XP from AP (crunchy, AP MoMs come in re sleep help with 15 mos olds)

CNYBride05 · October 2014

Our 15 mos old twins are waking and nursing more now than they were in the past. (I know this because they are soaking through their over nite diapers and pjs daily and never did before). I do not want to nite wean, but worry that sometimes nursing and sometimes not is confusing to them (and totally counter to behavioral science) so I'm at a loss as to how to partially nite wean. And additionally, we've read the Jay Gordon stuff and it appeals, but it's solely focused on night weaning a singleton. There seems to be a real lack of info/advice on AP sleep stuff and twins.

1. I'm worried about fragmented sleep for all of us. But especially the girls. They literally wake every 10-40 min from about 1am on. I am nursing every 2-3 hrs (trying for 3, ultimately hoping for 5...) but they are still waking and needing a lot of soothing back to sleep and my husband and I are completely wrecked.

2. How do I get from nursing every 2-3 hrs to nursing once MOTN?! Is a gradual thing or a more sudden approach better and how the hell do you do it with twins, sharing a room?

3. N is all of a sudden unable to be soothed in her crib, requiring being rocked and then very difficult to transfer back to her crib. What gives and how do we help her settle w/o picking her up?

Thanks!! If you made it this far, you are a trooper

Lyndsey13 · October 2014

We separated the girls early on, so they weren't in the same room. I had one okay sleeper and one terrible sleeper so that made it a little easier for me. I remember the time period you're in being difficult. The bad sleeper woke up many times a night and I was really tired for a few months. Usually the good sleeper slept through the night or woke just once.

They started nursing less during the day, which decreased my supply overall. When she wasn't getting much milk at night, she stopped waking so frequently. By 18-19 months she was sleeping through the night! We went from waking 4-6 times a night, to sleeping through the night in about a months time. I always nursed her when she woke up though. Its what she wanted and I felt like she knew what was best.

I'm sorry this isn't advice but I hope sharing my story helps. I always believed in doing what they needed. At 15 months, they don't have the ability to manipulate you. Every issue we've encountered has ironed itself out eventually. Now at just over 2, they both go to sleep very easily and stay asleep all night. They sleep 12 hours and take a 2 hour nap easily.

CNYBride05 · October 2014

Thanks @lyndsey13! We can't separate them due to space, so we need to work with them in the same room. I don't think it's manipulative, I hope my post didn't come across that way. I love nursing them and snuggling them, but the sleep deprivation is wearing on me - I haven't slept more than 3hrs at a time since July 18, 2013...

Lyndsey13 · October 2014

@CNYBride05. I did not mean that you think they are manipulating you. I was just trying to share my view. I very clearly remember going through a phase just like this but I was lucky and it was mainly only one of mine, not 2 at once. I just wanted to share that it ended on its own. (If you can just get to that point.) I'm very anti-cry it out but at that age I would let them cry for a little while. A lot of times they would surprise me and fall back to sleep on their own. I'm sure you've already tried it

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XP from AP (crunchy, AP MoMs come in re sleep help with 15 mos olds)

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