Blues and busy days?

Saragoeswest · October 2014

Has anyone noticed a correlation between busy days and baby blues? It was a great day but very full and I just have all the tears.

BreandMikewedding · October 2014

I have been busy since leaving the hospital and I cry several times a day. I'm trying to figure out if it's my hormones adjusting or pp depression. I'm struggling with irrational things like I don't want anyone else to feed my baby and I get upset that I haven't changed ds1 diaper because I can't lift him.

Saragoeswest · October 2014

@BreandMikewedding‌ that sounds really rough. I don't think you sound irrational at all. At least not from the things you mentioned. What's making you so busy? Hope you can get some rest and relief soon.

Emerald27 · October 2014

It totally makes sense that you'd have more intense mood swings when you're busy. You're recovering from birth! And enormous hormone shifts! On a busy day, you'll be much more tired and those emotions won't be in check at all. Normal, and probably a sign that if you can, you should be trying harder to take it easy.

I haven't been blue at all this time around, but the past few days I've had some brief bouts of anxiety. Like scary, awful intrusive thoughts that I have to rationalize away. I'm thinking this is pp hormone related, and if it persists, I'll mention it to the MW in a few weeks at my follow-up.

Saragoeswest · October 2014

@Emerald27‌ ugh, I had some anxiety today too. Mostly just the physical sensations of anxiety but yeah there was some crazy irrational thinking in there, too. Like worrying if there is something wrong with DD but not knowing it. Hope yours passes or your MW has something helpful to say.

lrobi13 · October 2014

I have all the worries. I have checked lo's temperature at least 4 times to today.

I also fear certain times of the day because I know they can be tricky. Busy days are hard on me because I don't nurse as often and it make me hurt and feel guilty.

I haven't had a crying fit in a couple of weeks so it does get better but it is still overwhelming.

BreandMikewedding · October 2014

@Saragoeswest‌ my mil decided that while she is here visiting she is going to do all her Christmas shopping so she doesn't have to ship anything. Not convenient for me since we are getting ready to move and I have to start packing everything within the next couple of weeks. Sigh! So she has been wanting to shop all day every day. Today I said I couldn't go shopping so it is now almost 9am and I haven't had dinner since there is nothing in the house to eat and everyone is gone.

I worry about anyone holding the baby and walking. Especially in stores. I'm afraid they will trip and drop the baby. Am I the only one having these thoughts?

swizz09 · October 2014

I have been struggling with the blues and like pp's mine is at night too. I feel guilty that DH is doing everything while I recover. Sometimes I worry if I will ever get time with DH again. I haven't really had a "busy" day yet, but DH goes back to work on Monday and I am stressed about it.

Saragoeswest · October 2014

It really is helpful to hear y'all are experiencing the same thing. I think crying is a healthy release but I feel bad that I have a new reason to be down every day. Yesterday and today were the worst but also the busiest. I'll watch out for that.

TheOtherJacobsons · October 2014

Sleep dep + exhaustion definitely leads to baby blues. Once I got super down because I thought about how some people harm their babies on purpose and then that lead me to think about how the baby needs that person for survival and has to endure it. I just held me baby close and cried. Completely irrational.

CynthiaVRey · October 2014

This post was meant for me to see. My baby was born two months early it's been rough now that she's home from nicu it's a hard adjustment I'm so tired and I cry a lot , not sure if it's pp. Today I looked around my house and thought omg this is it this is my life and I balled . Love my daughter so I'm not sure why I'm feeling this way

MrsL2B · October 2014

I get super frustrated so easily when trying to do anything right now. I wouldn't call it the blues, but I've definitely had several irrational meltdowns.

Jennifer18131 · October 2014

Nicb13 said:
My blues come in the evening, especially when I have to make myself nap because I feel like I'm missing out on time with my son. That's what makes me the most sad.

This was the main reason for my break down the other day. H has been wonderful and helping out every way he can but I'm the only one with boobs. When little man was constipated earlier this week he was on the boob every hour and a half for over 48 hours. I was exhausted. MIL came over and got him to sleep for us and H kept pushing me to go nap. I needed to go nap and it was best for me but I broke down because I wasn't getting the sweet snuggles from my baby, just the crying baby who was hungry or hurting. It's gotten much better since he's become a pooping machine.

slsl509 · October 2014

This newborn stuff is no joke. I have had many breakdowns over the last week, scary thoughts about dropping DS, sadness over DD who has been acting out which doesn't help, sleep deprivation, hyperactive guilt complexes about everything...etc

For most people it really does get better. I have depression and anxiety and have been medicated for 16 years. I was very worried about PPD with DD and am happy to say I didn't experience anything beyond the typical FTM blues/anxiety so I am hopeful that this time will be no different and that I will slowly adjust back to myself.

One thing that doesn't go away for me - the mom guilt. I now know why moms guilt us so much - there is too much mom guilt for one person so it has to be passed onto the children, LOL.

LightBright515 · October 2014

I think I have the BF blues. It's gives me a lot of joy and pride to be able to feed my baby, but it's overwhelming when she constantly wants to be on my boobs and I'm the only one with them.

And it makes me fear the moment when she won't be with me everyday, and somebody will have to calm her and it may not work...major anxiety about going back to work and abandonment since I work suck long days. I'm gone for almost 16 hours

Dani0329 · October 2014

I have less baby blues, and more anxiety. I'm not sure if it is normal new mom stuff or if I'm being irrational. Sometimes I can't sleep because I worry about SIDS, so I get up several times to make sure she didn't come unswaddled and have since started using the swaddlers. I cried when she actually had a tear come down her face during a fit and my sister and MIL looked at me like I was crazy. I think everything is just so new and it's scary to love someone so much.

kbjornaas · October 2014

I have the most anxiety when I'm not busy. It just gives me time to have my mind wander. Maternity leave is going to be so tough for me. It's great when I have family and visitors to take my mind off the blues. Also, I want to get out on order to stay busy but i have even more anxiety about the best way to prep for going out of the house on my own with him. Scared he will start crying in a store and I will have to run out! And I haven't driven with him her either.

megsandjohn · October 2014

I had postpartum depression with my first and postpartum depression and anxiety with my second. This time I started feeling those familiar feelings coming back and it was scary. A few weeks ago I was driving home and had this overwhelming fear of not making it home safely. I had to focus so hard on driving and getting my babies home safely. All the while holding back tears and feeling an overwhelming sense of dread. I also was getting overwhelmed at night and wanting to scream and swear and had the urge to hit myself

I started medication again soon after and have been having regular appointments with my psychiatrist and I'm joining a support group tomorrow. I have tried to put as many supports in place to avoid going through what I went through before. I've been feeling better with the meds. It's just overwhelming having three kids with little help from my husband and I feel like I'm not doing a good enough job.

TheOtherJacobsons · October 2014

@megsandjohn‌ you are doing a great job. Especially since you are taking steps to take care of yourself so you can be there for your babies.

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