (It started week 7ish for me with DD) but if its like last time he will not have choice but to help. I was sick all the time.

kimmarie1105 · October 2014

I don't think it is fair to assume that any man can relate to the woes of 1st trimester. Its just not explainable. I also recognize that men are wildly different from women. They are not intuitive. They are not mind readers. They don't know the ins and outs of running things, no matter how involved they are. Its just not fair to bash them for not "knowing" they should or shouldn't do something. They need to be told, specifically what it is you expect. You want them to get up more MOTN, then tell them that. Dishes need to be done, just ask. Don't want them to go golfing, then say so. Isn't this the cardinal rule with men? I'm very specific with my husband. He appreciates this and it avoids a lot of aggravation on my end, and his!

shibby00 · October 2014

You have to tell them what you want them to do. Of course they don't get it, how could they?! Be open and honest about what you need, it's much better than building up resentment.

effthisnoise · October 2014

@kimmarie1105, that's my thought, too. If I'm too nauseated to cook or move from the couch, I tell him. If I need him to get me something, I ask him. Even prior to pregnancy, that's how we've worked. If I ask him to do something, he almost always does it just as I always try to do what he asks, too. I'd love it if he could read my mind, but I don't expect it.

btay136 · October 2014

If my DH keeps grabbing my boobs I may get violent

beemaya83 · October 2014

Sorry to hear that your DH is being so annoying. They really don't get it and I don't think they have a clue on how bad we physically feel. I can understand that he is working long hours, but he has a job at home too!

Schnurette · October 2014

Ugh yes all of that plus DH keeping me awake with his coughing and snoring.

I am pregnant, I think by rights I should get the bed but somehow I ended up sleeping on the couch in the basement...then when DD woke up in the morning he STILL didn't get out of bed, even though she had gone into the bedroom and talked to him. I came upstairs when I heard her walking around and she was just standing beside the couch in the livingroom...in the dark...by herself.

C6091 · October 2014

So glad of this thread. Didn't want to make my own!!

My partner has drove me nuts tonight. Came home in a mood and told me how I wasn't doing enough in the relationship. I should try harder to make it into work ect. I am trying but I'm bloody tired and feeling sick ect. I'm not the only one here. Oh and sex at night is now one sided as he wants to sleep so I raped him?. He seemed like he enjoyed it. He made me feel like he didn't care. Even though I know he does. So hurt I retaliated by saying if you don't care about me then you don't care about our unborn child. Bitchy I know. He has since apologised and I said I would try harder. It's a stupid argument. We haven't technically made up yet. Our prides are still hurt. He is working on his diy project in the bathroom (sulking) whilst I'm tidying up the living room. Hopefully he'll come in and cuddle me. I'm stubborn. I don't want to give in first.

C6091 · October 2014

btay136 said:
If my DH keeps grabbing my boobs I may get violent

OMG this. He grabs them too hard and I'm like OW!!!! He doesn't seem to think how sore it is. What would he do if I grabbed his nuts really hard! Roll on the floor in agony is what!!

beersandweirs · October 2014

C6091 said:

So glad of this thread. Didn't want to make my own!! My partner has drove me nuts tonight. Came home in a mood and told me how I wasn't doing enough in the relationship. I should try harder to make it into work ect. I am trying but I'm bloody tired and feeling sick ect. I'm not the only one here. Oh and sex at night is now one sided as he wants to sleep so I raped him?. He seemed like he enjoyed it. He made me feel like he didn't care. Even though I know he does. So hurt I retaliated by saying if you don't care about me then you don't care about our unborn child. Bitchy I know. He has since apologised and I said I would try harder. It's a stupid argument. We haven't technically made up yet. Our prides are still hurt. He is working on his diy project in the bathroom (sulking) whilst I'm tidying up the living room. Hopefully he'll come in and cuddle me. I'm stubborn. I don't want to give in first.

Anybody else bothered by this?

I am sure you didn't actually rape him, but it's not really funny to joke about either.

kmvincek1 · October 2014

My husband was trying to not let me eat out of the non matching bowls in the kitchen because he doesn't like that they don't match... Seriously. Not sure if he picked his battle right on that one.

Ladymouse · October 2014

karenmarie1 said:

My husband was trying to not let me eat out of the non matching bowls in the kitchen because he doesn't like that they don't match... Seriously. Not sure if he picked his battle right on that one.

(in response to your husband, not you.)

kelseygaona · October 2014

So I came home sick from work today (which I never do!) But I was absolutely miserable! I text my husband to let him know and he calls me... "hey, stop at walmart and get me another gallon of paint"... are you f*ing kidding me? I said I am sick! Of course I was short with him and was like fine. Got home gave him his shit (only to find out he didn't even work today) and laid down. Told hubby "you have to pick up LO!" And he did, he also went and picked up my nausea medicine that doc called in for me! Thank god for zophran... feeling a little relief!

C6091 · October 2014

jcox62084 said:

beersandweirs said:

C6091 said:

So glad of this thread. Didn't want to make my own!!

My partner has drove me nuts tonight. Came home in a mood and told me how I wasn't doing enough in the relationship. I should try harder to make it into work ect. I am trying but I'm bloody tired and feeling sick ect. I'm not the only one here. Oh and sex at night is now one sided as he wants to sleep so I raped him?. He seemed like he enjoyed it. He made me feel like he didn't care. Even though I know he does. So hurt I retaliated by saying if you don't care about me then you don't care about our unborn child. Bitchy I know. He has since apologised and I said I would try harder. It's a stupid argument. We haven't technically made up yet. Our prides are still hurt. He is working on his diy project in the bathroom (sulking) whilst I'm tidying up the living room. Hopefully he'll come in and cuddle me. I'm stubborn. I don't want to give in first.

Anybody else bothered by this?

I am sure you didn't actually rape him, but it's not really funny to joke about either.

I think she is just frustrated .. Not good word choice but I get her point

That's what he made it sound like. Sorry I didn't think about my insensitive word choice. I should have said it differently. I was just angry so I wasn't thinking when I was typing. He said it was one sided which was a ridiculous thing to say. He was just trying to get under my skin. Sorry if my post offended. I was just venting my thoughts on the argument

C6091 · October 2014

jcox62084 said:

beersandweirs said:

C6091 said:

So glad of this thread. Didn't want to make my own!!

My partner has drove me nuts tonight. Came home in a mood and told me how I wasn't doing enough in the relationship. I should try harder to make it into work ect. I am trying but I'm bloody tired and feeling sick ect. I'm not the only one here. Oh and sex at night is now one sided as he wants to sleep so I raped him?. He seemed like he enjoyed it. He made me feel like he didn't care. Even though I know he does. So hurt I retaliated by saying if you don't care about me then you don't care about our unborn child. Bitchy I know. He has since apologised and I said I would try harder. It's a stupid argument. We haven't technically made up yet. Our prides are still hurt. He is working on his diy project in the bathroom (sulking) whilst I'm tidying up the living room. Hopefully he'll come in and cuddle me. I'm stubborn. I don't want to give in first.

Anybody else bothered by this?

I am sure you didn't actually rape him, but it's not really funny to joke about either.

I think she is just frustrated .. Not good word choice but I get her point

I wasn't trying to be funny or poke fun at rape victims. I was just saying he made it sound like he didn't consent to it when he clearly did and enjoyed himself. He was just trying to get to me.

C6091 · October 2014

jcox62084 said:
I don't think you meant any harm.. No worries from me

Thanks for being so understanding (:

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