Just a quick one, I have a week old little boy and my family have been so supportive and I really do appreciate it, especially my mother as she minds him sometimes to allow me to tidy the house and bath etc and I have complete faith in her looking after him. However my MIL (well SO's mother as we're not married) is also overjoyed with her first grandson (the constant 'nannies boy facebook updates show that) and as she lives further away from my parents I think she's pushing to have him go to her house and eventually when he's old enough to sleep over but I don't feel comfortable with it for some reason, I mean my mother yeah I've seen her with my brothers children for 5 years who she always looks after and has to stay over night but I just wouldn't trust anyone else with him, am I being over the top or is this normal?
The main thing that has made me feel like I don't want her on her own with him for long is a conversation my mother had with her the other day that I didn't hear which went -
M - 'aw Freddie's eyes are a bit sticky'
MIL - 'some baby oil will sort that out'
M - 'no? Sterile water and cotton wool is all you can use'
This set alarm bells ringing and I feel awkard as I want to discuss it with my SO but I don't think it would go down well so I haven't mentioned it.
Also she has a dog which I don't feel is safe, one time I was at her house with my 3 year old nephew and he bit toast out of his hand almost biting him.
Basically am I being over the top with my concerns or would you also be wary? I'm not in any way trying to come across as ungrateful as I appreciate the support from everyone as my SO returned to work 3 days after the birth